Push Present

chiboo9 · May 2013

What's your take on push presents? Too presumptuous? Or appropriate? For STM's or BTDT, did you get one from your SO?

A coworker asked me today if DH is planning on getting me a push present. She had a baby 2 years ago and her DH got her a ring. I have cousins who have given birth who also received jewelry from their DH.

Was just curious to see if this was popular in your circle.

Lelo2006 · May 2013

I like them. Haha. If I don't get one, I will not be upset. I would rather the money go towards the baby.

That being said... Wouldn't be upset if I do get one!

[Deleted User] · May 2013

I don't care either way. I don't expect anything but if I happen to recieve something I'll definitely take it:)

RumbleLina · May 2013

Did not get one from MH with my son and I will not this time. I don't feel like I need a present for carrying our child or delivering her and I would rather that be spent on something towards the baby...or the massive bills I know that will be coming our way post birth.

Liz4444 · May 2013

Got one for Li and already got the one for this baby. I call them my baby bracelets.

SplashingFishy · May 2013

Not a fan. Sure I'm doing a lot of work through this pregnancy, and its taking a toll on my body, but it has affected DH too. He gets up with DS every morning so I can get a little extra sleep, and has been doing more around the house. If he it me a push gift, I'd probably go out and get him one too.

kt012885 · May 2013

I'm with others- if I get something, that'd be really sweet BUT I'm not expecting anything.

When we got married- I joked that he should get the 3rd band to my ring when we had a baby- but that was 2 years ago and I'm not really sure I want that much money spent to get the 3rd band at this point.

arlingirl · May 2013

Asbromle:
I don't care either way. I don't expect anything but if I happen to recieve something I'll definitely take it:)

This.

Britnpat · May 2013

Don't you get gifts at the baby shower? I told hubby that since we are the only ones who know the gender I wanted him to pick out the going home outfit for the baby as my gift...then we'd open it in private. This could be thought of as a push present, but it for the baby, not me, so I don't think it counts as a push present. I'm not expecting one either

dinomama13 · May 2013

Asbromle:
I don't care either way.nbsp; I don't expect anything but if I happen to recieve something I'll definitely take it:

Same here. DH already works to support us and I get to stay home and relax and grow this baby in peace so that's gift enough c: but I won't turn down my phone upgrade come July I he decides to get it for me! haha I really do want this one ring I saw on etsy though. It's hand crafted and had baby's name and birth date on it c:

queenbone · May 2013

This isn't a thing where I live. If anyone I know has received a push present, they certainly haven't bragged about it because I can't think of anyone who has received one.

Someone asked DH if he was going to get me one when I was pregnant with DS2, he had never heard of it and I told him it wasn't necessary.

fabk · May 2013

Mamasighs:
The baby is my push present.

This!

queenbone · May 2013

SplashingFishy:
Not a fan. Sure I'm doing a lot of work through this pregnancy, and its taking a toll on my body, but it has affected DH too. He gets up with DS every morning so I can get a little extra sleep, and has been doing more around the house. If he it me a push gift, I'd probably go out and get him one too.

This is kinda how I feel too. DH is 100% my teammate in this process. Not only does he do his fair share of parenting, he also picks up my slack w/o complaint (like last night he came home and made dinner because I was in bed exhausted from chaperoning a field trip.) Maybe if my DH didn't participate at all in parenting or housework I might feel differently about push presents.

JellyTwoPointO · May 2013

Push present?! That seems awfully materialism and gift centered to me. Shouldn't your BABY be your "push present?"

jennipalmer · May 2013

My DH gives me so much if he gave me a gift I wouldn't label it push present and I wouldn't expect a gift. I don't personally like the label

sloturtle · May 2013

I may be behind the times, but what is a "push present"? (A lot has changed since I had my baby 12 years ago)

dinomama13 · May 2013

sloturtle:
I may be behind the times, but what is a "push present"? A lot has changed since I had my baby 12 years ago

Basically a gift Your SO gets you for pushing out your baby lol I explained it to my DH saying it was just like a birthday gift or anniversary but I get it for carrying and growing the baby and going through hell to get him out. That about covers all the fine points c;

ceechie · May 2013

I have friends who got jewelry. That was cute, but they asked for it. And i thought that was odd. If the hubby felt proud and compelled to do that. Awesome.
But I just say, new poo, new baby, new bag please. So, he's gotten me a new fancy diaper bag for the babies. Thank you my love, can't wait to fill it with wipes and binkies!

AllMyDucksInARow · May 2013

I am a gift person. I love giving gifts, and I appreciate when people take the time and thought to get me something. I did not expect a "push present" with DS1, but my husband did get me a gift to commemorate the upcoming arrival of our son. However, I had also purchased a gift for him. I got him a really nice set of cuff links that he will pass down to our son on his first special occassion event. We both did this unbeknownst to the other and it was a special moment we shared when we ended up exchanging the presents.

I don't see a problem with someone doing something thoughtful for someone else. If the person demands a push present, that's one thing, but some people seem to get their feathers ruffled over push presents. I don't get it.

monalisa577 · May 2013

Eh, don't see the point of them, honestly. I seriously doubt DH has ever heard of it, and I'm not going to bring it up. If by some miracle he wants to buy me something, then great, but I don't expect one and I certainly don't think I deserve one. Having a healthy baby is more than enough reward for me.

mittensonkittens · May 2013

I'm not a fan. But I think it would have been nice for DH to get me flowers in the hospital.

emandia · May 2013

I've never heard of this??

Cookies2013 · May 2013

arlingirl:
Asbromle:
I don't care either way. I don't expect anything but if I happen to recieve something I'll definitely take it:)
This.

