holding out on FB?

ravenclaw1 · May 2013

Anyone else here keeping their pregnancy off social media?

We're still holding strong at 22 weeks and just not making it at all public. I'm wondering if there's anyone else in the same boat? Do people question why you're doing it? Do you ever waver on your decision?

Just curious

StephanieLove10 · May 2013

We held out until we had the 20 week anatomy scan and got the "all clear".

afreud · May 2013

We were going to keep it off, but my friend posted about us having a baby girl and tagged us, so the cat was out of the bag and everyone and their uncle commented on it LOL BUT we held out till 20 weeks!

blondii428 · May 2013

We were too excited to hold it in, there's no way we wouldn't have been able to announce it

starinyte · May 2013

Yep, I haven't said anything on FB at all. In fact, I've only actually told the people in my life that I am the closest to, or that need to know.

I'm a pretty private person, though, and I've always felt weird about announcing my pregnancies. I feel like the person I've told is instantly thinking about me having sex. I am aware that I am ridiculous.

With that said, with the people I have told (which is maybe five people) their reaction has been, "I didn't even know you were trying!" without fail. Which kills me...should I be announcing to people that my husband and I are romping without protection? Is that a thing I should be sharing?

Mrsdrev929 · May 2013

Have kept it off fb and plan on it. I didn't with ds as regret it. Everyone an their mother had an opinion. Just drove me nuts. Can't do it again.

eden8309 · May 2013

StephanieLove10:
We held out until we had the 20 week anatomy scan and got the "all clear".

We posted after the a/s too, but that's the only pregnancy specific thing that's gone on social media. We have friends who are expecting this fall and have put everything up on FB so I think that just kinda turned us off from it.

coraggiosa · May 2013

I haven't posted anything on Facebook about my pregnancy. Not even a hint that I'm pregnant. My dad did, but I was actually kind of annoyed about that.

While I check facebook regularly, I'm just not the kind of person to post on it. I might occasionally put a status update on there, but it's pretty rare.

Everyone who matters to me knows I'm pregnant. All other "friends" on facebook likely won't even care that I'm KU.

happybride 276 · May 2013

I was not going to post about our pregnancy on FB, but my husband's friend posted something about it and shortly after deleted it and I was afraid that my MIL would not keep her mouth shut.

SweetPeaK26 · May 2013

We aren't. We have in the past, but thought it would be fun to just surprise everyone this time. We have private groups on FB for my moms side, my dads side and dh's family :all separate groups: and we post on those to keep family updated. Otherwise, it will be a surprise to everyone other than our closest friends who already know.

magdalina.h · May 2013

A friend of mine (also a loss mom) waited until 20w before she came out on FB. She rarely posts anyways, but when she does, it's never about the baby.

missmuffin87 · May 2013

I haven't said anything on FB. I'm not opposed to it, just haven't felt like making a public announcement this time.I'm sure I'll be flooding the newsfeed with adorable squishy pics when he's here though.

Julz629 · May 2013

With both DS and this pregnancy, we announced to immediately family right away, and then until the 2nd trimester to announce to friends and extended family. With DS, I didn't make an announcement on FB, but pregnant pictures of me started appearing and people just figured it out. With this one, I made an announcement after the a/s, even though a lot of people already knew.

SKOd · May 2013

We are now at 25 weeks and haven't posted anything on FB yet. My little sister got married 2 weeks ago and I had tons of family who didn't even know we were expecting. We aren't trying to hide it, just haven't felt the need to let FB know.

inthelost · May 2013

eh, i announced it on Facebook and a few of my posts are about it, but i don't make everything about the pregnancy, that would be annoying!

StephanieLove10 · May 2013

Another thing to consider is how many FB friends you have, and how close those relationships really are. My husband's cousin has over 900 friends and shared every, single intimate detail about her pregnancy and delivery. I would call that "a bit much"; other people might think that's perfectly normal/cool.

I have less than 70 FB friends, and they are all either actual friends or family members. It's an easy way to update everyone all at once.

