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August 2012 Moms
bigbootyjudi
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UO
bigbootyjudi
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I'm not spending 100 dollars on a sweater, regardless of how long it lasts. Over 30 dollars and you've got a big fat "not happening" from me.
Target, FTW!
Target, FTW!
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SCANDAL!
SCANDAL!
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By the Ahole husband !!!
I feel like, if you don't spend money on yourself very often, it's okay to splurge, ooohh lets say, every 6 months or so.
I wish I'd spent that grand on myself instead of someone who is acting pissy and a little ungrateful.
Dammit.
I love you a little more everyday, BBJ !!!
Take another piece of my heart 3
I agree, BTDT.
After the boudoir picture discussion I decided that it would be a good gift for DH for our anniversary. So I found a photographer I really liked in my price range. While scrolling through her Facebook page I saw a post that said "I don't get why any woman can post a picture of her breastfeeding her baby but if my pictures show a little nip I get reported. Ugh maybe that could be considered offensive". I immediately called and canceled. I just can't support someone who thinks like that.
Ha I went to the dr one time with strep and the nurse said something about getting my weight. I just looked at her and said, "I already feel bad enough, so no thanks." We skipped it that day
I way prefer cheap wine and cheap beer over the fancy stuff. Gimme a Coors Light and bottle of Lucky Duck any day of the week.
Literally any day. This week's been nuts. DD turned into a grumpy dinosaur.
So, if going to a daycare, your kid was in a room with 1:4 ratio, would you only expect to pay 1/4 the price? Because you know, LO is only getting 1/4 of their attention.
I was trying to figure out how to respond to this, but Halvorson took the words right outta my mouth. I think that's ridiculous. Since when does someone watching 2 kids equal half the attention....because she probably can definitely only pay attention to one kid at a time while the other stands in a corner and waits his turn.
That is absurd.
I wish there was a "Brilliant" button on TB...
Or a "kiss you in the mouth" button, I'd use the hell outta that thing !!!
Dunkin Donuts is way better than Starbucks for 2 major reasons.
1. Bagels
2. Lemonade Coolatas.
Starbucks is NOT a substitute for Dunkin. It's apples and oranges.
Thank you Halvorson. Seriously, I am a SAHM who watched two kids this spring and I should have charged double because they made me want to drink twice as much. ridiculous.
Aw Mel, I'd always kiss you in the mouth. Big, fat, slobbery baby kisses.
This is usually my general consensus on clothes shopping. Though Tarjay clothes don't fit me too well, I'm too short and wide. But, if I can find a good deal for a well made piece of clothing, I'd rather pay a little more. I also have no problem buying second hand. I wish I had the money to drop $100 on a sweater!
Yep, yep, yep.
Since I have 4 kids, with 1/4 of my attention a piece, I have no other pieces of the pie left !!!
So, the bigger problem is, my kids eat all the pie. They really do.
Little micro shiits!
ETA: Sorry in advance for taking over the UO thread, guys.
:: jumps up and down, waving arms wildly ::
Umm, can I be your family daycare?
I'm very family oriented?
We eat pie?
Just the idea of slurping fruits and vegetables out of a bag... No thanks!
This just pissed me off for a few reasons. I mean by now y'all know I used to be in child care and I watch babies at my house now, so to say I shouldn't be paid the going rate is absurd. I don't know if you realize what the going rate for an at home care is sosoph, but it's not anywhere near what it is for a center like less than half. And, what does it matter if they have their own kid there, or another family is paying for care too? Unless you pay for a nanny, your kid isn't going to get 100% of anyone's attention. I'm sorry to say, but this is also good for kids. It teaches them to play and entertain themselves. I'm guessing your child doesn't get your full 100% attention all day, every day when at home, am I right?
I mean really, i know this is the UO thread, but you comment is so off.
Family daycare does not equal SAHM.
ETA what I mean by that is the price points aren't the same. The rates for a daycare, in home daycare, SAHM and nanny are all different. If a SAHM expects to be paid
Lame azz excuse.
Go fix it !!!
We are interested in what you have to say.....
Go.
If I nanny share, I pay half the price, the other family pays half, so it's the same to me. It just happens that the nanny is a SAHM.
I guess I started thinking about it this way: in-home care charges x per child per week. That's fair. But, if your child is one of them, you can't pro-rate your take home pay over the other three families.
If everyone else wants to pay full price for their kid to get half the attention, that's fine by me.
A nanny and a SAHM are two completely different things. More kids do not equal half the attention. Do you only have one child?
What a nice thought.
