Have any of you had to deal with....

Lily9911 · May 2013

Your DH or SO not ejaculating....

Last month DH had to go in for an MRI on his brain because the doctor thought he may have had a tumor in his brain. This was thought to be the reason for his abnormal high levels of prolactin in his system. So the month of April during my O week, he didn't really want to try. He was worried about the possibility of having a tumor.

This month is when we found out that he's perfectly fine, we still don't know why he has a high level of prolactin but hopefully will find out soon after he speaks to several doctors.

Its the week to start trying and he just can't finish. It's frustrating for me and it makes him very sad because he thinks he's disappointing not only me but us.

Has anyone had this problem? I feel like he's stressing out too much and he's under a lot of pressure. I think he also feels like he can't get me pregnant. We talk about it but I really don't know what else to do or how to help. He depends on doctors way more than I do.

DLpanda08 · May 2013

It happens. For my DH it is a result of low T, but it can also be related to stress. What has helped is making sure DH is relaxed before sex and trying as often as possible.

athlete010688 · May 2013

It's happened with us a couple of times. Yeah, it's frustrating. But knowing it could be related to stress like what panda said helps to. I know DH gets stressed at his job some.

Lily9911 · May 2013

DLpanda08:
It happens. For my DH it is a result of low T, but it can also be related to stress. What has helped is making sure DH is relaxed before sex and trying as often as possible.

I don't think he likes it when I say "let's have sex now" he use to when we first dated and were first married cuz maybe he knew we weren't trying for a baby.

He has high levels of T which is even weirder with the high level of prolactin. But the prolactin wouldn't affect him finishing. sigh its so frustrating....

Lily9911 · May 2013

athlete010688:
It's happened with us a couple of times. Yeah, it's frustrating. But knowing it could be related to stress like what panda said helps to. I know DH gets stressed at his job some.[/quote

Yea... I think it is all stress. He's got a very stressful job. All he wants to do when he comes home is eat dinner, shower and watch his shows.

We did have sex on the 13th, 14th,16th and 18th with a positive OPK on the 18th. So perhaps that was just enough... I'll just have to wait and see. In the meantime I'm going to try and help him relax more.

gscoville · May 2013

It's happened to us many times, I'm sure for various reasons. My hubby is 40, he's overweight, often is tired from work, and sometimes he just feels the pressure to perform really keenly and can't get outside his head. Guys are really sensitive to pressure and failure to ejaculate can be completely mental. I find he's most likely to finish when we have sex in the morning, when he's well rested, and we definitely don't try for every day, that's pretty much a guarantee he won't be able to finish and that 'failure' just feeds the insecurity and makes the next time we try even more precarious. I also really try to make it about the quality of sex, not just 'getting it done'. I seduce him, we flirt all day, I wear something sexy, light some candles, etc. And if he can't finish I most definitely reassure him it's ok. He still feels bad, but I try to take that away as much as possible.

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Lily9911 · May 2013

Sheenfaced:
Lily9911:
Your DH or SO not ejaculating.... Last month DH had to go in for an MRI on his brain because the doctor thought he may have had a tumor in his brain. This was thought to be the reason for his abnormal high levels of prolactin in his system. So the month of April during my O week, he didn't really want to try. He was worried about the possibility of having a tumor. This month is when we found out that he's perfectly fine, we still don't know why he has a high level of prolactin but hopefully will find out soon after he speaks to several doctors. Its the week to start trying and he just can't finish. It's frustrating for me and it makes him very sad because he thinks he's disappointing not only me but us. Has anyone had this problem? I feel like he's stressing out too much and he's under a lot of pressure. I think he also feels like he can't get me pregnant. We talk about it but I really don't know what else to do or how to help. He depends on doctors way more than I do.

Thats rich coming from the girl who is on Clomid after only trying 2 cycles.  Why don't you and DH use your "free" insurance and take him to a urologist?

See.... Uncalled for. This is why some girls say awful things on this board about the members here.

