For those with Babies getting up 2x a night..

opaque1997 · June 2013

Are you just dealing with it? Or have you tried / wanting to "fix" it.

If she just does the twice a night I'm ok with it - but we've gotten in the habit of her sleeping with us after the first feeding and sometimes she isn't really hungry just wants me for one reason or another - this weekend I was determined to make her cry it out (she puts herself to sleep for naps and bedtime - minimal fuss - maybe 5 minutes and has for a LONG time - so I know she can) - well after 2 hours (the first hour was fuss, sleep.. whine.. sleep,... fuss.. then the last 45 minutes she was crying with check ins - I fed her and now I'm just too tired to fight with her.

But man oh man I'm tired of not sleeping. I work and have to get up around 5:30 - she goes down around 8 / 8:30 and I go quickly after her. She gets up the first time sometime between 12 - 2 and then the second is between 4 - 5 then she gets up for the day sometime between 6:30 (she saves that early time for me on Saturdays) and 8:30 (My husband is home with her in the mornings).

I feel like its effecting my marriage - we aren't exactly in bed awake very often (he goes to bed closer to midnight) - and his idea of "fixing it" - is to turn off all monitors until 2 am or whenever I decide she can eat.. of course thats not ok with me and wouldn't be ok with 90% of people (I've heard a few men have this idea though )

sigh.. thoughts? Anyone else in the same boat and just hoping she grows out of it?

newenglander71 · June 2013

DS goes to bed at 7 and I get up for work at 5am. The last few nights he has only been up 1x/night during that time, but before that it was 2x/night and I just felt like it was something he would grow out of, so I didn't really try to change anything. Because he eats and then goes right back to sleep, I figure he is hungry and I'm not going to cut out a feeding. And really, he was up so many times a night from 5 months until the last few weeks, that I feel like this is a huge improvement.

linzeek44 · June 2013

I'm sorta just dealing with it, I guess. I'm coping a lot better now that he can put himself down to sleep and I try to remind myself that twice is WAY better than where we were.

Once a week, I've been trying to go to bed early (around 8:30ish) so that I get a long stretch of sleep before wake up number 1. On the rest of the days, I do work when he goes to bed, and then organize my life and go to bed around 10:30. Then I'm always sad when he wakes up the first time since I've only slept an hour or two.

(Recently he has been 7-12, then up again around 3, then up for the day around 6ish.)

opaque1997 · June 2013

Ok keep it coming

Even hearing that other mommies are dealing with it helps! DH is like - no other 8 month old is getting up this much (yeah yeah sure the foster baby who was neglected for the first 2 months of her life and was sleeping 12 hours a night - she sleeps through on MOST nights - and who else have you talked to? yeah thats what I thought) - Sorry I'm bitter.

opaque1997 · June 2013

A few notes - I'm not as worried about the non overlap of time together - we also have always had that - but one night a week at least I used to stay up with him and then we'd have "us time" - the balance works pretty well for us as DH gets some alone time after I go to bed - and I get time before he gets home from work - but its the 7 days a week - I'm exhausted and can't seem to find time for "us".

I also should note - she was sleeping 10 hours a night until 4 months -and then after that wasn't eating at night until her 6 month growth spurt (that evidently we are still in??!)

eshee8198 · June 2013

DD has just started waking up 2x a night...and it's bliss. For a while, she was waking up every 2.5 hours. So I guess it's a matter of perspective.

You might want to try a dream feed when you go to bed - it helps DD stretch out her first session, so I feel like I get a little sleep before she wakes up. She also still sleeps in a PNP next to our bed, so I roll over, feed her, then roll back to sleep.

She usually goes to bed around 8:30 or 9 pm, and I try to spend a few hours with my DH before I go to bed myself. I get up at 5:30 for work as well, but I just try to sleep in a little on the weekends to balance it out. Unfortunately, my DH works in construction, and with the heat we've had lately, he's been falling asleep early. It stinks.

We haven't done sleep training - but adjusting her daytime feeding schedule has helped her nighttime sleeping. We also do a bedtime routine. Honestly, I'm pretty happy with 2x per night. I'm hoping she slowly stretches that out as well. If she's still not sleeping when we get to a year, I'll look into sleep training then, I think. It's closer than we realize!

opaque1997 · June 2013

jlk6:
3 weeks ago we started doing CIO for motn wake ups and he is now sleeping 7 to 5 before needing to eat. It was rough for almost a week but we were determined that its what needed to be done so we stuck with it. Before that, we were in the same boat with 1 or 2 wakeups before 5am.

How long did your LO cry in the MOTN the first few nights? I tried but 2 hours? during the week I just can't..

FYI - dreamfed before bed doesn't help (tried) and I go to bed normally within 30 minutes of her so most of the time it really wouldn't work - going to talk to daycare about upping by an ounce or so - we are doing half and half bm to formula in her daytime bottles (supply tank) - so I know formula babies take more and when I do the math she needs that middle of the night feeding to get to the min 25 ounces right now.. (I think she takes closer to 28 overall - she's taking 4 ounce bottles - normally 4 per day - and then nursing (including the two overnight feds) 3 times

opaque1997 · June 2013

jlk6:
opaque1997:
jlk6:
3 weeks ago we started doing CIO for motn wake ups and he is now sleeping 7 to 5 before needing to eat. It was rough for almost a week but we were determined that its what needed to be done so we stuck with it. Before that, we were in the same boat with 1 or 2 wakeups before 5am.

How long did your LO cry in the MOTN the first few nights? I tried but 2 hours? during the week I just can't..
FYI - dreamfed before bed doesn't help (tried) and I go to bed normally within 30 minutes of her so most of the time it really wouldn't work - going to talk to daycare about upping by an ounce or so - we are doing half and half bm to formula in her daytime bottles (supply tank) - so I know formula babies take more and when I do the math she needs that middle of the night feeding to get to the min 25 ounces right now.. (I think she takes closer to 28 overall - she's taking 4 ounce bottles - normally 4 per day - and then nursing (including the two overnight feds) 3 times
We also tried a dream feed and it didn't seem to make a difference. I'll be honest at first there was a lot of crying and it sucked. There was a few nights where he did cry off and on for an hour or two. It was so hard not to cave but I was determined to give it atleast a week to see if I noticed any improvements and I did so we went with it. Towards the end of the first week when he did wake up he wouldn't cry as long, maybe ten min or so. And after like a week and a half he started sleeping straight through until 5. I know it's hard to listen to them cry and it doesn't help when you have to work and you know just going to nurse them would get them to stop crying faster, it took a week of awful sleep for me to be like okay this is enough, we have to teach him to sleep all night.

Yeah I hear you and normally I'm 100% on this band wagon - but even when we first cio'd she never cried for more then 20 minutes - and never full on tears screaming / crying. If it was just fussing and settling or even crying in bouts I'd be ok with it - but its really upset loud crying for over 40 minutes (the fussing for an hour didn't bother me - a pain - but not a problem). I'm going to try and adjust her feedings during the day - when I do the math she needs the MOTN wakup to get the right number of ounces. (I'm fine with the 5am wake up - nurse - back to sleep as thats when I go to work - its the 12 - 2 (one in there) that I'd like to drop

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