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September 2013 Moms
A37licia
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Who all will be at your birth?
A37licia
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Mobile: Who all will be at your birth? (later added: anyone in the waiting room?)
I'd do a clicky poll but the answers are so varied. Who do you plan to have there? This has probably been discussed but it's been a while.
This is our third, and I invited my mom to come this time to our home birth. So it'll be DH, my mom, doula, midwife, two apprentice midwives, and an amateur photographer-doula to get some pics. We got a free photog last time and loved the pics, even though she missed the actual birth (that was fine with me).
The first two kids, it was only DH and I with our care providers, and no family. That was my preference at the time, and I highly recommend that especially for your first! And...then I watch Baby Story and see 8 family members, including the mother's DAD, standing at the end of the bed with full view. Not my style. 
ETA: My MIL had begged to come to town to wait in the waiting room with our first, her first grandchild. I felt bad, but we put our foot down. Thankfully she respected that!
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Re: Who all will be at your birth?
Just me and DH. I'm not up for putting on a show for family and friends that have expressed interest in seeing my birth.
Of course there will be the routine nurses and our midwife there as well.
Mom to Cam and Al, now expecting baby number 3, August 2016. Praying for lots of sticky baby dust!
All of this for me.
Scheduled IVF for April 2013--SURPRISE, don't need it! DD Born 9/7/13
Ectopic pregnancy Sep/Oct 2014 ended in surgery, and many trips to the ER
Miracle #3: EDD 11/28/16
DX Diminished Ovarian Reserve, Factor V Leiden Mutation, Secondary Infertility
MFI (SA #1Count 11mill, Motility: 18%, Morphology: 1%)
AMH .328 | FSH 13.2
DH, midwife, doula, one nurse at the birth center or several nurses if we deliver at the hospital.
I still haven't decided what to do with DD during the birth. DH and I finally had "the talk" last week, after the whole zoo incident with his idiot parents, so we are on the same page and he finally (it wasn't pretty at first) respects my wishes to NOT have his parents alone with her at our house. So most likely his parents will be with her at our house if she is sleeping (ie. I deliver at night) or they will have her in the waiting room. I get stressed thinking about what might happen with just those two situations and I'm not brave enough to allow any other options.
I might have missed your story...is that from previous trauma, or is something difficult expected with this baby?
Labor: DH and my Mom. possibly my sister might stop in
Delivery: DH or my Mom. I'm only allowed one, and if DH is getting queasy he'll "tap out" and my Mom will come in until he composes himself.
Never mind - I'm sorry I missed your siggy. I'm sorry for your previous loss and can't wait to hear a story from you in September of a beautiful birth of a healthy baby! And wow, today is the same gestation with his baby as your sweet baby Aidan when he was born. That's a beautiful name, btw.
"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all." -- Dale Carnegie
"Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time." --Thomas A. Edison
This exactly! My fianc? is a mommy's boy, I also invited my sister if she can make it. I did tell them they had to stay above the head though