He has gone to a urologist and has an appointment with another doctor later next month.

dragossoul84 · May 2013

It's happened to us a couple times when DH was super stressed out

Lily9911 · May 2013

Sheenfaced:
Lily9911:
Your DH or SO not ejaculating.... Last month DH had to go in for an MRI on his brain because the doctor thought he may have had a tumor in his brain. This was thought to be the reason for his abnormal high levels of prolactin in his system. So the month of April during my O week, he didn't really want to try. He was worried about the possibility of having a tumor. This month is when we found out that he's perfectly fine, we still don't know why he has a high level of prolactin but hopefully will find out soon after he speaks to several doctors. Its the week to start trying and he just can't finish. It's frustrating for me and it makes him very sad because he thinks he's disappointing not only me but us. Has anyone had this problem? I feel like he's stressing out too much and he's under a lot of pressure. I think he also feels like he can't get me pregnant. We talk about it but I really don't know what else to do or how to help. He depends on doctors way more than I do.

Thats rich coming from the girl who is on Clomid after only trying 2 cycles.  Why don't you and DH use your "free" insurance and take him to a urologist?

We've been trying 6 months not 2 months. If you want to be mean for no reason at all at least get your stories straight.

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Lily9911 · May 2013

ThoseThreeWords:
Is he on any prescription medications. There are a number of drugs that can cause an increased prolactin level.

He's on Celexa which he read can cause high levels of prolactin. He wants to speak to his doctor before getting off then completely. He still takes them regularly. He can't see the doctor until late June.

We are positive that is what's causing the issue.

Lily9911 · May 2013

Sheenfaced:
Lily9911:
Sheenfaced:

Lily9911:
Your DH or SO not ejaculating.... Last month DH had to go in for an MRI on his brain because the doctor thought he may have had a tumor in his brain. This was thought to be the reason for his abnormal high levels of prolactin in his system. So the month of April during my O week, he didn't really want to try. He was worried about the possibility of having a tumor. This month is when we found out that he's perfectly fine, we still don't know why he has a high level of prolactin but hopefully will find out soon after he speaks to several doctors. Its the week to start trying and he just can't finish. It's frustrating for me and it makes him very sad because he thinks he's disappointing not only me but us. Has anyone had this problem? I feel like he's stressing out too much and he's under a lot of pressure. I think he also feels like he can't get me pregnant. We talk about it but I really don't know what else to do or how to help. He depends on doctors way more than I do.

Thats rich coming from the girl who is on Clomid after only trying 2 cycles.  Why don't you and DH use your "free" insurance and take him to a urologist?

We've been trying 6 months not 2 months. If you want to be mean for no reason at all at least get your stories straight.

I mean you started the Clomid after only 2 months of trying.  You said so yourself.

Right. I'm not sure what that has to do with this conversation though.... Thanks for contributing?

Lily9911 · May 2013

gscoville:
It's happened to us many times, I'm sure for various reasons. My hubby is 40, he's overweight, often is tired from work, and sometimes he just feels the pressure to perform really keenly and can't get outside his head. Guys are really sensitive to pressure and failure to ejaculate can be completely mental. I find he's most likely to finish when we have sex in the morning, when he's well rested, and we definitely don't try for every day, that's pretty much a guarantee he won't be able to finish and that 'failure' just feeds the insecurity and makes the next time we try even more precarious. I also really try to make it about the quality of sex, not just 'getting it done'. I seduce him, we flirt all day, I wear something sexy, light some candles, etc. And if he can't finish I most definitely reassure him it's ok. He still feels bad, but I try to take that away as much as possible.

That's great that you don't get upset or angry. I WISH I was more like that. I at first say "it's ok" but he just pushes and pushes until I finally blurt out that its not actually "ok".

DLpanda08 · May 2013

Lily9911:
ThoseThreeWords:
Is he on any prescription medications. There are a number of drugs that can cause an increased prolactin level.
He's on Celexa which he read can cause high levels of prolactin. He wants to speak to his doctor before getting off then completely. He still takes them regularly. He can't see the doctor until late June. We are positive that is what's causing the issue.

My DH is also on Celexa, but I have never heard of the prolactin issue. Can you link to studies on that? Not trying to be snarky, I'm legitimately curious.