AlejandraN2 · May 2013

We planned on telling people on facebook at the 20w scan if everything was clear but since we got a scare, it kind of humbled me and didn't want random people knowing if something went wrong. Now at nearly 22 weeks, i'm debating if my negative thinking/being scared is doing more good than bad and whether i should be optimistic that everything will work out and just talk about it. Since we're on vacation and may have vacation pics with me carrying a little ball, i may not have a choice soon

Either way, if we do announce it, i tend to only post rarely about other things, and probably won't about this till September.

pescadora712 · May 2013

I announced that we were expecting, but that's about it! No pics, or pregnant status updates. Some people are bugging me to post pictures of myself, but I figure most of the people on my friend list will have a chance to see me in person before baby gets here.

That said, once our little boy is actually here I may not be able to keep myself from showing off our bundle!

lillyq1982 · May 2013

I never made a formal announcement, but probably around 22 weeks, I started commenting on baby related things and I mention baby in my posts now, so if people read my posts, they know.

PrettyInPearls23 · May 2013

Not me, but one of my friends didn't say a word about her pregnancy on FB until their DD was born. Her DH posted a photo on his FB but didn't tag her, so when she posted a photo a few months later of their DD in her Easter outfit, there was mass confusion. It was actually pretty funny.

coraggiosa · May 2013

StephanieLove10:
Another thing to consider is how many FB friends you have, and how close those relationships really are. My husband's cousin has over 900 friends and shared every, single intimate detail about her pregnancy and delivery. I would call that "a bit much"; other people might think that's perfectly normal/cool.
I have less than 70 FB friends, and they are all either actual friends or family members. It's an easy way to update everyone all at once.

To the bolded - nothing makes me want to gag more than seeing a post from someone on facebook about how dilated and effaced they are. That is just straight up strange, if you ask me.

kat81again2 · May 2013

we are in the same boat. I've told everyone I've seen in person (well and now it's obvious in person!) but there are even still some important people left to make phone calls to. But even once we finally get to those people, we will not tell facebook. I only see facebook happening if I want to post a picture of myself (or someone else posts a picture of me, tagged or not), where the bump is visible. OR, if someone else outs us on facebook unwittingly. We're not telling facebook until the baby comes. So far no one IRL has made a comment / question about it or has thought we were weird.

StephanieLove10 · May 2013

coraggiosa:
StephanieLove10:
Another thing to consider is how many FB friends you have, and how close those relationships really are. My husband's cousin has over 900 friends and shared every, single intimate detail about her pregnancy and delivery. I would call that "a bit much"; other people might think that's perfectly normal/cool.
I have less than 70 FB friends, and they are all either actual friends or family members. It's an easy way to update everyone all at once.
To the bolded - nothing makes me want to gag more than seeing a post from someone on facebook about how dilated and effaced they are. That is just straight up strange, if you ask me.

Pictures. From the delivery room. On FB. Yup.

klkbaby · May 2013

I shared a photo on Instagram which is private and I have only people I know fairly well as friends. As for Facebook we didn't share anything but a few people have on their own about us being pregnant. I don't see anything wrong with it but I have way to many people on mine that are just very random and I'd go without wondering what they're thinking since I haven't even advertised I am in a relationship of over a year on it! And I also don't want to go through people asking about names etc. because everyone has an opinion and some people never learned if you don't have something nice to say maybe you shouldn't say it!

Skalbrecht · May 2013

My hub and I did announce it at 14 weeks only bc we live half the country from most our friends and family. No posting gender and ultrasound pics. I think that it's very personal and weird to put that out on the Internet personally. I don't like seeing other ppls so I don't want to put mine out there!

diablesse · May 2013

We never announced on facebook officially, but a couple weeks ago people started mentioning that I looked pregnant in one picture and the cat was out of the bag. By that time, most of my friends on there already knew because I told them in person so I didn't really care. I've never made any posts about being pregnant, but I'm not actively hiding it either. It's just not that big of a deal to me.

