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Birthday protocol...

DD was invited to a party and we were all set to go, but then she got really sick.  I contacted mom about 24 hours before the party and cancelled.  She said she would save Alex's craft for her (It was a party at Michaels).  Now, not to be ridiculous, cheap or inappropriate, but do I still give her a gift? 

Thanks!

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Re: Birthday protocol...

  • If the girl is a closer friend yes. If it is a ranfom kid at preschool no.




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  • imageKKDRAGONFLY:
    If the girl is a closer friend yes. If it is a ranfom kid at preschool no.

     

    Ditto. 

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  • Thanks. She's a lovely girl with lovely parents from preschool, but they don't play much. I am such a cad when it comes to social expectations.
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  • I'd still give her a gift, something simple though.  Her mom probably paid for your daughter's activity/craft and Michaels and since she said she'd save that for your daughter, I'd go ahead and reciprocate with a gift.  
  • imageMaliaMouse:
    I'd still give her a gift, something simple though. nbsp;Her mom probably paid for your daughter's activity/craft and Michaels and since she said she'd save that for your daughter, I'd go ahead and reciprocate with a gift. nbsp;

    This and if she is nice enough to give you the craft then you should give the kid a gift b
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  • imageMaliaMouse:
    I'd still give her a gift, something simple though. nbsp;Her mom probably paid for your daughter's activity/craft and Michaels and since she said she'd save that for your daughter, I'd go ahead and reciprocate with a gift. nbsp;

    I would.

    Kind of related: Last year a kid from DD1 class couldn't make it to her party but left her a present in her cubby. It was sweet, not necessary obviously but I went ahead and brought in a favor bag and put it in his cubby with a Thank You note.
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    imageMaliaMouse:
    I'd still give her a gift, something simple though. nbsp;Her mom probably paid for your daughter's activity/craft and Michaels and since she said she'd save that for your daughter, I'd go ahead and reciprocate with a gift. nbsp;
    I would. Kind of related: Last year a kid from DD1 class couldn't make it to her party but left her a present in her cubby. It was sweet, not necessary obviously but I went ahead and brought in a favor bag and put it in his cubby with a Thank You note.

    Thanks all.  I ended up putting the present in her backpack at school today.  Frankly I think I was being selfish and didn't want to upset DD by reminding her that she missed the party.   But she actually took it well, wrapped it herself and wrote a sweet note for her.   

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  • jlw2505jlw2505 member
    If you had planned to go and already bought the gift, then yes, I would give it to them.  Chances are the parents had already bought the favors, planned food and all that jazz.  If you had said no up front then giving a gift would be totally optional based on how good of friends the kids are but in this situation, I would still give the gift.
    Jenni Mom to DD#1 - 6-16-06 DD#2 - 3-13-08 
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