Lily9911 · May 2013

jefa621:
MeatandBandP:
Lily9911:
Sheenfaced:
Lily9911:
Sheenfaced:

Lily9911:
Your DH or SO not ejaculating.... Last month DH had to go in for an MRI on his brain because the doctor thought he may have had a tumor in his brain. This was thought to be the reason for his abnormal high levels of prolactin in his system. So the month of April during my O week, he didn't really want to try. He was worried about the possibility of having a tumor. This month is when we found out that he's perfectly fine, we still don't know why he has a high level of prolactin but hopefully will find out soon after he speaks to several doctors. Its the week to start trying and he just can't finish. It's frustrating for me and it makes him very sad because he thinks he's disappointing not only me but us. Has anyone had this problem? I feel like he's stressing out too much and he's under a lot of pressure. I think he also feels like he can't get me pregnant. We talk about it but I really don't know what else to do or how to help. He depends on doctors way more than I do.

Thats rich coming from the girl who is on Clomid after only trying 2 cycles.  Why don't you and DH use your "free" insurance and take him to a urologist?

We've been trying 6 months not 2 months. If you want to be mean for no reason at all at least get your stories straight.

I mean you started the Clomid after only 2 months of trying.  You said so yourself.

Right. I'm not sure what that has to do with this conversation though.... Thanks for contributing?

Since your H is taking a medicine that could affect is sperm, wouldn't it have been vital for you to get an SA before you started taking fertility drugs?

Obviously you can't do anything about it now, but I would PUT down the clomid candy until you have his results.

But you don't care about any opinions that don't match your thoughts, so nevermind.. 

FTFY.  This.  You've basically wasted limited clomid cycles.  Way to go.  Not to mention that you're seriously impatient and your attitude about it all kind of sucks.  Maybe that is also having some affect on your H.

ETA:  I think the AE is wrong.  you said you started taking clomid after trying 4 months.  But still.  Impatient.

When I say "I've wasted cycles on Clomid" it doesn't make the situation with my H any better.

I've heard plenty of times that I'm impatient. Can we move on from that now?

I'm trying to move on and stay on this board but people keep bringing up the past. I feel like you guys purposely try to push out the noobs.

Thanks for everyone else who had given me some good advice and shared their experiences.

DLpanda08 · May 2013

ThoseThreeWords:
I'm mobile at the moment. MH is on an unrelated drug his issue is not prolactin....but a different mechanism of action. You can go to FDA.gov and look up the label of whatever drug. I think Celexa has something on prolactemia in the post marketing experience section. That means that there was not a study per se, but rather enough people/doctors reported the issue that the company and the FDA thought it should be in the label. I work in the general industry, but I am not a pharmacist or a medical professional.

Thank you!

baloneydisc · May 2013

This happened with DH. He felt too much pressure to perform and couldn't. We talked about it and he wanted to try EOD from my period til we had confirmed O so he wouldnt know for sure if the timing was right. It worked for us, he no longer had issues once we switched to EOD.

hnid222 · May 2013

My first thought was the pressure of TTC with your DH. Maybe try to approach doing the BD differently than you are now. Like PP said, once the switched things up and started EOD it was less pressure on her H. Good luck with everything!

Lily9911 · May 2013

MeatandBandP:
Lily9911:
jefa621:
MeatandBandP:
Lily9911:
Sheenfaced:
Lily9911:
Sheenfaced:

Lily9911:
Your DH or SO not ejaculating.... Last month DH had to go in for an MRI on his brain because the doctor thought he may have had a tumor in his brain. This was thought to be the reason for his abnormal high levels of prolactin in his system. So the month of April during my O week, he didn't really want to try. He was worried about the possibility of having a tumor. This month is when we found out that he's perfectly fine, we still don't know why he has a high level of prolactin but hopefully will find out soon after he speaks to several doctors. Its the week to start trying and he just can't finish. It's frustrating for me and it makes him very sad because he thinks he's disappointing not only me but us. Has anyone had this problem? I feel like he's stressing out too much and he's under a lot of pressure. I think he also feels like he can't get me pregnant. We talk about it but I really don't know what else to do or how to help. He depends on doctors way more than I do.

Thats rich coming from the girl who is on Clomid after only trying 2 cycles.  Why don't you and DH use your "free" insurance and take him to a urologist?

We've been trying 6 months not 2 months. If you want to be mean for no reason at all at least get your stories straight.