AnjaO · May 2013

I haven't yet; only my close family and friends know. I kept thinking, when I get to this milestone, when I get to that milestone. Last week my mom mentioned it on FB, so now I think I probably should get around to it. I think I might just throw up a picture of DS in his big brother shirt and call it a day. I guess if I don't do anything at all, a bunch of people will *** me out for not telling them.

andy711 · May 2013

Are you specifically telling people not to mention it or just waiting for it to come out on its own?

Tally879 · May 2013

We just announced this week on FB. We have a wedding this weekend with friends from college so I knew pictures of me with a bump would be posted so I figured I'd let the discussion be on my wall rather than on someone else's pictures.

Luckymomma4 · May 2013

I announced around 14 weeks and then at 21 weeks announced it was a girl. I have so many family members on my FB and it would be to hard to call all of them. I try to stay away from posting about my pregnancy because I don't want to be that person that posts every little thing.

AnjaO · May 2013

I will also mention that I feel super AW-y and self conscious when I tell people at all. I didn't "announce" at work with DS, and since I'm usually behind a counter, a lot of patients accused me of hiding it (and a bunch of people were shocked when I was out on maternity leave since they didn't know I was pregnant). The whole thing is just so awkward for me, I don't like the attention, and I since my losses, I have an aversion to being congratulated.

satcher08 · May 2013

I did one post after we found out we were having a girl just saying "baby girl will be making her appearance in September". I haven't put anything else since and don't really know that I plan to. I have a friend who posts every little detail of her pregnancy of fb and it drives me nuts.

enhr820 · May 2013

I'm 22 weeks and have kept it completely off FB. I sometimes would like to post things, but I'd rather keep my privacy.

ravenclaw1 · May 2013

andy711:
Are you specifically telling people not to mention it or just waiting for it to come out on its own?

Specifically telling people not to put anything online, actually. And avoiding it myself. People can tell whoever the heck they want in real life, and it's not like I can hide it anymore. I just really don't want it on FB.

staceymack · May 2013

It isn't a big deal to me. People started posting about it before I said anything. It's obvious in pictures. I'm not going to waste my time and energy trying to hide it from anyone. It's not a secret and I'm not ashamed.

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ejb23 · May 2013

We still haven't posted either. I initially thought we just wouldn't until after the baby was here but we are now thinking we might consider it in a couple weeks. DH and I talked about it this weekend and he mentioned maybe just adding a picture of my SD and I and say something along the lines of "my three favorite girls". Like I said, initially I would have screamed no but I'm warming up to the idea...maybe after our next *hopefully* good appointment and the 3d ultrasound coming up in 2 weeks I'll be ready.

waterfall11 · May 2013

We held out until the anatomy scan (19 weeks). I would have held out even longer but DH had been bugging me for weeks about posting since all his friends due in October, November and December had already posted. We only had the one post about the baby so if people missed it they will be surprised once she is here in September.

xxpairofmedicsxx · May 2013

I announced on Mothers Day, but a lot of my immediate family and friends knew sooner. I didn't want people to see pictures of a baby and go, 'she had a baby?' ... lol because while I have about 500600 friends on Facebook. I know all of them from either school, work, various charity programs that I am involved in, etc... and that is the easiest way to tell everyone.

shellyco · May 2013

I'm not on facebook, but my husband kept it off his. It's not a secret but (IMO) Facebook is pretty stupid so we didn't see the point. MIL asked us at about 20 weeks if she could post something and we said yes. She tagged MH in her post but everyone that mattered already knew.

SevenR7 · May 2013

I haven't mentioned anything on FB, but I wouldn't care if someone else did.

It's just something I have decided to do since I find myself annoyed with most FB friends' pregnant updates unless they are close friends that happen to show some good taste. Anyone that cares has been keeping in touch with me other ways, so no need for FB updates, IMO.

ETA: Forgot to mention something kind of funny. DH's aunt heard the news and told her daughter (DH's cousin). DH's cousin said, "Are you sure they are expecting? It doesn't say so on Facebook." Um, really?!? Some people are way too hooked on FB.

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