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December 2013 Moms
MEP923
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Are you telling anyone LO's name?
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I am stuck in bed with round ligament pain. It is on my left side so doc wants me to lay on my right side as much as possible until my next appointment tomorrow morning. So I am a little bored and started wondering if I wanted to tell people my LO's name
I think I will confirm baby's sex tomorrow but we are far from settling on a name. I told people my son's name as soon as we had it picked out. I liked being able to call him by his name. A part of me feels like I will just tell people to make it easier. I do see some positives in waiting though. This weekend, my family got into baby names and my sister (who probably can't even have more kids) says she loves the name Meadow. I said I liked Brianna. Before I could even finish by saying DH doesn't like it too much, she said "Oh that's pretty. I like that. Yea Meadow and Brianna are my names. No one pick them'' She did that to me with my son's name too. I used it anyway. Also, my MIL is an extremely negative person and I can see her putting thoughts in DH's head about the name being bad, no matter what we pick. I see positives and negatives in telling right away and waiting. So what are you ladies going to do??
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Re: Are you telling anyone LO's name?
Definitely not telling. So far, the only person who has been really irritated by it is my grandma. She'd also probably be the first person to say "oh I don't like that name" if we told. Go figure.
DH and I agree that we aren't interested in hearing people's (unsolicited) opinions on our choices, and since we aren't finding out the sex, each name only has a 50% chance of being used anyway.
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Also, we ended up changing Kirstin's name last min. She was almost named Hailey. So the less people to know the better.
Eta: We could care less about what others think about our name choices. Just like when they offer their input on anything else related to our children. They're welcome to talk until they're blue in the face, but H and I will still end up doing what we want.
I think you're right. I can laugh off my sister off but my MIL will make me really mad. DH and me are having enough trouble agreeing on a name. If she puts doubts in his head and we have to start again, I would be fuming mad.
When we picked out our DS name it seemed everyone had an opinion or something to say. This time around we are seriously considering waiting until our LO is born before we announce the name.
We're telling, because they're family names, we're 100% decided on both our boy and our girl names, and I couldn't give a flying eff if people don't like them. But they're not very out there, so it's less risky.
I just love being able to refer to the baby by name.
Me & H: 28 TTC #1 since 7/12...come on baby!
Tell if you're confident that you can stick to your choices regardless of what others say. Otherwise, I've only heard negative stories about sharing early.
We picked names at the last minute for both kids. Telling name choices early wasn't an option.
DH and I agreed really easily on a boys name, and I think we are pretty much 100% on it, so I have no problem sharing it. It's classic and honors family members, so whatever anyone says, I am sticking with it.
For girls names, we can't agree on anything. So I usually say, well, we are undecided. I'll throw out the ones I like that DH has vetoed, and the ones he likes that I have vetoed, but the ones that we are still weighing I don't share except with people whose opinion I respect (my parents, his parents, my best friend, my sister). I like to hear what they have to say. But DH and I are both pretty opinionated, so we are unlikely to be swayed by someone else's opinion.
We are waiting this time but so that we can surprise people when the baby is born. We are finding out the sex and will tell everyone that so we want to keep the name a surprise.
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It makes me cringe, too. Also not sure why. I think it's because until the baby is here, in my arms, I don't feel like it's real enough to call them by a name, even if we've decided on one.
Me too! Ever heard of the concept of death by committee? When an idea has to get approval from too many people it dies. Same goes for name choices. It's hard enough to get two people to agree. Add in some very opinionated family members and it sounds like a recipe for disaster.
we're not telling anyone. partially because we're team Green, so there will be more than one possible name on deck, and partially because we don't want to be influenced (or criticized) by other people's opinions. i'm 99.9% sure we've decided on our boy name (no MN yet) and we're both really excited about it and it's fun keeping that excitement to ourselves. i would be upset if someone close to us had a negative response to the name, and why bother with that when i still have 6 months to go?
also, i really doubt anyone is going to LOOK at our newborn and say "wow, what a weird name!" lol. much easier to just wait.
we're 100% sure of our boy name (2 family names) we have 1 front runner for a girl name. i've shared with both sets of parents when they ask. the reactions were mixed, but i really dont care. I'm one of those people that likes to talk through things i'm thinking about. I have a thick enough skin to blow off any 'not overjoyed' reactions, some people get really hurt feelings though.
now, if my MIL suggests that wheat consumption leads to autism one more time. . . . .
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Oh, me too, and I'm one of the ones who will be sharing my name. I won't put it on Facebook, though (I'm also not officially announcing my pregnancy there, either, so that's part of it). I don't mind sharing our name if people ask, but I'm not going to offer it out there to the masses.
Me & H: 28 TTC #1 since 7/12...come on baby!
LOVE the name Holly. Love it. Haters can suck it.
Me & H: 28 TTC #1 since 7/12...come on baby!
Thank you for all your answers. You've definitely made up my mind to wait. Now to convince DH.. and even harder, pick a name.
Thank you!