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poppyseed1017 · June 2013

Scout2005:
FFTC: I probably wouldn't attend a dry wedding, unless it was family.
I think they're rude.
Don't get me started on cash bars.

One of my friends got married a month after M was born. I was so excited to attend and drink and let loose a little bit. We got there. Wedding was great. Reception was dry. We had no idea until after we were already there. We left after an hour. Lol.

Manda-Kay · June 2013

poppyseed1017:
I keep getting invited to dry weddings.Does it look like I want to go to a dry wedding?NO, THANK YOU.nbsp;

Who the F has a dry wedding? One of the venues we were looking at was a dry venue. It was quickly crossed off the list.

I also side eye a cash bar, especially one with no happy hour. What we did and I've seen other people do is open bar for beer, wine, and soft drinks since you pay by the keg and cash bar for cocktails. Cocktails at our venue you paid by the head even for those under 21.

beckyfarrelly · June 2013

ccam:
carolyn231723:
Speaking of invitation UO's... I don't like the new trend with thank you's. The past couple of weddings I have attended I received a picture thank you. Just a collage photo with the words "thank you" and a couple of wedding pics, nothing personalized. IMO, that's just lazy. The person attended your wedding and bought you a gift, you can at least write a little note to the person on the back of the picture.

Totally agree! It's rude. If I spend time and money on a gift, you can take 2 minutes and write me a thank you. I don't really care how many thank yous you have to write.

So get this.....I went to my friends daughter's 1st b day party last weekend. She didn't open the gifts while we were there, nor has she even acknowledged the gift we gave. No comment about it, no verbal thank you, no thank you card! WTF?!? Now that is rude! We also talk every single day so it's not like I haven't seen or talked to her since the party.

mamahawk12 · June 2013

This is probably more of a FFFC but I'll share anyways. We've had a pretty pathetic sex life recently... the other night I initiated out of the blue and DH was thrilled (to say the least)... afterwards, one of the first things that crossed my mind was "Poppy would be so proud". Time to step away from the board.

rp-chicago-mom · June 2013

beckyfarrelly:
ccam:
carolyn231723:
Speaking of invitation UO's... I don't like the new trend with thank you's. The past couple of weddings I have attended I received a picture thank you. Just a collage photo with the words "thank you" and a couple of wedding pics, nothing personalized. IMO, that's just lazy. The person attended your wedding and bought you a gift, you can at least write a little note to the person on the back of the picture.

Totally agree!  It's rude.  If I spend time and money on a gift, you can take 2 minutes and write me a thank you.  I don't really care how many thank yous you have to write. 
So get this.....I went to my friends daughter's 1st b day party last weekend. She didn't open the gifts while we were there, nor has she even acknowledged the gift we gave. No comment about it, no verbal thank you, no thank you card! WTF?!? Now that is rude! We also talk every single day so it's not like I haven't seen or talked to her since the party. 

Almost all tht first birthday parties I've been to don't have gift opening. I have never thought anything of it. Is that tacky?

Come to think of it, my nieces and nephews have friend parties at those birthday party places [indoor playgrounds and whatnot]. The facilities move the parties along and there's never a scheduled time for gift opening.

They always send thank yous though.

JayandEmm · June 2013

Manda-Kay:
poppyseed1017:
I keep getting invited to dry weddings.Does it look like I want to go to a dry wedding?NO, THANK YOU.nbsp;

Who the F has a dry wedding? One of the venues we were looking at was a dry venue. It was quickly crossed off the list.

I also side eye a cash bar, especially one with no happy hour. What we did and I've seen other people do is open bar for beer, wine, and soft drinks since you pay by the keg and cash bar for cocktails. Cocktails at our venue you paid by the head even for those under 21.

We did this for our wedding too.

And honestly, I'd much rather go to a cash bar wedding than a dry wedding.

beckyfarrelly · June 2013

Scout2005:
beckyfarrelly:
ccam:
carolyn231723:
Speaking of invitation UO's... I don't like the new trend with thank you's. The past couple of weddings I have attended I received a picture thank you. Just a collage photo with the words "thank you" and a couple of wedding pics, nothing personalized. IMO, that's just lazy. The person attended your wedding and bought you a gift, you can at least write a little note to the person on the back of the picture.

