Settle an argument for me(a little rant-y)

MamaHanna · May 2013

Ok ladies here is the deal. I have this lovely sister in law who is basically Jackal and Hyde. One second we are BFF?s the next she is about ready to kill me. I have 4 brothers and no sisters so I feel like this is how the whole ?sister? thing works. We have been getting along great and then she texted my DH to ask what we were doing that night. It was a Friday and we had plans to go to the birthday party of my friend?s boyfriend (she has never met either of them). My husband always being one to pass the buck when it comes to her told her to ask me what we were doing. My DH had not realized this was a birthday party and already invited 5 friends (the birthday boy did go to school with the people he invited so not totally off base but still pretty rude). So when she asked me I texted back:

?Yeah we are going to a birthday party but A) You don?t know the people and Your brother already invited 5 people hence why he is probably making me the bad guy by telling you. If he didn?t already invite 5 people without asking to a small birthday party I would say ok but at this point we already look rude. Sorry if it was something else I would say sure come out but I know you would understand but you know your brother isn?t going to un- invite people.?

Response-? Ummm alright whatever?

I knew she was pissed because typical 22 year old she made some sassy Facebook posts but on Sunday when DH and I went over to his parents? house for dinner she straight up ignored me and this was 2 weeks ago! I said hi when she walked in and she said ?Hi mom, Hi grandma? no Hi for me back. Their mom said ?Kait brought new pictures of the baby do you want to see?? She said ?no I am good? and just storms off to her room. I then asked her if she wanted to come to our Memorial day BBQ and she just walked past me. When I asked again her mom happened to be standing there and she made some BS excuse as to why she couldn?t come. Later she said to my BIL that I only asked to look good in front of their mom but when I originally asked and she ignored me her mom wasn?t there.

Ok so to wrap up this rant?am I being a ***? LOL. I am just use to brother where they are mad for 5 seconds punch you on the shoulder and move on. I don?t even know what to do in this situation. Any hints from you girls out there with sisters or sassy SIL?s?

CinemaGoddess · May 2013

Yes, you are being a b'itch. You could've worded the text to her much better or let your DH deal with it.

Having brothers doesn't give you an out for being rude.

MamaHanna · May 2013

Yeah I think you are right on the wording factor?I could have said it a little nicer. But I did try asking her to hang out after that and it has been two weeks. When I asked her to come to the BBQ I even said ?hey please come to the BBQ, it won?t be the same without you. I will make cupcakes? (she LOVES my cupcakes) and I still got a cold shoulder. DH never deals with her (but that?s a side issue) and ignoring her would have received a worse response. What should I have done?

CinemaGoddess · May 2013

You don't need to tell her what you're doing. Just say you're busy and invite her over another day, like so "Hi, Sis in law. We're busy on Friday, but we'd love to see you over the weekend. When are you available?"

And your husband needs man up and deal with his sister. It's not your job. It's his.

MamaHanna · May 2013

Oh trust me he knows exactly how I feel about his "avoiding the issue." He just "can't say no" to here...here's hoping we have a boy!

BeeBee08 · May 2013

CinemaGoddess:

You don't need to tell her what you're doing. Just say you're busy and invite her over another day, like so "Hi, Sis in law. We're busy on Friday, but we'd love to see you over the weekend. When are you available?"

And your husband needs man up and deal with his sister. It's not your job. It's his.

Ditto this...you both sound like you're acting ridiculous about this. At this point I'd just ignore it. If she wants to drag it out then let her. Eventually she'll turn around when she realizes how stupid it all is especially if you aren't continuing it. But seriously, this is dumb.

MamaHanna · May 2013

OH I agree it's dumb...that's why I was suprised that it turned into such a big deal. I will just keep on with the ignoreing her cattyness and hopefully it will pass!

CinemaGoddess · May 2013

Just know that this behavior is not only "girl" behavior. Your husband, who is a man (I'm assuming), is exacerbating the situation by refusing to deal.

So don't say that you hope you have a boy. You should hope to have a boy who isn't a chickensh'it around his family.

chicorojo · May 2013

Um no you aren't being a b*tch or an . Your sister in law needs too grow up. I would just ignore she sounds like she s a little spoiled. Your text was just fine, not your fault you guys already had plans. My sister can be like that. And it can be tough especially if you arent used to it. Sibling s and in laws are like friends you can't quit talking to.

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