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XP - Stranger Anxiety

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We have twin boys (4months) and one of them is having horrible stranger anxiety.  I cannot even take him to the store for fear someone will get too close and it will start the wailing of epic proportions.  I feel terrible for him as he will not calm down at all until we are somewhere without people or back home in a familiar setting. The only people he doesn't do this to is myself, SO and our daycare providers.  He will scream so hard he gasps if anyone makes eye contact or gets near him even our moms or other family. He even did it to the ped last week at his checkup.  She was just washing her hands near him and out went the lip and cue screaming like nothing he has ever done before.  His brother is so laid back in that area that he loves to ride in the shopping cart and talk to everyone so I am at a loss with Sam.  I really just want to be able to leave the house again without worrying he is going to get so upset as I hate to see him like that.

Does anyone have any tips or tricks for dealing with this or easing it somewhat?

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  • hansonam446hansonam446
    I think it's something they adjust to. LO had stranger danger up until this last week. He cried when the nurse took his temp! But I put him in daycare and he's doing a lot better. Now he seems to go to people without a problem.
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  • bjlucas1bjlucas1 member

    We have been dealing with the same thing with my 5 month old but it does seem to be getting a little better. A couple of weeks ago we went to a family party (most people had never met my LO). Everyone was so excited to meet her but it was a disaster. I found it easier if my LO had her own space. We brought in the bouncy chair (which has an arch over it with hanging toys). That seemed to create enough of a barrier for my LO to feel comfortable. People sat near her and she was okay. We went to a wedding this past weekend too and she seemed a little better. No one tried to hold her, which was key. She even smiled at some people. I hope your little guy grows out of it soon. It is heartbreaking when they seem so scared.

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  • rockyrollgirlrockyrollgirl member
    I don't know if it is so much stranger anxiety then it is the fact that she has learned who's who in her life. Babies have a primitive survival instinct to want to cling to those that they know cares for them. There is really not much to do about it but let it take its course.
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  • tig594tig594 member
    Can you keep him in his carseat with a blanket or carseat canopy over him while shopping?
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