I mean you started the Clomid after only 2 months of trying.  You said so yourself.

Right. I'm not sure what that has to do with this conversation though.... Thanks for contributing?

Since your H is taking a medicine that could affect is sperm, wouldn't it have been vital for you to get an SA before you started taking fertility drugs?

Obviously you can't do anything about it now, but I would PUT down the clomid candy until you have his results.

But you don't care about any opinions that don't match your thoughts, so nevermind.. 

FTFY.  This.  You've basically wasted limited clomid cycles.  Way to go.  Not to mention that you're seriously impatient and your attitude about it all kind of sucks.  Maybe that is also having some affect on your H.

ETA:  I think the AE is wrong.  you said you started taking clomid after trying 4 months.  But still.  Impatient.

When I say "I've wasted cycles on Clomid" it doesn't make the situation with my H any better.

I've heard plenty of times that I'm impatient. Can we move on from that now?

I'm trying to move on and stay on this board but people keep bringing up the past. I feel like you guys purposely try to push out the noobs.

Thanks for everyone else who had given me some good advice and shared their experiences.
Well considering how you act on here I can only imagine how you act with your H. You are probably putting way too much pressure on him and hence giving him issues in the sack.
 Telling you to drop the clomid is good advice. Your H may have sperm issues and you just said last month you didn't have sex during your fertile week. Sort these issues out before you use clomid. You can only use it 6 times!

I am not going to take Clomid next month since he won't even be going to a doctor until late June anyway. I don't want to keep using a pill if the sperm isn't there ya know. The sperm is key in this evaluation.

Lily9911 · May 2013

ThoseThreeWords:
Lily9911:
ThoseThreeWords:
Is he on any prescription medications. There are a number of drugs that can cause an increased prolactin level.

He's on Celexa which he read can cause high levels of prolactin. He wants to speak to his doctor before getting off then completely. He still takes them regularly. He can't see the doctor until late June.

We are positive that is what's causing the issue.

I realized that I didn't answer your question. DH also had minimal ejaculate due to a medication. Unfortunately, he is not able to take a medication vacation while we ttc. We are heading for ivf. It sucks. He feels a little less manly and that he is failing me as a husband. The feelings were strongest after getting the referral to the RE. I think he feels pressure still to make it work before we start ivf.

I try to play it like it isn't a big deal....but I am frustrated. I reassure him it the situation sucks but I don't see him any differently.

I hope you two have an easier resolution than us. It sounds like you should have some answers next month which sometimes feels like an eternity. Feel free to pm me for support....we've been dealing with this for over a year. GL.

Thank you very much.

Lily9911 · May 2013

DLpanda08:
Lily9911:
ThoseThreeWords:
Is he on any prescription medications. There are a number of drugs that can cause an increased prolactin level.

He's on Celexa which he read can cause high levels of prolactin. He wants to speak to his doctor before getting off then completely. He still takes them regularly. He can't see the doctor until late June.

We are positive that is what's causing the issue.
My DH is also on Celexa, but I have never heard of the prolactin issue. Can you link to studies on that? Not trying to be snarky, I'm legitimately curious. 

He went on WEBMD which is the worst place you can go since the results are always along the lines of "if you have a cough it could be 1. A chest cold 2. The flu 3. CANCER."

He always tells me to not go on that site and of course he doesn't follow his own advice. I know he's done extensive research but here is the link that says it can raise prolactin in the blood results:

https://www.webmd.com/drugs/drug8603Celexa.aspx?drugid8603drugnameCelexapagenumber6

Lily9911 · May 2013

CLECyclist:
MeatandBandP:
You can only use it 6 times!
Untrue, my good lady. There is no clinical evidence to substantiate the claim that more than 6 doses impacts you negatively. However, if you're not pregnant after 6 cycles of Clomid your RE should be moving on to different treatment.

I too haven't heard about the 6 time rule.

