Maybe it's just me but I don't understand why so many moms are complaining that the babies Are waking to eat . What the f did you expect ? Why do these women have children if sleep is of greater importance then their child's health? Your baby is hungry so feed it . I'm so sick of all the sleep training crap and cio. If the sound of your child crying doesn't bother you then you don't diserve to have that child . I don't mean to insult or be mean I just don't understand parents who put themselves before the child
Re: Vent about moms
Many moms come here to vent and commiserate, I know that's why I started posting. I'm sure the moms complaining aren't starving their children if that's what you are concerned about.
Many parents sleep train; if you are sick of reading those posts then stop clicking on them. It's that simple.
Why is this posted on the breastfeeding board?
ITA.
Wow....
This. It's called venting. And guess what else...sleep training is done to teach babies to self soothe. If they don't have that skill, you have to teach it, it's part of being a parent.
Now I do think op said things too harsh but I get the vent
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Well said. That sounds really difficult! Obviously people like the OP have never experienced this kind of sleep deprivation or they wouldn't be so judgemental. Hugs, it sounds like you are a great mom!
There is a point where quality sleep for LO is more important than a midnight snack. Not all LO make that transition on their own, which is where parenting comes in.
I don't judge but I do smirk when I read the *yawn* posts by people who refuse to sleep train.
Most moms know they will have to feed their babies at night. If you had an issue with a specific post you should have replied there.
I am not putting my desire for sleep above my sons health by sleep training him. I'm parenting. He was waking every 45 min to 3 hrs every night since he was 6 months old despite my best attempts at gentle no cry sleep training. He was waking out of habit, mostly, not hunger. He needed more sleep, and so did I. We are working on a method now that does involve some crying, which I hate, but we are all sleeping better and healthier for it. [Sleep is just as important as food for our overall health.]
Maybe now that I'm getting more sleep I can start weaning off the antidepressants I've had to start taking after months of sleep deprivation.
Sometimes you have to put yourself before your child. If you are too sleep deprived, you can be dangerous to your child and to others. Lack of sleep is a major factor in postpartum depression. So seriously, quit with the judgment. A parent complaining about lack of sleep isn't being selfish. Is it a cross we have to bear, especially in the first six months of a baby's life? Yes. Does that mean no one is ever allowed to gripe about the exhaustion that comes with being a new parent? Not at all.
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This. We did some sleep training with DS at about 7 months when he was waking every hour. I still feed him 2 to 3 times a night. He is not starving, but he did learn to fall asleep on his own.
Whaaaat? Way to respond with a judgmental post.
if you ladies are willing to share, i'm very interested to know what sleep training methods you used. DS is 7 months, waking anywhere from every 45-120 minutes at night. he needs his butt patted to go down (or back to sleep). i don't want to night wean yet, just want him to fall asleep and stay asleep- or get back to sleep without me. i haven't found many people in a similar situation to ours so i'd love to hear what worked for you.
We basically followed the Sleep Lady Shuffle.
Somechildren have to be taught this skill, otherwise it can have lasting effects that cause problems with sleeping for a very long time.n
Umm, little newborn babies, yes, we soothe them. Six month olds? No, we have to teach them how to soothe themselves. Duh.
We followed a modified Sleep Lady Shuffle, as well as working on an earlier bedtime and better timing and consistency with his naps. It was a nightmare. He would wake up every 45 minutes between 7 and midnight and then be up for an hour or two, and then sleep a slightly longer stretch. So terrible and the things that once worked (rocking or nursing) no longer did. We didn't nightwean, and he typically wakes up twice to eat, but he's actually sleeping now.