My husband bought me a necklace with our first daughter and I was shocked bc I had never heard of this....then I saw the credit card statement and was annoyed that he spent so much bc we are on a tighter budget with me staying at home now! Then we had a 2nd daughter and he wanted to do a similar thing....bc obviously someday we will give the necklaces to each daughter. NOW we are having our 3rd girl and we were both thinking it was going to be a boy so and he and I both agree...well don't want #3 to feel slighted bc she doesn't get one!!!

I think it was a sweet gesture but I wouldn't have been upset any of the times or expected something like this....I kind of want a fridge as my push present for this one but I don't think my daughter will like that 18 years from now or whenever we decide to give the items to them

Dubs1978 · May 2013

Asbromle:
I don't care either way. I don't expect anything but if I happen to receive something I'll definitely take it:)

This is totally me. I was really pleased to get a mother's day gift from the hubby. I can't wait to do his father's day gift!

PrimRoseMama · May 2013

I don't get into material push presents because I feel like I have enough stuff. What I like as a sort of push present is something I can use that I don't have to find a place for.

For example, bring me food after Labor. Get me a massage the first month after baby. A nice dinner out once a month. Maybe an hour or two to myself on the weekend just to decompress. I, personally, appreciate these ideas more than keepsake jewelry or a new purse.

Different strokes for different folks.

juliet73537 · May 2013

Jellybean902:
Push present?! That seems awfully materialism and gift centered to me. Shouldn't your BABY be your "push present?"

This

pantsarella · May 2013

Normally I think these types of things are lame. BUT, I did just get my "push gift" from DH yesterday (I'm 32 weeks). It's an ipad and we've gone about 2 years without a laptop or anything and I'm going to use to stream shows/edit pictures/etc while I'm nursing. So he'll use it, too. So it was more of a group decision about something that would add to our home...but with the baby as a reason to get it.

sparkymcgeee · May 2013

I think if the husband surprises his wife with something then it's fine. It's just a gift to show his love for his wife for something she did. If the wife EXPECTS a gift then I think it's a bunch of crap. It's selfish, gift grabby, presumptious, etc.

In my opinion my child is my gift. I worked hard to get him here and I'm happy to have him. My husband has been right there the whole time helping me and supporting me and doing what he can to make this time easier on me. He will help care for the child when he arrives and I know he appreciates what I've done to expand my family. I don't need a piece of jewelry to show me that. All he has to do is say it and I'm good.

[Deleted User] · May 2013

A couple that my fiance and I are close with, her husband got her a pair or pearl earrings and a smaller pair for their new daughter. It was packaged where the smaller pair was set under the bigger pair and I thought it was adorable. They'll be their daughters first earrings. He gave them to her at the hospital and it was very sweet. Sorry, just a story I wanted to share.

sonshine0609 · May 2013

I always thought they were kind of silly. I'm with PP's that the baby should be your present. That being said I did get a nice charm bracelet from my mother the day my oldest was born.

sloturtle · May 2013

leahaziele91:
sloturtle:
I may be behind the times, but what is a "push present"? A lot has changed since I had my baby 12 years ago
Basically a gift Your SO gets you for pushing out your baby lol I explained it to my DH saying it was just like a birthday gift or anniversary but I get it for carrying and growing the baby and going through hell to get him out. That about covers all the fine points c;

Thank You for the explanation!!

amylianne · May 2013

There aren't a ton of people in our circle with babies, everyone is just going through the wedding stage late starters, ourselves included! But, push presents have made an appearance in our group. They're thoughtful, and, since I've mostly seen jewelry, it's a happy reminder of your LO whenever you wear it, even if they are not with you. That being said, it would just stress me out that DH spent on something that isn't a necessity when there are so many new expenses and my income will be temporarily minimal. Not worth it for us!

ecampbell80 · May 2013

This will be my third baby and I've never gotten one. I think they're a little overrated. The child is the gift.

SMac85 · May 2013

My husband got me a ring with my sons birthstone after he was born. I didn't expect a push present but it was a very nice gesture and I love the ring. I wear it every day and love the sentimental value it has. I'm not expecting a push present this time but won't be surprised if I receive something after with this ones birthstone.

dontgiveupnomatterwhat · May 2013

Yes! Everyone woman deserves a push present...and I think it's rude to NOT give us one for all the work we did over nine months, creating, carrying, and delivering the baby...to not reward me for that is just so down right rude and unthoughtful.

JUUUUUST kidding. I just wanted to see how it felt to say it.

I'm not interested in getting a push present from my husband...at this point, I just hope to be the best mom and wife I can be...and to make it through the delivery without totally freaking out.

themargo · May 2013

i got one for my son, didn't ask for it. it was a nice watch. he's already mentioned one for this baby, and i'm not complaining

TCoker456 · May 2013

My husband is actually the one who told me about these.. I guess he IS actually doing his homework lol. I'm okay with one or without one. Who wouldn't want a present? Though I would never ASK for one I definately think we deserve something for all our hard work, the adorable bundle of joy is absolutely enough but we have to share that with him too and he didn't do anything for it!

lilygrace · May 2013

My husband told me that he wanted to get me a gift for when she's born. I asked him to hire me a personal trainer at our gym to help me get back into running when I'm cleared to exercise.

I hate jewelry, but I love my half marathon medals

valstulas · May 2013

I've never received one, but I think it's a nice gesture. Yes, the baby is the ultimate gift, but a mother has sacrificed a lot to bring LO into the world, and the recognition of that through gifting is thoughtful. Of course, gifting is not the only way that a man can express his gratitude to his wife. I'm also not upset that I've never received a push present.