Is this for real? So my SIL who has two kids and watches 3 others in her home daycare AKA her JOB, just like it wouldbe if a SAHM watched another child is only entitled to 3/5 of her pay from each child? You should spend a day in her shoes, see what she deals with, and then you will realize how silly that statement is.
I don't think I know the difference between family care and SAHM babysitter. It's all in-home care with other kids, right?
If I were sending my kid to a situation with a 1:5 ratio, I'd expect to pay a rate that reflects this. Same for a 1:2, or a 1:1. Isn't this why types of care all cost different amounts? If it's her JOB, why does she bring her kids for free?
SOSOPH- I am a SAHM who will babysit, but I am NOT a family daycare. I never take more than 3 extra kids, because I am a parent first and am not willing to sacrifice the ability to get out of my house at any time. I am not registered, but if your kids were at my house they would get sensory play, home-cooked meals, free play time, story time at the library, and trips to the park. All of these things are things I do with my own kids. To get annoyed by me saying I only charge x amount makes you seem a little bitter.
Btw: I watched two kids this year, 3 months old and 14 months old when they started and I charged a whopping $3.15 an hour, total. I think that is quite an effing bargain and would have told the lady to eff off if she thought I deserved less because my own kids were home.
Oh my gosh, I agree with this. I haven't bought those pouches cause I just feel like its almost a laziness look to it. "Here kid, feed yourself." I mean, I know we let them feed themselves everyday, but its jelly! lol! It kinda reminds of the wall-E movie. I know, I make no sense. I just don't see them as appetizing either. That's probably the main reason I haven't bought them.
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The costs are all different. An in home daycare is licensed, required to do all the same thing as a center. These are generally a little less than a center. A SAHM is not licensed, and how many kids they can have varies by state. It's called FFN care or family, friends and neighbors. So in some states, you can have 2 kids that are not your own before you have to have a license, or some states are you can have as many extra kids, as long as they are from the same family. Each person charges different, it's based on your region, but generally a SAHM would charge around $30/ day. That equals about $3.75/ hour. This SAHM would make your child's food with their own and all that stuff with out charging extra (generally) where other places their is usually an extra charge, or the cost of that is included in the tuition, so it is a little more. To say they bring their kids for free is ridiculous. It's their own home. You are choosing to bring them there. And no, at a center if your child is in a 1:5 ratio room, your tuition does not reflect that. A tuition is a flat rate across the board. As your child gets older, the tuition generally goes down because the amount of care they needs is less, but the number of children per classroom per teacher also goes up. Like pre-k is generally a 1:10 ratio. If you want a smaller ratio, the center usually costs more.
Sorry for the run on paragraph and such, I'm nursing.
FWIW my DH would pitch a B&tch if I spent a grand on a present for him right now, we just don't have the money.
i'm feeling totally guilty about considering weaning 2 months early, but at the same time I just want to stop being sick (on mastitis round #5 right now)
we don't read nearly often enough. she's so happy playing I just forget to pull out the books for her.
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So, to clear the air, I am referring specifically to someone expecting $15/ and to bring her child. No way am I going to pay that for my child not to get undivided attention. Most people I know charge about $5/hr/child, so earn $15/hr, which to me is a reasonable arrangement.
In your situation, wouldn't you charge more if you were only watching 2 kids and none of your own?
If my kids were no longer home I would no longer be a SAHM, and would then be a nanny or a family child care provider. They charge differently. But I do not reduce the hourly rate for one family if I keep an extra child, or if my nephew spends the week with us
Well her kids do half days at preschool/3 days a week so that brings her back to JOB status instead of SAHM status since she isn't watching her own kids during that time so she should get some of the money back for that right? The amount she charges does reflect a 1:5 ratio, so it is a little offensive to someone who has seen her in action say that she should get paid less than the peanuts she already makes because her own kids are with her. Maybe I am making too much of this but your statement just really irked me.
Meh, it wasn't really "his" money. It was weekly allotted money for me, in our budget. He didn't even knew I had it. I save, a little here and there, cash back on groceries or from Target. Mad money or whatever. I'd been funneling that money away for almost a year. It was our honeymoon fund, since we never had one.
Since his boss paid for an all expense paid vacation for us this week, I thought it'd be nice to buy him stuff he actually needed. His wallet was falling apart. He needed work boots, tool belt, some hand tools and a job box. The only splurge item was a pocket watch that was from the babies, I got it on clearance and had it engraved.
He left this morning a little pissed, I texted him and told him where I got the money from and he didn't respond. I don't want him to feel bad, I just don't want him to be mad at me, for caring enough, to make his first Father's Day special.
End of spiel.