Totally agree! It's rude. If I spend time and money on a gift, you can take 2 minutes and write me a thank you. I don't really care how many thank yous you have to write.
So get this.....I went to my friends daughter's 1st b day party last weekend. She didn't open the gifts while we were there, nor has she even acknowledged the gift we gave. No comment about it, no verbal thank you, no thank you card! WTF?!? Now that is rude! We also talk every single day so it's not like I haven't seen or talked to her since the party.
If it's only been a week, I would hold off on the insult. If three go by without a note, okay.

I also didn't get a thank you note and anything from the 2 Baby showers I went to for her when she was preggo. We also talk multiple times a day, everyday and not even a mention of it. It just doesn't make sense to me!

poppyseed1017 · June 2013

meaknigh:
This is probably more of a FFFC but I'll share anyways. We've had a pretty pathetic sex life recently... the other night I initiated out of the blue and DH was thrilled to say the least... afterwards, one of the first things that crossed my mind was "Poppy would be so proud". Time to step away from the board.

So what you're saying is, you thought of me during sex?

Effing score!

Mrs. Rohde · June 2013

stephaniemthomas:
Mrs. Rohde:
stephaniemthomas:
I think it's a shame when people don't travel with their kids. I'm not talking about flying all over the world, but even just visiting the next state over. This country has so many beautiful places and such diversity that I think kids miss out if they're not exposed to that.
I agree that there are a lot of great places out there. There's a ton I haven't seen and would love to see. However, I'm going to wait until my kids are old enough to at least remember and appreciate them. I feel like visiting family or friends in different ststes is different than going to that particular place for a landmark or tourist attraction. They may remember seeing auntie and uncle but could give two shiits about where they were, KWIM?
I totally understand this. I'm not saying people need to travel the world with their infants and toddlers, but take your grade-school kids around and let them experience some things!

Definitely in grade school! I am so looking forward to taking trips with the kids

mamahawk12 · June 2013

poppyseed1017:
meaknigh:
This is probably more of a FFFC but I'll share anyways. We've had a pretty pathetic sex life recently... the other night I initiated out of the blue and DH was thrilled to say the least... afterwards, one of the first things that crossed my mind was "Poppy would be so proud". Time to step away from the board.
So what you're saying is, you thought of me during sex? Effing score!

Well... technically it was after. But yes. Score 1 for Poppy.

Crossingfingers · June 2013

Beckyfarrelly: I am absolutely not trying to make excuses for your friend, but until I moved away from my family, I had absolutely no idea that thank you cards were a thing. I NEVER remember my mom having us write them, or sending any herself. She doesn't value that at all. Maybe your friend had a similar upbringing?

Jnmac83 · June 2013

poppyseed1017:
DemoDoll:
stephaniemthomas:
I think it's a shame when people don't travel with their kids. I'm not talking about flying all over the world, but even just visiting the next state over. This country has so many beautiful places and such diversity that I think kids miss out if they're not exposed to that.

ITA!
Yes.
My husband's parents never took them anywhere growing up.  Anywhere.  The first business trip my H had to go on, he had to fly several states away.  He was 28 years old.  I was helping him pack and get ready.  He seemed nervous and I was like "What's wrong?  Been a while since you've flown?", and he goes "Uh.  I've never been on a plane.  Ever."  Like, what? 

I didn't fly until I was 23! I grew up with poor parents and 3 sisters. We went to FL when I was 10 or 12, but that was it. We just didn't have the money. I turned out fine. Lol.

I don't disagree with the sentiment, but some people can't even afford a weekend to a close city. Especially with more than one kid and a tight budget. We made do, but traveling didn't happen until I was much older and paid for it myself.

poppyseed1017 · June 2013

meaknigh:
poppyseed1017:
meaknigh:
This is probably more of a FFFC but I'll share anyways. We've had a pretty pathetic sex life recently... the other night I initiated out of the blue and DH was thrilled to say the least... afterwards, one of the first things that crossed my mind was "Poppy would be so proud". Time to step away from the board.
So what you're saying is, you thought of me during sex? Effing score!
Well... technically it was after. But yes. Score 1 for Poppy.

