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Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months
lchitt
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19 Month advice please! I'm feeling awful!
lchitt
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My 19 month dd has gotten super clingy this last week. I'm a teacher and just got out for summer. I am trying to keep a routine which I think I'm good at. I think it's a stage or growth spurt but what do you think? She's clingy, throwing tantrums, and now the constant whining!!! That's driving me insane! She sleeps about 9 hrs at night w 2 hr naps. I wake her at 2 hrs bc I'm trying to keep our nights longer. What's your opinion on her behavior? What's your LO sleep schedule? I've got to find something to make this easier. I'm questioning if I AMA good mom.
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Re: 19 Month advice please! I'm feeling awful!
First off, stop beating yourself up. Every child goes through this. It SUCKS. Make sure you're getting some time somewhere for yourself so you can get a break.
As for sleep, she probably needs more. If you're having to wake her at 2 hours, she's still tired. Sleep begets sleep. Let her sleep. Once she catches up, she'll hopefully extend her nighttime sleep and go back to a normal nap amount. Though, it could also be that she's a long napper and sleeps on 9 hours at night. I'd try to get her caught up on sleep and watch her tired signs to see if you need to make adjustments to the starting times for naptime and bedtime.
Her wacky sleep and the rest can also be from teething. Does she have teeth coming in? Those can make her have all of those behaviors.
My Lo is 21 months so a little older. She is in bed at 7:30 most days. There is a "window of opportunity" (what my husband and I literally call it) and it usually closes by 8:30 where she either becomes wild and crazy or a crying mess over every little thing and takes forever to then get calmed for bedtime.
She is up anywhere between 6;30-7:30 am (so she sleeps between 11-12 hours at night). She is then up until after lunch and we put her down for a nap between 12:30-1. She can nap anywhere between 1.5-3.5 hours. I can't tell you the last time I woke her up from a nap. Usually if she wakes up on her own after less than that 1.5 hr nap she is a clingy crabby patty until bedtime.
For many kids sleep begets sleep. You didn't mention a bedtime, bedtime routine or specific nap times. Maybe you are keeping her up past her own personal "window" which is different for each kid. Or if you are waking her from her nap and then she's going to bed late she's overtired and has a hard time going back to sleep.
Good luck finding what works for her and for you. BTW...enjoy your summer...I am a teacher too and my "vacay" starts tomorrow. I'm lucky to be part time so I come home right in time for "nap" time each day to use as my school "prep" from home. But then I get her all to myself until my husband (who also teaches) comes home from school.
Same here! I think she's just relieved to see me all day.
I think it's just a stage/growth spurt. I am probably going to send DD to daycare one day a week just to give her some time to play and me some time to rest!
We've been slack this past week but I'm going to resume our normal schedule this week.
7:30-up
9:30-11 nap
1:00-3 nap
then down for bed about 8:30
Right there with you. We have had a few small changes in our life plus (and for us this is a big factor) she is teething. I wish those darn eye teeth would come through because I am tired of the clinging! It happens every time she gets a tooth. I want to comfort her, but I can't hold her 24/7.
7lbs 13oz 20 inches long
I gotta say, I thought our kid was one of those that would never go to sleep. At one year he would often stay up as late as 10 pm and we started bedtime at 8pm. One day I got tired of his whines and put him to bed at 7pm. He slept for 12 hours! A kid who had never slept more than 10 hours at a time since he was born.
Now bedtime is always at 7pm and he sleeps much better most nights.
DS is 18.5 and has become rather clingy recently. Mainly around new people, which we are interpeting as the whole "stranger danger" thing, or at least part of that.
He sleeps about 11 hrs at night, and then a 2 hr nap in the middle of the day.
But his teacher at daycare changed recently, and now he latches onto my legs or DW's legs when we drop him off. The center director can come in and detach him (as he knows her), but he really seems afraid of the new lady.
If there's a different, older kid in the room he does the clingy thing too. Someone he is familiar with has to come and take him for him to be comfortable.
He's find out in public when new people are around, it's mainly the daycare drop off that has been difficult that last week or two.
We're hoping it's a short stage, but we understand stages like this exist. We're just thankful the center director is so good with him.