My civil wedding ceremony thing is tomorrow at 10 am and I wanna make sure the family is there and etc cause it means a lot to me. But only family I have is my SO's side. And my sister in law who just recently got out of a two year relationship has been all in the zone lately and when I mean zone she's been out and hanging out with guys an going on lots of dates and has been about herself lately and my MIL who lives with her is such a sweet old Asian lady.
Well my SIL and MIL is meeting us at the mall so we could all meet and they follow us to the courthouse but my SIL wants my MIL to drive a different car to the mall so she could meet this freaking guy.
And we were like ok whatever. We will just drop her back off the mall cause my MIL is leaving her car there and riding with my SIL
Then my SO got a text from SIL saying "FOR FUUUUCK SAKES WILL YOU CALL MOM! She's been trying to get in touch with you"
And we are just confused and wth why did she talk to us like tht. Well my SIL in law said that my MIL didn't want to go anymore because she doesn't know how to get home from the mall.
And right there I'm annoyed because she didn't have to text my SO like that! And seriously she wants to go meet guys that freaking bad! And she wants us to take mom back she could at least be nice because THAT'S MY DAY! and I think it's rude and disrespectful to have your own mom hop from car to car.
We might as well pick up my MIL and take her with us. Instead of riding with SIL .
She texted back and said mom was getting flustered
Well she was flustered because she was confused. She didn't know who she was riding with or what car she was going in all because you wanna fuuuucking meet guys!
My SO was annoyed and replied "a simple problem that wa fixed easily. All you had to do was drive her back. "
And she replied well I had plans...
WELL THEN SHIIIIET DON'T COME!!!! if my ceremony is in the way do not come. I will take YOUR mom and she can be there for us.
Texting us like that was unesscesary !
Re: So freaking annoyed. I'm going to flip.
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i didnt say it was a problem bringing her back. i did say she didnt have to come at my SO like that. and that if my ceremony was a problem to her she doesnt have to come. but okay whatever you say (:
and to the asian culture. treating your parents like a dog isn't very respectful either so idk about you. and i'm more traditional than her.
Wait, why do you have two different screen names replying as the OP? I'm confused.
Hmmm. makes sense.
Seriously! Its not that big of a deal. I feel like you are always giving into your family drama and it seems this is all you post about.
It's time to grow up.
I think she's just in this party phase cause lately she's been tryin to go out in lots of dates and now all I hear is guys guys guys. And it's annoying but Idc about that part. I'm just annoyed she texted her brother like that and she couldn't take her mom home because she wants to meet a guy. I don't mind taking her home but that was just disrespectful.
Problem solved..?
Your SIL sounds annoying, but... really? Chill out, bro.
Um, my IL are Asian. Very very traditional. Suck it up and pick up your MIL. Your SIL is being an idiot but you are only responsible for you.
I was actually advocating NOT treating your MIL like a dog. If she is scared to drive home from the mall then you and your husband woman/man up and drive her home or something.
This foot stomping about, "omg it's MY WEDDING DAY! " is what makes you sound immature and selfish.
My MIL is super super traditional from Taiwan. She drives me insane, but I would still drive her home on my wedding day FFS. So, I'm not entirely sure where you are getting that I don't understand Asian culture. I'm married to a person raised in it and deal with it on the daily.
That is why I'm advocating that you be in charge of you, like an adult. Worry less about what SIL is doing or not doing. Your MIL won't care about that. She will care what her new DIL is not doing and believe me you will pay the price, not SIL.
I'm trying to do you a solid here.
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This whole post makes my head hurt.
Hope your SIL stops "coming at" your SO like that.
*nods*
I agree.
OP is an AW. All her post are the same...."poor pitiful me"... I'm not even going to address the grammar.
I always find it hilarious when someone gets mad at someone else for their own life being their priority.
sounds like you are all about yourself, OP, why can't SIL be all about herself?
I couldn't even read through this post.
All I got was "Blah blah blah whine whine whine."
Seriously. Why do you think any of us on the 3RD TRIMESTER board would care??
How is this an issue at all? Call your MIL and say "Hey Mom, we will pick you up at xx time and drive you home later, don't worry about SIL! If she makes it great, if not then we wont worry about it. See you then!". Good luck with your "civil wedding ceremony thing" that's soooo important to you.
FFS.