poppyseed1017 · June 2013

Jnmac83:
poppyseed1017:
DemoDoll:
stephaniemthomas:
I think it's a shame when people don't travel with their kids. I'm not talking about flying all over the world, but even just visiting the next state over. This country has so many beautiful places and such diversity that I think kids miss out if they're not exposed to that.
ITA!
Yes.
My husband's parents never took them anywhere growing up. Anywhere. The first business trip my H had to go on, he had to fly several states away. He was 28 years old. I was helping him pack and get ready. He seemed nervous and I was like "What's wrong? Been a while since you've flown?", and he goes "Uh. I've never been on a plane. Ever." Like, what?
I didn't fly until I was 23! I grew up with poor parents and 3 sisters. We went to FL when I was 10 or 12, but that was it. We just didn't have the money. I turned out fine. Lol. I don't disagree with the sentiment, but some people can't even afford a weekend to a close city. Especially with more than one kid and a tight budget. We made do, but traveling didn't happen until I was much older and paid for it myself.

I totally get that.

With my H, it was more just...his parents never wanted to go anywhere. They have always had the money, but just never thought it was necessary to go places. They're from teeny tiny towns in PA where their entire family still lives, so I guess they just never thought about it.

Both of my parents had fond memories of their parents taking them on road trips across the country to see the sights. That's why it was important to my parents that we travel early on.

ccam · June 2013

Scout2005:

JayandEmm:
Manda-Kay:
poppyseed1017:
I keep getting invited to dry weddings.Does it look like I want to go to a dry wedding?NO, THANK YOU.nbsp;
Who the F has a dry wedding? One of the venues we were looking at was a dry venue. It was quickly crossed off the list. I also side eye a cash bar, especially one with no happy hour. What we did and I've seen other people do is open bar for beer, wine, and soft drinks since you pay by the keg and cash bar for cocktails. Cocktails at our venue you paid by the head even for those under 21.
We did this for our wedding too. And honestly, I'd much rather go to a cash bar wedding than a dry wedding.

If I have to bust out my wallet at an event I'm supposed to be a guest at, I'm not happy. At all.

Agree 100%. Although I guess it's better than a dry wedding... which is pretty unheard of around here. Most people I know don't even get up to dance until they've had a few in them!

ccam · June 2013

beckyfarrelly:

I also didn't get a thank you note and anything from the 2 Baby showers I went to for her when she was preggo. We also talk multiple times a day, everyday and not even a mention of it. It just doesn't make sense to me!

There is no excuse for that!

twoitalians · June 2013

ashS10309:
Baker_Bride:
I judge parents who don't take their kids outside. I mean if you both work and the kid is with a nanny or DCP, take them out on the weekend. And the nanny better take them out.

I have a friend who never takes her son outside. Her H SAH and he doesn't take him out. I have a feeling they watch sports all day. That's unfair to the child. It's not like I'm watching my soaps all day...I do get in a Rachael Ray or food network show here and there but I take my kid out ffs.

I agree take them outside. If its not raining we are outside at least twice a day! He loves to be outside.

I confess. Some days I don't go outside and take DS. I feel like I have an excuse. 110 degrees outside. There is NOTHING fun or safe to do in that kinda heat except swim and even the pool gets old after a few days.

rp-chicago-mom · June 2013

Jnmac83:
poppyseed1017:
DemoDoll:
stephaniemthomas:
I think it's a shame when people don't travel with their kids. I'm not talking about flying all over the world, but even just visiting the next state over. This country has so many beautiful places and such diversity that I think kids miss out if they're not exposed to that.

ITA!
Yes.
My husband's parents never took them anywhere growing up.  Anywhere.  The first business trip my H had to go on, he had to fly several states away.  He was 28 years old.  I was helping him pack and get ready.  He seemed nervous and I was like "What's wrong?  Been a while since you've flown?", and he goes "Uh.  I've never been on a plane.  Ever."  Like, what? 

I didn't fly until I was 23! I grew up with poor parents and 3 sisters. We went to FL when I was 10 or 12, but that was it. We just didn't have the money. I turned out fine. Lol.

