Feeling kinda panicky (PSA kind of heavy)

Edvoncupacake · June 2013

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Maybe that's anxiety? Yes, this is totally anxiety.

Anyway, a little history. We have strong family histories of heart conditions. My sister was born with a handful of heart conditions, including a terminal one, that landed her in the OR immediately upon birth. She passed at the age of 8. MH's mother had a heart condition that was aggravated by the use of fen-phen, and she died 2 years ago. MH's son (previous relationship) was born with holes in his heart that did eventually heal, and he's fine now (yay!). My nephew is 2 months old and has 2 blood disorders, down syndrome and a bicuspid heart valve.

Doc reviewed our family history and gave us several options and let us know the risks and likelihoods of everything, and we've decided our course of action. On that front, it feels good that we have direction.

Now, DS is perfectly healthy, happy and fun, and always has been, but I keep worrying about the health of this LO. It's gonna get to the point where I can't sleep and get weird, and I'm not sure how to deal. I can feel the tension building in my back as well as that tight grip in my chest. I am fearing another loss. Watching someone close to me go in for surgery after surgery. Watching their lips turn blue. Feeling helpless coupled with useless. Not understanding what's happening or why. It's not something I feel often, but I do know it.

I just needed to express what I'm feeling and reach out and ask for relaxation advice, positive affirmations, facts, anything. Thanks

Momtothreelove · June 2013

Sending love and I understand why you are feeling anxiety. Seems totally logical to me. Although it is easier said than done, try to stay positive. Our best friends son will be one on Saturday and he was set to be born in a nearby city bc of the severity if his heart condition. They went for sono every two weeks and were very concerned. In the third trimester the hole began to shrink and by birth they rushed him off to be evaluated and within hours he was returned to his parents a healthy baby! His hole became undetectable. The body is an amazing thing and can do awesome things! Sending courage and strength to you and your LO!

CoIvie · June 2013

BrittAnnie19:
Sorry for what you're going through. : If you've had other genetic testing or screens that revealed low risk, try to remind yourself of that to give yourself some comfort. When you find yourself stressing about it try to actively try to get your mind of it and keep yourself busy. Go do something positive for yourself during those times. Remind yourself that you are doing everything you can to make good decisions to increase the likelihood of carrying a healthy baby. Hang in there.

Agreed! Hugs

cagoldi · June 2013

Sorry you're getting anxious. I would be nervous too. Do something to distract yourself when you get particulary upset about it. Maybe reading? You could try prenatal yogal. Music always relaxes me and as cheesy as this is, I bought some Spa CDs on Amazon and those seem to help me fall asleep when my mind is running a million miles a minute.

Edvoncupacake · June 2013

Thanks for all of the suggestions!

CoachMama 83 · June 2013

I'm so sorry for what you're going through! (((Hugs))) I wish I had some positive affirmations to offer, but honestly I am in the same boat. My DS2 was diagnosed with hypoplastic left heart syndrome at our a/s, and we were told that because of the severity of his particular case, he wouldn't survive outside the womb. Now with our a/s for #3 approaching in 2 weeks, I'm finding my anxiety level through the roof. I truly am praying for peace of mind for you - I know how stressful this is.

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