Initially I was obsessed with DS only being in DC 8 hours a day (viable only because DC is in our neighborhood and I WFH). After nursing diminished to 2X a day I have been slowly creeping toward him being consistenly in DC 9 hours a day at least 3 days a week. I have 7:30 AM calls and 4:30 PM calls. I declined these previously, with the permission of my boss, but now need to get back into the swing of things. I feel somewhat guilty, as sometimes on these days I also throw in some laundry, clean up one of the kids' rooms, etc. I end up working 9-10 hours a day total between mornings before the kids are up and evenings after they are down. I just cannot shake the feeling that I should still be rushing to get him. Some days I COULD finish at 3 and work more at night - but I generally do not. Par of that is related to DS' schedule - picking up early interrupts nap or snack, both of which displease DS.
So really, this is two questions....if you have flexibility, do you use it? How do you set up the balance between work (which gladly fills every hour I do not make available)....and life? I feel like I work constantly, and when I am not working am rushing through kid craziness like dinner, bath, outside play, etc.
And how long is your child in DC each day?