I don't disagree with the sentiment, but some people can't even afford a weekend to a close city. Especially with more than one kid and a tight budget. We made do, but traveling didn't happen until I was much older and paid for it myself.

We never had much money growing up and my parents made absolutely idiotic choices with the money they did have. It's something I feel like I missed out on as a child and want to make sure Howell has it better. We are pretty cheap normally but we do spend on vacation.

twoitalians · June 2013

ccam:
Baker_Bride:
Oh I have another. I cannot stand people who walk slow or who act like they can't park a block away from somewhere. It won't kill you, I promise I especially hate when a slow walker gets in front of me and I am stuck behind them. This is probably because my Mom walks so slowly and I spent my childhood waiting for her.

I hate when slow walkers walk right in the middle of the sidewalk!  I understand that a person might be slower (I do walk super fast) but at least move to the side!

DH and I call these people squirrels after the squirrels who would run down the middle of the cart paths at the golf course instead of running across them.

lady_tytah · June 2013

JayandEmm:
Baker_Bride:
JayandEmm:
I think FB e vites are tacky. I have never gone to any event that the invite was via FB, and I will never. If you can't take the time to send me a real invite, then I will not take the time to go to your party.

Like you want a paper invite for a BBQ? Paper invites waste paper.
If it's a super casual party, the least someone could do is call and tell me.

But I will not go to a baby shower or a birthday party if the invite was via FB. Or a wedding. That's even worse.

I got a fb evite to a friends wedding that we knew fromm, high school.

beckyfarrelly · June 2013

Crossingfingers:
Beckyfarrelly: I am absolutely not trying to make excuses for your friend, but until I moved away from my family, I had absolutely no idea that thank you cards were a thing. I NEVER remember my mom having us write them, or sending any herself. She doesn't value that at all. Maybe your friend had a similar upbringing?

Your could be absolutely right and I never thought of that. I could just be picking it out and making a deal out of it as she's been a really sucky friend lately!

smile50208 · June 2013

ccam:
carolyn231723:
Speaking of invitation UO's... I don't like the new trend with thank you's. The past couple of weddings I have attended I received a picture thank you. Just a collage photo with the words "thank you" and a couple of wedding pics, nothing personalized. IMO, that's just lazy. The person attended your wedding and bought you a gift, you can at least write a little note to the person on the back of the picture.

Totally agree! It's rude. If I spend time and money on a gift, you can take 2 minutes and write me a thank you. I don't really care how many thank yous you have to write.

My parents went to a wedding and gave a nice gift. The thank you they received was a pre-printed thank you for spending the day. With the bride and groom's names pre-printed. They couldn't even sign their own names! My mom approached the brides parents and gave them the riot act how rude and inappropriate it was. She also said she will never be giving another gift to that girl again ie baby shower, etc.

lady_tytah · June 2013

Scout2005:
FFTC: I probably wouldn't attend a dry wedding, unless it was family.nbsp;I think they're rude.nbsp;Don't get me started on cash bars.nbsp;

Our reception was dry but that's purely because our venue wad at a public park area so no alcohol. Our guests didn't seemed bothered.

Crossingfingers · June 2013

beckyfarrelly:
Crossingfingers:
Beckyfarrelly: I am absolutely not trying to make excuses for your friend, but until I moved away from my family, I had absolutely no idea that thank you cards were a thing. I NEVER remember my mom having us write them, or sending any herself. She doesn't value that at all. Maybe your friend had a similar upbringing?

Your could be absolutely right and I never thought of that. I could just be picking it out and making a deal out of it as she's been a really sucky friend lately!

Well, I still think she should be writing them, but maybe she sincerely doesn't know. I make my kids write thank you cards for everything lol!

smile50208 · June 2013

Cutting the quote tree..

About the 'Thank You' cards...

My brother and wife got married a year ago. They just went on a honeymoon for their 1st anniversary to the wineries in NY since she was pregnant at the wedding. My DH and I paid for their trip. We paid for the Bed & Breakfast, there was a bottle of wine with a note waiting when they checked in, etc. I got ZERO thank you. No text message, no phone call, NOTHING. I don't buy the how a person is brought up. My brother and I have the same parents and I know very well some sort of acknowledgment is required.

