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I hate family sometimes

arizonateaarizonatea member
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My cousin is 18 and we haven't talked very much lately, but she's always been my best friend even though she's can be immature. I told her that FH and I are expecting (she doesn't like him and I have no idea why) and she was cool at first, but then yesterday I got a text and she said, "I wish you would have waited". And I tried explaining that this was a surprise but she just responded with, "Let me clarify then- I wish you would have been more careful".

I got pregnant ON birth control, and she is a child with no right to criticize. I just wanted to share with someone I thought I could trust but nope!

/endvent

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Re: I hate family sometimes

  • babymama619babymama619 member
    I think you just have to let it go no matter how much it hurts. She's young and the pregnancy probably isn't a real person yet to her.

    You might even want to validate her. I too have an unplanned pregnancy and while its bit the way I would have hoped to be pregnant, it's the way I got here. It is what it is and I'm choosing to be happy about it.

    Good luck

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  • sharinfaithsharinfaith member

    I can somewhat relate to what you're going through. My cousin and I are best friends (or were best friends), even 500 miles apart. I finally saw her when DD was 9mo, and all she could do was stare and say "It's so weird to see you with a baby on your hip!" the entire visit. Then she was pretty upset when I wouldn't drink with her (I was still nursing). And she's 32. 

    Sometimes people, family or not, will grow apart as one matures faster than the other. Bear with it and enjoy what you can. Don't shun her just yet, she'll need your advice/opinions when she has a LO one day. 

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  • inthelostinthelost member
    I understand and can relate. I dislike my family too. My sister and my mom both refer to me as a "***" since I have gotten pregnant and they say I do nothing but "*** about the situation that I got myself into it, and they're tired of hearing about it" It doesn't help that when I asked my sister to be with me for her niece's birth she said no but she was there for her husband's sister, and also plans to be there for her husband's brother's wife as well. Family is a pain in the sometimes. I would just overlook her comments: she's only 18 and probably immature, I'm sorry she's giving you a hard time about it though. You're only five weeks and she probably needs time to process it. She's still a teenager with very llitle life experience..I would say something along the lines of that sometimes, things just happen that are unexpected, but we choose to make the best of it. And that's what your doing.
    Liliana Seraphina born 9/5/2103


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