I'm a middle school teacher. After DS was born, I went back to work part time, which means I teach every other day. So some weeks, that means M/W/F, others T/Th. My parents watch DS 1-2 days a week and we found a wonderful, flexible daycare through one of my coworkers who watches him 1-2 days a week (depending on how many days I work that week and what my parents' schedule is like). The woman is super sweet, works with my schedule and is fantastic with DS who is a little on the high maintenance side. He still has mini-meltdowns most days when I drop him off (he's been going to her since August) but settles down quickly.
For several reasons, DH and I decided that when we both go back to work in the fall we wanted to send DS to daycare 2 days a week and only use my parents' occasionally. When I talked to my daycare lady about this, she told me that there's a possibility that she wouldn't have a spot for DS come October because if she's offered a full time baby, she would take him/her, rather than keeping DS part time. He's still considered an infant until he's 2 in February, at which point she would have a space for him, but there's the span of Oct to Feb where she wouldn't necessarily have a spot for him.
It's all speculation at this point, because she doesn't have anyone interested at the moment, but I'm really stressed about this. We're paying for him to go one day a week over the summer to keep him used to going, and to hold his spot, but I feel like it's pointless to hold a spot that may or may not still be there in October. I can't run the risk of being without care in October either. But I don't want to go through the whole routine of finding a new daycare, moving DS, getting him adjusted, etc. on the off chance that she may have someone interested in full time care.
WWYD?
Re: WWYD? Child care related
Well, the whole point of me going back to work part time was so that I could have time home with DS, so putting him in care full time would kinda defeat that purpose. Plus my hours and salary are getting cut next year anyway (our enrollment is down) so full time care is not within our budget unless I go back to teaching full time. But thanks for the suggestion!
I sympathize with having to put your LO in daycare after having him at home all this time. It's tough to do at any point, but I think getting used to being home with Mom or Dad and then transitioning to daycare when they're old enough to be aware of what is going on is really tough! Good luck! I hope you find care that works for you guys!
Right now he is totally fascinated by other kids when we go to the park and reacting in a much more positive way than we could even hope for. Unfortunately a lot of the parents can be very stand offish and even some of the kids.. luckily he has had some positive interactions including this one little boy last weekend who was following him around telling him.. be careful baby.
I actually think if we had to start using day care he'd cope way better than we would lol. I have no doubt at all he would miss us in the beginning and there might be a few "moments" specially his daddy who is the bestest thing since sliced bread... but I think the instant pool of new friends would probably take the sting off that pretty quickly.
I guess they could always turn the weather on.. for some reason LO always says daddy when one particular weather man comes on
I know neither of us want to make that move to day care so we're going to hold out as long as possible and then we'll see what other alternatives we have if any. I might cut back on my hours to accommodate DH's need for extra sleep.
As long as I maintain 20 hours I get to keep my benefits etc. If I use daycare I am pretty much blowing half of my pay check each month and I'm not sure it's worth it when I could stay home more with my munchkin and be equally as broke lol.
I don't envy anyone's choices when it comes to working, day care or staying home... we all just do what we have to and what works for us. Hope you guys find day care solutions
Could you do your research on other flexible part time care options? Not going so far as to visit, but at least having a handful of references as back ups. Then, if you suddenly find out that your current situation won't work, you can quickly find a new option. I don't see any reason to switch because she might have interest that may never materialize.
In a pinch, I'm sure between you, DH, your parents, and maybe a friend, you can find care for those few weeks you may have while you find another option. It'll probably be a difficult few weeks, but you won't be disrupting DS if you don't have to.
A friend of mine helped out her friend by watching their baby for a few months while they found another daycare when theirs fell thru.
Or, if you move to OH, he can come to our house.
That's a good idea, thanks Lisa. I don't want to move him if I don't have to. I'm just worried because Aug-Oct is my parents' really busy season for work and they have a long vacation scheduled for November, so we could potentially really be scrambling to get coverage. Though she did promise that she wouldn't totally screw me over if she did get a full time baby - she'd make sure I had enough time to find other care. I guess I just panicked.
And lol about moving to OH - DH's entire family is there, so we'd have lots of help if we moved there! Where in OH are you? They're south of Cleveland and in Akron.
They are near us! We are just east of Cleveland, soon to be moving south to a town called Medina. I grew up outside of Akron in Copley.
Small world! DH grew up in Broadview Heights/Brecksville.