I voiced my feelings to my mom. She told me she sent them an envelope of cash to spend while on said trip. She had to ask them if they got it since she got no acknowledgement either.

Needless to say, I am rather upset with my brother and his wife.

JayandEmm · June 2013

Crossingfingers:
Beckyfarrelly: I am absolutely not trying to make excuses for your friend, but until I moved away from my family, I had absolutely no idea that thank you cards were a thing. I NEVER remember my mom having us write them, or sending any herself. She doesn't value that at all. Maybe your friend had a similar upbringing?

H had never even heard about thank you cards until after we got married. His parents never sent thank you cards, and still don't. Honestly, MIL doesn't even SAY thank you most of the time, I imagine it wasn't much different back then.

My mom sent/sends thank you cards for everything.

ks3pink · June 2013

Ok my two cents in some things:

My mom is 50 and has never been on a plane and probably never will. Same for my FIL who is close to 60.

If I'm home all day I will go for a walk, if I have to work there is no time and my babysitter can't get out with the boys because of her size. We live about 15 to 20 minutes from a park, I never went there for fun as a kid. I actually hated the park lol.

I haven't traveled much. A week in LA, a week in NYC, several beach trips and a week at Disney World. Nothing extravagant though. I don't feel like I've missed out. Not saying it wouldn't be nice, but I'm not gonna sit around and say I wish I had been.

I had never been to a wedding with alcohol until about 3 years before DH and I got married. I'd never been to a wedding that didn't have a reception at a church. Never seen a father daughter dance, or any dancing for that matter. We offered champagne at our wedding but that was it. We did have a DJ and did not have the reception at our church. We had a lot of family members on both sides strongly opposed to drinking and at the time I wasn't really a drinker either and since it was somewhat the norm not to have any alcohol we just went with champagne. If it hadn't been for my bartender MOH we probably wouldn't have had that. She bought the champagne and alcohol permit as well as plastic wine glasses. She definitely got a huge thank you and nice gift!

poppyseed1017 · June 2013

ks3pink:
Ok my two cents in some things: My mom is 50 and has never been on a plane and probably never will. Same for my FIL who is close to 60. If I'm home all day I will go for a walk, if I have to work there is no time and my babysitter can't get out with the boys because of her size. We live about 15 to 20 minutes from a park, I never went there for fun as a kid. I actually hated the park lol. I haven't traveled much. A week in LA, a week in NYC, several beach trips and a week at Disney World. Nothing extravagant though. I don't feel like I've missed out. Not saying it wouldn't be nice, but I'm not gonna sit around and say I wish I had been. I had never been to a wedding with alcohol until about 3 years before DH and I got married. I'd never been to a wedding that didn't have a reception at a church. Never seen a father daughter dance, or any dancing for that matter. We offered champagne at our wedding but that was it. We did have a DJ and did not have the reception at our church. We had a lot of family members on both sides strongly opposed to drinking and at the time I wasn't really a drinker either and since it was somewhat the norm not to have any alcohol we just went with champagne. If it hadn't been for my bartender MOH we probably wouldn't have had that. She bought the champagne and alcohol permit as well as plastic wine glasses. She definitely got a huge thank you and nice gift!

What does this mean?

Mrs. Rohde · June 2013

twoitalians:
ashS10309:
Baker_Bride:
I judge parents who don't take their kids outside. I mean if you both work and the kid is with a nanny or DCP, take them out on the weekend. And the nanny better take them out.

I have a friend who never takes her son outside. Her H SAH and he doesn't take him out. I have a feeling they watch sports all day. That's unfair to the child. It's not like I'm watching my soaps all day...I do get in a Rachael Ray or food network show here and there but I take my kid out ffs.

I agree take them outside. If its not raining we are outside at least twice a day! He loves to be outside.

I confess. Some days I don't go outside and take DS. I feel like I have an excuse. 110 degrees outside. There is NOTHING fun or safe to do in that kinda heat except swim and even the pool gets old after a few days.

At least with 110 degree days no one would fault you for not going out. That's too damn hot. If it gets above 80 for me I'm miserable and refuse to be out unless its to get to air conditioning or the beach. And even the beach gets old after a while too.

