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1 year old minor sleep issues

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Mobile: 1 year old minor sleep issues

 

I am struggling with something....

DD sleeps through the night in her crib perfectly fine about 50% of the time. 

The other 50% she wakes up around 1:30 whimpering, so I just kind of let that go, but it ALWAYS turns into a full-blown cry.  I don't feel comfortable just leaving her there upset, but I am scared that by always going to pick her up and bring her to our bed, that I am not teaching her how to settle herself.

Once she is in our bed, she konks right back to sleep.

I am scared that I am doing more damage than good at this point.  Yes, I understand that being able to rely on me is VERY important, but I also think there is something to be said for trusting in her and having confidence in her and her ability to settle as well.  I just don't know how to listen to her scream for an hour.

She gets to the point where she stands up, so I am not quite sure how to Ferber her when she is standing.  When I go in there, she gets more upset than anything.  I swear she will cry for an hour or more if I let her and that idea makes me sick to my stomach.

I have also noticed that lately she doesn't just go into her crib without an issue any more.  There was a delightful period of time where I would feed her her last bottle and she would settle and roll right out of my arms into her crib.  Now she has a meltdown.  I let her CIO because the going to bed cry only lasts about 10 minutes.  The middle of the night one lasts FOREVER. 

I will say that she is breaking molars and I think that is part of it, but the inconsistent sleeping through the night has been a regular issue. 

It is like she hates being in her crib alone and I don't know how to fix that.  We introduced a lovey and it isn't helping. 

How do you all deal with a toddler night waking/standing up crying?    

Sorry for the novel, I am just trying to explain everything as best I can :) 

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Re: 1 year old minor sleep issues

  • Missa_gMissa_g member
    I feel your pain. I really really do. We're still doing our own modified Ferber. If they're standing I lay them back down and pat their butt gently until they stop fussing. I'll go in several times after five minutes, then move to ten. If they're hardcore crying I go right in, fussing I let them try to work it out themselves. I don't think there is any right answer. If you're happy with the part time bed sharing I don't think it's damaging her at all. But if you're unhappy trying different things won't damage her either.
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  • ikissedthecookikissedthecook
    This probably isn't going to help you, but I bring him to bed with me. If that ends up being a good solution for you all, and it is for some people, just know you're not alone. :
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