My doctor did say he would never have anyone on it for more than a year.

divinemsbee · May 2013

My H has dealt with delayed ejaculation off and on since we started dating. No medical cause, but when he's working out a lot, tiredness plays a role. He's also one of those apparently rare Hs who is all up into the 'business side' of TTC; the man keep spreadsheets and prefers if I send him a text saying I got a positive OPK. I try to just let him know and other than that keep it low pressure. Some things that work for us: sex in the afternoon after work, he's not as tired and we haven't eaten, plus we go to bed at different times, so it's okay for both of us to get up after, also a great stress reliever. Lots of vudfling and lots of laughing. Especially if we're trying for ED, we both get a bit punch drunk by day 3. There are hilarious Sean Connery impressions sometimes, I find a case of the giggles can be sexy and relaxing. We just try not to get to serious. Physically, lots of positions, and he swears that turning his toes inward or bobbing his head up and down helps him cross tge finish line. Also, if it's really not hapoening, we stop, cuddle, and sometimes get up and get dressed and try again later.

Lily9911 · May 2013

CLECyclist:
Lily9911:
CLECyclist:
MeatandBandP:
You can only use it 6 times!
Untrue, my good lady. There is no clinical evidence to substantiate the claim that more than 6 doses impacts you negatively. However, if you're not pregnant after 6 cycles of Clomid your RE should be moving on to different treatment.

I too haven't heard about the 6 time rule.

My doctor did say he would never have anyone on it for more than a year.
Your doctor is still an idiot. If you're not pregnant after 6 cycles with Clomid your doctor should be doing something else.
I can't remember, but have you had an HSG? If you're doing Clomid, it's a must. What if your tubes are blocked? Tell me how you think Clomid helps you, in that case. Don't waste your time without it. I still think it's irresponsible, what you're doing - but if you want to be dumb with your own life I certainly can't stop you.

What??? Why are people coming off so rude and mean....

Yes I've had an HSG. I haven't been on Clomid for 6 cycles... Next month would be my 4th and I've decided to not even go through with it. How does that make him an idiot?

Edit: spelling

Lily9911 · May 2013

CLECyclist:
Lily9911:
How does that make him an idiot?
He's an idiot for putting people on Clomid for 12 months. It's irresponsible and passive medical care.

Ugh... I didn't SAY that.

He said he would NEVER put someone on Clomid for a year or over a year.

My doctor is not an idiot.

You people are being mean to me on here just look back at the other posts on this topic. It's unnecessary and mean. You are coming off as rude that is my opinion.

And nobody on this bored convinced me of anything my H said for me to not take it since he's having this issue. There's no point in taking a medication if he can't finish.

Lily9911 · May 2013

CLECyclist:
Lily9911:
How does that make him an idiot?
He's an idiot for putting people on Clomid for 12 months. It's irresponsible and passive medical care.

Forget everything I just said ill make this easy for the both of us... BLOCK.

Rocknroll64 · May 2013

Lily9911:
CLECyclist:
Lily9911:
CLECyclist:
MeatandBandP:
You can only use it 6 times!
Untrue, my good lady. There is no clinical evidence to substantiate the claim that more than 6 doses impacts you negatively. However, if you're not pregnant after 6 cycles of Clomid your RE should be moving on to different treatment.
I too haven't heard about the 6 time rule. My doctor did say he would never have anyone on it for more than a year.
Your doctor is still an idiot. If you're not pregnant after 6 cycles with Clomid your doctor should be doing something else.
I can't remember, but have you had an HSG? If you're doing Clomid, it's a must. What if your tubes are blocked? Tell me how you think Clomid helps you, in that case. Don't waste your time without it. I still think it's irresponsible, what you're doing - but if you want to be dumb with your own life I certainly can't stop you.
What??? Why are people coming off so rude and mean.... Yes I've had an HSG. I haven't been on Clomid for 6 cycles... Next month would be my 4th and I've decided to not even go through with it. How does that make him an idiot? Edit: spelling

The general consensus is that you shouldn't even begin testing or seeing a doctor until you have been trying for a year on your own or if you are over 35 than 6 months, even if you have PCOS. Besides that, I'm going to list reasons why you are being snarked.

1. You said you went to the doctor after 4 months of trying because your friend told you that you should be able to feel ovulation pain and you couldn't.

2. From that statement it's fairly obvious that you were not temping/charting or using OPK's. It's also fairly obvious that you don't know really know that much about your body.

3. You then said you went to the doctor because of irregular periods but failed to understand that that does not mean you are not ovulating. Another reason that makes me think you were not temping/charting or using OPK's and that you're lying when you said you did.