JayandEmm · June 2013

Mrs. Rohde:
twoitalians:
ashS10309:
Baker_Bride:
I judge parents who don't take their kids outside. I mean if you both work and the kid is with a nanny or DCP, take them out on the weekend. And the nanny better take them out.

I have a friend who never takes her son outside. Her H SAH and he doesn't take him out. I have a feeling they watch sports all day. That's unfair to the child. It's not like I'm watching my soaps all day...I do get in a Rachael Ray or food network show here and there but I take my kid out ffs.

I agree take them outside. If its not raining we are outside at least twice a day! He loves to be outside.

I confess. Some days I don't go outside and take DS. I feel like I have an excuse. 110 degrees outside. There is NOTHING fun or safe to do in that kinda heat except swim and even the pool gets old after a few days.

At least with 110 degree days no one would fault you for not going out. That's too damn hot. If it gets above 80 for me I'm miserable and refuse to be out unless its to get to air conditioning or the beach. And even the beach gets old after a while too.

Yeeeaah, we probably won't get out much in the heat of the summer. It gets well over 100 degrees here, and even the pool is warm.

LindsayDesigner · June 2013

poppyseed1017:
ks3pink:
my babysitter can't get out with the boys because of her size

What does this mean?

I think she is referencing her boys' obese grandma. She watches them and there had been some concern when she fell awhile back.

Our reception was dry but that's how we live so it wasn't a big deal.

AggieDaner · June 2013

LindsayDesigner:

Our reception was dry but that's how we live so it wasn't a big deal.

I think Mormons and Southern Baptists get a pass here. If you're going to a reception for either one and you think there will be alcohol, you're a silly goose who deserves your accidental sobriety.

LindsayDesigner · June 2013

AggieDaner:

I think Mormons and Southern Baptists get a pass here. If you're going to a reception for either one and you think there will be alcohol, you're a silly goose who deserves your accidental sobriety.

This made me giggle. A lot.

melmarie26 · June 2013

AggieDaner:
LindsayDesigner:

Our reception was dry but that's how we live so it wasn't a big deal.

I think Mormons and Southern Baptists get a pass here. If you're going to a reception for either one and you think there will be alcohol, you're a silly goose who deserves your accidental sobriety.

Oh Jesus, I love you two.

Well spoken.

shakinros · June 2013

Manda-Kay:
Bemyselfandi:
I disagree manda. Growing up all my mom ever did was trash talk my dad. He's my favorite person on earth next to my kids and husband and sister. It just really made her ok that much worse. I love my mom. But....

It doesn't help that his dad is a douche bag but I do think she might have made it worse. Either way, I think my MIL should have talked with another adult or therapist about her issues and not her kids.

I completely agree with this. DH's parents spent his whole childhood trash talking each other to him. They still do it! He's always been in the awkward position of having to defend one parent to the other, and I can imagine that leaves a kid with no one to vent to. He had to be the adult in his parents divorce.

ks3pink · June 2013

LindsayDesigner:
poppyseed1017:
ks3pink:
my babysitter can't get out with the boys because of her size

What does this mean?

I think she is referencing her boys' obese grandma. She watches them and there had been some concern when she fell awhile back.

Our reception was dry but that's how we live so it wasn't a big deal.

Yes, this. She got tripped up over our rug which has now been secured under the furniture. She does do e in the house but isn't able to lug kids out and about.

ks3pink · June 2013

melmarie26:
AggieDaner:
LindsayDesigner:

Our reception was dry but that's how we live so it wasn't a big deal.

I think Mormons and Southern Baptists get a pass here. If you're going to a reception for either one and you think there will be alcohol, you're a silly goose who deserves your accidental sobriety.

Oh Jesus, I love you two.

Well spoken.

Agree!

twoitalians · June 2013

I'm not a fan of the Kardashians at all. I don't get the hype.

jodegaard · June 2013

I always smirk in my head a little bit when parents attribute their kid's positive behavior to their own parenting and their kid's less desirable behavior to the child's personality. It's both. The nature versus nurture debate has been going on for a long time, but I would hope most people can agree that both are involved in making a person who they are.

LindsayDesigner · June 2013

I think Rachael Ray is super annoying.
I'm not sure how unusual of an opinion this actually is in hindsight.

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