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3rd Trimester
AlexisLA
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So sick of mother in law's comments!
AlexisLA
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For months everytime I see her she says "hi, Skinny" and "bye, Skinny." This can either be taken literally so she is saying I look skinny, which obviously I don't since I've gained 36 pounds so far, or sarcastically which means fat. I am not fat, I am pregnant!! She is always reminding me how she only gained 15 pounds during her whole pregnancy not to mention she didn't know she was pregnant until 6 months in and drank Pepsi the whole time while she accuses me of being too concerned with health because I like to eat organic fruits and vegetables. If she calls me skinny one more time I am going to flip out on her.
She also refers to the baby constantly as "Annabelle" because as she says if we won't tell her the real name she'll just have to call the baby something.
Sometimes I think she does these things on purpose just to get under my skin.
Thanks for letting me vent.
She also refers to the baby constantly as "Annabelle" because as she says if we won't tell her the real name she'll just have to call the baby something.
Sometimes I think she does these things on purpose just to get under my skin.
Thanks for letting me vent.
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Re: So sick of mother in law's comments!
BFP #1: 6.26.12 EDD: 2.11.13 missed m/c: 7.31.12 @ 12 weeks
BFP #2: 10.1.12 EDD: 6.11.13 Born 6.13.13
Sorry but I don't think any of that seems bad. A lot of people on here have some real horror stories about their mother-in-law. I love mine. If she called me "skinny," I'd smile and say thanks. And for the weight reminder, I would just say, "That's great you only gained that much!" For the baby, I would call it something too. Good thing "Annabelle" sounds like an actual name. She could be calling it something stupid or offensive. I wouldn't damage a relationship with her because of comments that rub you wrong.
I think this was to me, I've already told my H enough is enough and to tell her body comments are inappropriate. If she does it again I'll give her a whatfor, drama be damned.
I'm with you, I get comments on my weight constantly, and I don't find it polite or appropriate at all.
For me, it's my grandmother. She has told me not to eat too much because she doesn't want a fat granddaughter. Last week, she told me my 19 month old is heavy. When I flipped out on her (not to mention, Li is in the 1st percentile for weight and my pedi said screw nutrition, let her eat ice cream all day, just put weight on her) she told me I was being too sensitive and she wasn't saying anything offensive.
Frankly, people suck.
I literally LOL'd at this.
I never ever believe its ok to belittle someone about their weight. She shouldn't be commenting about it anyway.
haha DO IT. Gawd. Do it OP. Your MIL* needs a good cuntpunch.
LFAF Summer 2016 Awards:
I haven't worked up the courage yet to say anything to MIL about the skinny comment and I have 4 weeks left so thinking about just trying to ignore it until then. But if she says anything once the baby gets here I'll have to tell her to stop.
Instead, tonight I was passive aggressive about and just left our house when she said it. I stayed out until I figured she'd be gone. She said it in front of DH. When I got back he didn't ask me where I went but things have been tense. He thinks she can do no wrong and when I've brought it up in the past he's taken her side so I am not going to bother but I'm not going to apologize for anything either. He knows how I feel about her "conversational style." I know, it's dysfunctional..
So I guess I sort of did what you suggested here but I'd call my actions passive aggressive because I didn't tell them why I left. I just knew if I stayed I'd let my emotions get the best of me because this has been building for so long. I want to be calm when / if I say something to her.
"I'd appreciate it in the future if you kept your comments about my body (and my childrens bodies) to yourself. Thanks!"
Come on, you and me OP, we'll do it together
And come back and post about the hellfire that rained down afterwords 
I am sending her an email right now saying:
"Can you please stop calling me "skinny?" I don't know what it means since I am not skinny or fat, just pregnant, but calling someone skinny or fat, jokingly or not, pregnant or not, is never nice and so naturally it bothers me. Also, can you please stop calling the baby Annabelle? You can just call her "the baby" or "little pookie" if you need a nickname."
Aren't MILs fun? Ours must be related or something.
I think mine is self conscious about her weight, and tries to put me down to make herself feel better. She is such a horrible person. I don't know how my FIL puts up with her.
SURPRISE! BFP: 12/2014 - EDD: 8/13/15
We made plans and God laughed
DS: BFP: 9/30/12 - EDD: 6/9/13
Radley Quinn was fashionably late via induction on 6/17/13
My great aunt saw me the one time, lifted up the back of my cardigan and said to my @ss, "wow.. you've put on weight... When I was pregnant, I only gained 8 lbs b/c I didn't want my doctor getting angry at me for getting heavy... I was able to touch my toes when I was 9 months pregnant!"
My response: So basically you starved yourself while you were pregnant and you're proud of it? Good for you! No wonder Bobby is the way he is.
She hasn't spoken to me since and I am QUITE happy with it.
SURPRISE! BFP: 12/2014 - EDD: 8/13/15
We made plans and God laughed
DS: BFP: 9/30/12 - EDD: 6/9/13
Radley Quinn was fashionably late via induction on 6/17/13
Of course she didn't write me back even though I know she read it. I did notice she called my husband though and I don't know what she said but he's not talking to me this evening now. I refuse to apologize for standing up for myself.
Ahhh, this could be my mother in law you're writing about!
Get used to it. It's only going to continue and annoy you even more after your baby is born. Soon she will be annoying you with similar little comments about your parenting. She'll also be sure to point out how all of your child's traits come from her side of the family.
It's frustrating, but it is kind of fun to try and come up with good come-backs for the comments.
Hate to say it but your husband sounds like a jerk. You finally stand up for yourself and call her out on her bad behavior and he ignores you ? Why is her happiness more important than yours ? Aren't you the one he vowed to " put above all others and let no one come between ?"
I actually angry for you right now.