4. The reason we think your doctor is an idiot is because he took your information and assumed you weren't ovulating and put you on clomid without even suggesting that you temp/chart and use OPK's for a year.

5. From your general lack of knowledge and from your doctor's rush to put you on clomid, it's fairly easy to assume that you are not getting proper monitoring. When some posters asked what exact monitoring you were getting you didn't reply making us assume that you're lying when you said you were being monitored.

6. Your husband has sperm issues and you took clomid before getting an SA for him. Dumb.

7. You think because you have a group insurance plan through work that insurance is free and that the unnecessary testing you got has no effect on insurance costs.

I don't even really know why I took the time to write this out, because you're just gonna skip over everything and tell me that I'm jealous and that I'm a big meany head. I'm actually genuinely trying to make you understand why you're being jumped on. I think it's good that you're going to stop taking clomid and that you're working on your DH's sperm issues. Sounds like you're working on acquiring more knowledge which is the smart thing to do. I would suggest signing up for fertility friend and switching doctors also.

SCSmith2011 · May 2013

Lily9911:
CLECyclist:
Lily9911:
How does that make him an idiot?

He's an idiot for putting people on Clomid for 12 months. It's irresponsible and passive medical care.

Ugh... I didn't SAY that. He said he would NEVER put someone on Clomid for a year or over a year. My doctor is not an idiot. You people are being mean to me on here just look back at the other posts on this topic. It's unnecessary and mean. You are coming off as rude that is my opinion. And nobody on this bored convinced me of anything my H said for me to not take it since he's having this issue. There's no point in taking a medication if he can't finish.

We told you before why your doctor is an idiot. That is our opinion. With facts provided by you to back it up.

Lily9911 · May 2013

1. I never said a friend told me I should feel ovulation.... I was told by my SIL that she can feel ovulation and I told her I've NEVER felt it. So I wondered if I actually did ovulate. I have PCOS so it is a logical concern of mine. This is our 6th month of trying. I went on Clomid in February trough my GYNO who just handed it to me basically. I then went to an RE for an HSG and he only saw me early because I have PCOS- those are HIS rules. He sees anyone with PCOS before a year of trying and those without it a year or more trying. He wouldn't have given me the Clomid. He has said that since I am perfectly fine we needed to test my H, now we know he has a problem. So HE suggested if things don't work out in 4-6 months then to get back on the Clomid or if we wanted to... Get IUI or IVF. He says it shouldn't be needed though.

2. I have temped and did OPKs for 4 months. I really don't care if you think I'm lying... I have no reason to. Have I temped everyday? No... Sometimes I missed he opportunity since I had to get up for some reason and I wasn't able to check my temp first thing in the morning.

3. I went to the doctor when I had irregular periods 2 years ago when I was diagnosed with PCOS.

4. That was my GYNO who you can call an idiot all you want. I should have been clear that my Gyno gave me Clomid my RE only gave me a prescription for an HSG.

5. My RE gave me an exam while I was on Clomid to see if it was working. He saw two folicles during the exam.

6. Read above...

7. I've explained a thousand times about the insurance I have. I'd like people to drop it because it DOES sound like people are jealous. I know how expensive health insurance is- I know because I use to pay for it.

Most of my visits tonite doctor are completely free meaning my insurance pays for everything. Sometimes I pay the 10 dollar company. I do pay for blood work but insurance covers most. We do not pay into health benefits Hs company does that.

EmeJay · May 2013

Lily9911:
1. I never said a friend told me I should feel ovulation.... I was told by my SIL that she can feel ovulation and I told her I've NEVER felt it. So I wondered if I actually did ovulate. I have PCOS so it is a logical concern of mine. This is our 6th month of trying. I went on Clomid in February trough my GYNO who just handed it to me basically. I then went to an RE for an HSG and he only saw me early because I have PCOS- those are HIS rules. He sees anyone with PCOS before a year of trying and those without it a year or more trying. He wouldn't have given me the Clomid. He has said that since I am perfectly fine we needed to test my H, now we know he has a problem. So HE suggested if things don't work out in 4-6 months then to get back on the Clomid or if we wanted to... Get IUI or IVF. He says it shouldn't be needed though.

