Did you marry your dad?

JulieMarie21 · June 2013

There was a post a week or two ago, where the poster made some comment about her dad and husband being similar. I remember thinking, oh how very Oedipal of you!

So...is your partner like your dad?

ks3pink · June 2013

Nope. I married the exact opposite in most respects. I'm enough like my dad to make up for it though. My mom said yesterday that every time someone tells her I look like her she replies with "but she acts like her dad". Lol.

JulieMarie21 · June 2013

I kind of always thought H and my dad were similar: very kind-hearted men, very rational, hard working, and very good with money (big time savers).

However! H is very "left brained", very math/sciences/technology smart and a bit socially inept (maybe more than a bit). My dad on the other hand is not "book smart" at all, very funny and great in social situations-a real crowd pleaser.

So I'd have to say I married a man that is kind of like my dad, no minds blown here

CLeigh03 · June 2013

Nope. Very different. Both extremely hardworking though.

bigbootyjudi · June 2013

If I married my dad, I would have kicked him out by now.

I'm jealous of woman with great dads, but my dad definitely doesn't fall into that category. We haven't spoken in almost 10 years, he was only a father when it impressed some new woman in his life, before he knocked her up and started a second/third/fourth family and tossed us back to the side, and he never did anything with his life academically.

SO is the complete opposite and I'm so proud of that. He's a great dad, graduated, and is on his way to good things.

SO, however, is almost exactly like his dad...but, in the best way possible.

DemoDoll · June 2013

Not at all! DH is a wonderful and very attentive dad. I'm not saying my dad was a bad dad but he had me too young and didn't take much interest in us kids until we were old enough to do fun stuff like go fishing and skiing and tubing. Now he is a great dad but DH is still more into DD and I love that about him.

gollywollypog · June 2013

Sort of. Both my dad and DH have had substance abuse issues. So theres that in common. Both are very hard working and dedicated to their family. But my DH is super extrovert and social butterfly while my dad is and always has been a bit of a hermit.

I think I've always been drawn to the "rebel" guys because my dad was a rebel guy, but he was always an amazing dad and a good husband.

My husband is/was a bit of a rebel (and I was too) but he's calmed down A LOT in the near decade we've been together.

Oh and beards.

Crossingfingers · June 2013

Absolutely not. My dad can't be bothered to get together for lunch or anything when I make the trip to Texas and I talk to him maybe once a year.

But Lexie & Logan's dad may be more like him than I thought. We haven't heard from him since November 2006. I totally take partial blame there. We were 17 when I had Lexie, married 2 weeks after I turned 18, and had Logan at 19, three months before I filed for divorce. O course we were angry and young, and both did things wrong, but I still think he should take more interest.

lady_tytah · June 2013

Certain things like quiet and spontaneously methodical. Everything else, not even close.

Megispreg · June 2013

They have some similar qualities, but overall very different people.

They are great dads, very involved. Both are creative. Both perfectionists. They are both into exercising and sports.

My dad is outgoing, where DH is shy. DH is more "book smart" and has a professional job. My dad is more of a doer, and has the talent to build or make anything.

Andreabks · June 2013

nope. I married my mom's dad.

my dad is nice, but a bit of a pushover (mom has him by the balls)

my grandpa was very straight forward, what you saw was what you got. he was blunt but honest. also loved to fish and hunt. all of which I got in DH

twoitalians · June 2013

Not really. They are similar in some ways in that they like to work on cars and do general yard work and upkeep on the house, but my dad is a more educated man than DH is. DH also tends to get sidetracked into projects that don't make sense, like tearing apart a completely functional bathroom because he didn't like the way the faucet looked. Both are hardworking, though.

Mrs. Rohde · June 2013

Not at all. Thank God. My DH is a wonderful husband and father.

JayandEmm · June 2013

The only similarities they have is they're both career driven, other than that, completely opposite.

My dad is quiet, anti social, and a womanizer. DH is loud, outgoing, and dedicated. My dad is also extremely intelligent, and DH is way more street smart than book smart.

Jnmac83 · June 2013

DH is the exact opposite of my dad. I love my dad, but he has some issues.

The only thing that reminds me of each other is how silly they both are with their kids. My dad was always really silly with us and DH is like that with O. I love it.

latnprincess · June 2013

They're pretty similar, lol.. Dad can't be rushed, Dh can't be rushed. Dad is always late, Dh doesn't care to be on time. Dad is a musician/singer, Dh is a musician/singer. Dad can be social yet a homebody, dh same. Is crazy! I didn't realize until way after we were married. Oh well. I love my dad and think the world of him! So, if I married someone like him, well, its a blessing.

MoFree · June 2013

He'll f'ing no. My father is a practicing Catholic ultra conservative, emotionally distant, quiet, vocational school educated man who enjoys machinery. My husband is liberal, Reform Jewish highly educated, highly articulate and emotionally aware who is not the least bit handy. Aside from being male, I can't think of one other thing they have in common.

LissaLynn0682 · June 2013

My dad and DH are like best pals. They will hang out and get beers without me!

xxbabycakesxx · June 2013

I don't think so. Their personalities are totally different in that my dad an introvert and DH is an extrovert. But they're both extremely caring and like to take care of me (as in spoil me lol).

mamahawk12 · June 2013

Very much so. My dad is a little bit more of a renaissance man than DH - but personality wise I think they are extremely similar. They get along like peas and carrots.

Tula214 · June 2013

Me and SO aren't married, but....

He's nothing like my dad, thankfully!

My dad is impatient, not supportive, and he doesn't like to be with one woman.

PaisleyRuth · June 2013

I don't think they are much alike, although it's hard to pinpoint exactly why. As I think through characteristics, they have similar ones, but somehow they manifest differently in my dad & DH.

Dad is a straightforward CPA who is a-ok to be alone and quiet, but can be outgoing at times. He's fairly handy, but not Mr. Fix-it. He is frugality & common sense, but not emotionally one you can lean on.

DH is a people pleaser & pretty outgoing. He is very generous. Not super handy, but that might grow as he gets older. He is teacher at heart & loves to learn.