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drhibbard · May 2013

MermaidNM:
I am getting over being pregnant, but dude, I don't understand why everyone hits 37 weeks and immediately starts BMCing about how much it sucks to still be pregnant. I am not 100% ready for this baby to come. It is hard but not as hard as having a newborn and a toddler.
It was way easier to be a due the beginning of the month Bump mom than an end of the month Bump mom. I was able to have my baby and miss so much of the moaning and groaning and is this labor-ing.

Agreed. Drives me nuts.

drhibbard · May 2013

TheyCalledHerKate:
My UO is that anytime a married woman says that she doesn't have time to shower or even go to the salon for an hour to get her hair cut with a new baby (or even an older baby) I feel bad for her because I always assume she must have a really unhelpful/unwilling husband. Unless your husband works 7 days a week there is no reason why your husband can't watch the baby for 5-10 minutes while you shower or why you couldn't pop out of the house for an hour or two to get a trim at the salon (or your nails done or whatever).

Agreed to a point. I've seen some women who are just martyrs. I've also seen some control freaks who aren't willing to let their husbands try. But some husbands do suck a$$.

drhibbard · May 2013

1and1is3:
MommaG123:
nola78:
1and1is3:
GradMommyToBe:
1and1is3:
Moosemonkey:
1and1is3:
My UO is that I don't know how moms survive without a routine... Autumn is thriving and our pediatrician said she was the most alert 2 week old he had ever seen. I also shower everyday and she is sleeping long stretches at night. Seriously, how do you survive without a schedule?!
I'm not surviving! What kind of schedule do you have her on?
I tried the eat,play, sleep schedule and its working! The only thing I have to be careful of is to not give her too much awake time during the day because people are right an overtired baby is not fun! She doesn't go more than 3 hours without eating except at night and rarely eats less than one hour between feedings now. The biggest difference for me was when she figured out the difference between night and day. I just followed the advice of people on here to get her to switch. Like, keep it loud and bright during the day and quiet and dark at night. I also dress her in an outfit every day rather than let her stay in a sleeper. Idk if that helped or not though. The first week, I would give her a bottle every time she cried because I thought she was hungry then my pediatrician said to change her diaper, change her position, put a blanket on her or take it off, try for a burp, and if she is still crying after all that then let her cry for 20 min, if its been less than two hours since she has eaten, then feed her. I side eyed the whole "let her cry for a bit," but its working! I never let her go the whole 20 minutes though... EDIT: mobile bumping

I'm sure it helped because we all know how much newborn babies keep up with fashion.
It's not a fashion thing but rather a comfort and routine thing. Day starts when we get out of our p.j.'s and night starts when we get back into them. I figure "uncomfortable" clothes for day time and "comfortable" clothes for night time. Just adds another sensory perception besides sight and sound to help her distinguish between night and day.
Are you for serious with all of this shiit?
I know right? If she hadn't been on the board for months I'd say this was MUD.
At the risk of digging myself in deeper, I will try to explain my thinking. Note: not saying I am right about this but this is my thinking: the sense if touch is the strongest learning tool a baby has which is why many people believe that skin on skin is so important. So why not incorporate it in learning night and day too? Yeah... So my thinking is probably silly but sadly it makes sense to me. EDIT: also, if someone else quotes this can they please trim the quote tree? I'm on mobile and it keeps messing up when I try.

I think the schedule might be a comfort to you and you just lucked out with a good baby. The 20 minutes of crying made me cringe. This early on, all they are learning is trust...

babymama619 · May 2013

TheyCalledHerKate:
MommaG123:

1and1is3:
I tried the eat,play, sleep schedule and its working! The only thing I have to be careful of is to not give her too much awake time during the day because people are right an overtired baby is not fun! She doesn't go more than 3 hours without eating except at night and rarely eats less than one hour between feedings now. The biggest difference for me was when she figured out the difference between night and day. I just followed the advice of people on here to get her to switch. Like, keep it loud and bright during the day and quiet and dark at night. I also dress her in an outfit every day rather than let her stay in a sleeper. Idk if that helped or not though. The first week, I would give her a bottle every time she cried because I thought she was hungry then my pediatrician said to change her diaper, change her position, put a blanket on her or take it off, try for a burp, and if she is still crying after all that then let her cry for 20 min, if its been less than two hours since she has eaten, then feed her. I side eyed the whole "let her cry for a bit," but its working! I never let her go the whole 20 minutes though... EDIT: mobile bumping

Wow. Your doctor is an idiot and I would be switching immediately. A newborn cries for a reason, even if it is just they need to be held and comforted. And there is no way in he!! I would be listening to his/her advice.

The American Academy of Pediatrics has released a statement specifically condeming the book "Baby Wise" and the practices in it because it can lead to failture to thrive for many babies. I would question any pediatrician who recommended letting a newborn infant just cry it out for 20 minutes without trying to resolve the crying or soothe the baby in any way.

You cannot put a newborn on a schedule, you have to meet their demands as they are developing because they have to learn they can count on you to respond to their needs. Feeding the baby everytime he or she cries is not the right answer either---you can use techniques from Happiest Baby on the Block (5 S's) to soothe a crying baby...but letting a newborn cry it out is just not recommended.

I am all for schedules as babies get older, moms go back to work, etc. It's good to have a routine...but not with a 2 week old.

Just lurking here, but thought I'd throw in my two sense. To the OP, good for you if it's working. For others, do not take this as advice as to what to do with your babies! I have been a professional nanny of multiples (twins and triplets) for over 15 years. I have put many baby babies on schedules and swear by them. However babies are not ready for a forced schedule until approximately 6 months. Do not allow a newborn to cry it out. as PPs have said it teaches baby you will not come, and their tiny, tiny bodies are not made for long term cry outs especially if they are premature at all. newborns cry for a reason.

gradmommy13 · May 2013

kryshy123:
MomlovesEloise:
The only thing you should be teaching a 2 week old is that she can count on you. You have her whole life to teach her everything else. Please just take these precious few weeks and feed her, pick her up, and snuggle her whenever she asks. I promise you that you will miss this time in a few short months. Sleep and even a shower can wait.nbsp;
This was said perfectly! Be on their schedule and teach them love and that they can count on you for their needs....STTN will come soon enough....making sure my babies needs are met and that I'm putting hers before my own is way more important to me than anything else.

Yes to both posts!!! My doctor told me at my appointment today that we could start trying to teach our LO to differentiate between night and day now, but that it won't really matter (or work) until she's 2-3 months. As for the change of clothes...I really don't understand your reasoning. Why would you put your 2-week old baby into uncomfortable clothes during the day? I try to always keep my little girl comfortable, regardless of whether it's day or night. I agree with the importance of touc, but that should come from you holding her whenever she needs it, NOT from clothes...

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