2. I have temped and did OPKs for 4 months. I really don't care if you think I'm lying... I have no reason to. Have I temped everyday? No... Sometimes I missed he opportunity since I had to get up for some reason and I wasn't able to check my temp first thing in the morning.

3. I went to the doctor when I had irregular periods 2 years ago when I was diagnosed with PCOS.

4. That was my GYNO who you can call an idiot all you want. I should have been clear that my Gyno gave me Clomid my RE only gave me a prescription for an HSG.

5. My RE gave me an exam while I was on Clomid to see if it was working. He saw two folicles during the exam.

6. Read above...

7. I've explained a thousand times about the insurance I have. I'd like people to drop it because it DOES sound like people are jealous. I know how expensive health insurance is- I know because I use to pay for it.
Most of my visits tonite doctor are completely free meaning my insurance pays for everything. Sometimes I pay the 10 dollar company. I do pay for blood work but insurance covers most. We do not pay into health benefits Hs company does that.

Lily9911 · May 2013

Your comeback was a meme? Really? Im not understanding everyone's obsession about our health insurance. Let me maybe write it again..... With pauses in between..... My H does not pay into health benefits at his company that he works for. It has nothing to do with his salary since he's gotten raise after raise and then recently a promotion.

Hen I go to the doctor, a normal general doctor my payment is always 10 dollars.

prescriptions are always 10 dollars no matter what it is.

My OBGYN is completely covered under insurance, I don't pay a copay when I go to her. I also didn't pay a copay when I went to the RE. Why? I have no idea.... I get a run down of the bill in the mail and it says how insurance covered everything.

We have very good insurance and his company seems to care about its employees.

Get...over... It

you people obsess over something so stupid. Just because you never heard of anything like this happening doesn't mean it doesn't exist.

Lily9911 · May 2013

Rocknroll64:
Lily9911:
CLECyclist:
Lily9911:
CLECyclist:
MeatandBandP:
You can only use it 6 times!
Untrue, my good lady. There is no clinical evidence to substantiate the claim that more than 6 doses impacts you negatively. However, if you're not pregnant after 6 cycles of Clomid your RE should be moving on to different treatment.
I too haven't heard about the 6 time rule. My doctor did say he would never have anyone on it for more than a year.
Your doctor is still an idiot. If you're not pregnant after 6 cycles with Clomid your doctor should be doing something else.
I can't remember, but have you had an HSG? If you're doing Clomid, it's a must. What if your tubes are blocked? Tell me how you think Clomid helps you, in that case. Don't waste your time without it. I still think it's irresponsible, what you're doing - but if you want to be dumb with your own life I certainly can't stop you.
What??? Why are people coming off so rude and mean.... Yes I've had an HSG. I haven't been on Clomid for 6 cycles... Next month would be my 4th and I've decided to not even go through with it. How does that make him an idiot? Edit: spelling
The general consensus is that you shouldn't even begin testing or seeing a doctor until you have been trying for a year on your own or if you are over 35 than 6 months, even if you have PCOS. Besides that, I'm going to list reasons why you are being snarked.
1. You said you went to the doctor after 4 months of trying because your friend told you that you should be able to feel ovulation pain and you couldn't.
2. From that statement it's fairly obvious that you were not temping/charting or using OPK's. It's also fairly obvious that you don't know really know that much about your body.
3. You then said you went to the doctor because of irregular periods but failed to understand that that does not mean you are not ovulating. Another reason that makes me think you were not temping/charting or using OPK's and that you're lying when you said you did.
4. The reason we think your doctor is an idiot is because he took your information and assumed you weren't ovulating and put you on clomid without even suggesting that you temp/chart and use OPK's for a year.
5. From your general lack of knowledge and from your doctor's rush to put you on clomid, it's fairly easy to assume that you are not getting proper monitoring. When some posters asked what exact monitoring you were getting you didn't reply making us assume that you're lying when you said you were being monitored.
6. Your husband has sperm issues and you took clomid before getting an SA for him. Dumb.
7. You think because you have a group insurance plan through work that insurance is free and that the unnecessary testing you got has no effect on insurance costs.
I don't even really know why I took the time to write this out, because you're just gonna skip over everything and tell me that I'm jealous and that I'm a big meany head. I'm actually genuinely trying to make you understand why you're being jumped on. I think it's good that you're going to stop taking clomid and that you're working on your DH's sperm issues. Sounds like you're working on acquiring more knowledge which is the smart thing to do. I would suggest signing up for fertility friend and switching doctors also.

oh and because you've been nasty with me from the get go...

BLOCKED.

Im just not going to deal with people like you anymore.

Rocknroll64 · May 2013

MeatandBandP:
Lily9911:
Your comeback was a meme? Really? Im not understanding everyone's obsession about our health insurance. Let me maybe write it again..... With pauses in between..... My H does not pay into health benefits at his company that he works for. It has nothing to do with his salary since he's gotten raise after raise and then recently a promotion.

Hen I go to the doctor, a normal general doctor my payment is always 10 dollars.
prescriptions are always 10 dollars no matter what it is.
My OBGYN is completely covered under insurance, I don't pay a copay when I go to her. I also didn't pay a copay when I went to the RE. Why? I have no idea.... I get a run down of the bill in the mail and it says how insurance covered everything.

We have very good insurance and his company seems to care about its employees.

Get...over... It

you people obsess over something so stupid. Just because you never heard of anything like this happening doesn't mean it doesn't exist.

Everything seems to go right over your head doesn't it?

She just does not get it. It's actually really frustrating. I wish I hadn't said anything, what a waste of my time that was.

EmeJay · May 2013

Lily9911:
Your comeback was a meme? Really? Im not understanding everyone's obsession about our health insurance. Let me maybe write it again..... With pauses in between..... My H does not pay into health benefits at his company that he works for. It has nothing to do with his salary since he's gotten raise after raise and then recently a promotion.

Hen I go to the doctor, a normal general doctor my payment is always 10 dollars.
prescriptions are always 10 dollars no matter what it is.
My OBGYN is completely covered under insurance, I don't pay a copay when I go to her. I also didn't pay a copay when I went to the RE. Why? I have no idea.... I get a run down of the bill in the mail and it says how insurance covered everything.

We have very good insurance and his company seems to care about its employees.

Get...over... It

you people obsess over something so stupid. Just because you never heard of anything like this happening doesn't mean it doesn't exist.

I'm a lucky basterd Canadian. More, I'm a lucky lucky basterdish Quebecer who has free health care, kick a$$ insurance and free IF treatment. So no. I ain't jealous.

That being said, it's not because it is free to you that it is just FREE. Someone pays for it. And when people abuse the system, other people that are less lucky will have to pay.

The point that people here are trying to make is that having something free is not a reason for using it.

Lily9911 · May 2013

EmeJay:
Lily9911:
Your comeback was a meme? Really?

Im not understanding everyone's obsession about our health insurance.

Let me maybe write it again..... With pauses in between.....

My H does not pay into health benefits at his company that he works for. It has nothing to do with his salary since he's gotten raise after raise and then recently a promotion. 
 
Hen I go to the doctor, a normal general doctor my payment is always 10 dollars.
prescriptions are always 10 dollars no matter what it is.  
 My OBGYN  is completely covered under insurance, I don't pay a copay when I go to her. I also didn't pay a copay when I went to the RE. Why? I have no idea.... I get a run down of the bill in the mail and it says how insurance covered everything. 
 
We have very good insurance and his company seems to care about its employees. 
 
Get...over... It
 
 
you people obsess over something so stupid. Just because you never heard of anything like this happening doesn't mean it doesn't exist.

I'm a lucky basterd Canadian. More, I'm a lucky lucky basterdish Quebecer who has free health care, kick a$$ insurance and free IF treatment. So no. I ain't jealous.

That being said, it's not because it is free to you that it is just FREE. Someone pays for it. And when people abuse the system, other people that are less lucky will have to pay.
The point that people here are trying to make is that having something free is not a reason for using it.
 

But my point was that NOBODY believed was the fact that we don't pay into health benefits.

Nobody believes that for some strange reason. That's what I'm focusing on.

Lily9911 · May 2013

So nobody is jealous... It's just admiration.

When you bring up something that someone else has over and over again, you must admire it.

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