can we do a MIL vent?

hoot179 · May 2013

It never fails. when ever i see mil, I leave pissed off and I feel that way for days! anyone else?? what has your mil done lately to annoy the sh!t out of you (because I swear, they do it on purpose!)

roxpink · May 2013

Oh Jesus.... Do you have a year to listen to what I have to say about my MIL!

But I do love hearing I'm not alone!

hoot179 · May 2013

SIL and I agree, she should just hang a banner that says "F You, Daughter In Laws!". we ordered a custom frame for her birthday in MARCH that said, there's these boys who stole my heart, they call me Nan. sil and I got together and took pics of her only two grandchildren and put it in the frame. last week I went to drop off O for the night and noticed the pic was in a new frame hanging on the wall. she said she was trying to get rid of her table frames because it felt too cluttered. she still has about ten frames sitting around. I asked where the frame was that we got her (maybe she put it in her bedroom, I thought) and she said, oh I put it in the closet! NEXT, I said no cows milk for Owen, it constipates him. I left a gallon of almond milk. well, guess who got cows milk and was constipated from Sunday to Tuesday!!?? WTF!

hoot179 · May 2013

roxpink:
Oh Jesus.... Do you have a year to listen to what I have to say about my MIL!
But I do love hearing I'm not alone!

that's how i feel, just when I start getting over something she strikes again!

jen4ny · May 2013

We took my MIL to see our new house. She liked the house but said the town was a dump! The town is not a dump. I was so annoyed at her and told her she thinks that because she lives in a "rich" town.

mnewlee · May 2013

hoot179:
SIL and I agree, she should just hang a banner that says "F You, Daughter In Laws!". we ordered a custom frame for her birthday in MARCH that said, there's these boys who stole my heart, they call me Nan. sil and I got together and took pics of her only two grandchildren and put it in the frame. last week I went to drop off O for the night and noticed the pic was in a new frame hanging on the wall. she said she was trying to get rid of her table frames because it felt too cluttered. she still has about ten frames sitting around. I asked where the frame was that we got her (maybe she put it in her bedroom, I thought) and she said, oh I put it in the closet! NEXT, I said no cows milk for Owen, it constipates him. I left a gallon of almond milk. well, guess who got cows milk and was constipated from Sunday to Tuesday!!?? WTF!

Geeze, that's terrible. I cannot imagine doing that with a gift that was thoughtfully picked out for me.

Thankfully my MIL is several hours away and that makes for a smoother relationship. She was annoyed with us on Mothers Day because she got her dates mixed up and thought we were coming up for it. She also had planned to ride back down here and stay with us for a week...she made those plans without consulting us.

solsburyhill · May 2013

Oh man Hoot, that's just mean : (

missbrightside10 · May 2013

Not cool Hoot. I'd be livid if MIL had given Max cow's milk before he grew out of his milk protein sensitivity. My feelings would be hurt about the picture frame too.

My MIL is just a little too involved. I just wish she would back off a little.

bluejetta · May 2013

We generally have a good relationship but scheduling visits is always delicate because they always want to see us more than I can handle.

Sat night MIL calls DH to say they have booked a trip in June because there was a fare sale at JetBlue and they had to book by midnight and didn't want to call us at 10pm. Instead they called BIL (whom they stay with) and set trip that worked with his schedule for 6 days / 5 nights over fathers day weekend. The timing doesn't bother me but they thought it a bigger inconveninece to call at 10pm NOT that they booked a trip without talking to us. They get WAY bent out of shape if we don't spend enough time with them but then book trips without talking to us. NOT cool.

I've asked DH to talk with them about visits and he doesn't. If he doesn't bring it oup when they are here I will as I will not tolerate surprise visits or planning that doesn't include us -- its rude.

vnstacie · May 2013

My mil is passive aggressive.

She complains we don't send her pictures, but then never comments when we do. The il's are over bearing and think the world revolves around them, I had to be in town for court for a few days, not only could I not stay where I wanted to stay, but mil and sil would show up to the grandmothers house and wait for us. Uhhh no.

CMheart1011 · May 2013

My MIL issues are unique, because she's not mean, exactly, and she doesn't do things spitefully. She's actually well-intentioned, but annoying and overbearing and sometimes childish. She tends to get really excited about things, and then she kind-of makes them all about her. Her feelings get hurt super easily, and I get tired of having to coddle her. She and her new husband live two hours away, so we Skype sometimes, but we can't get a word in edgewise because she's always competing with L for attention. Like, L will say, "arm" and point to hers. Next thing you know, MIL is dancing around, practically knocking her H over going, "I have an arm too, L! I have an arm too!" She claims to be shy and uncomfortable being the center of attention, but when we're all together it turns into the MIL show.

babybmom · May 2013

CMheart1011:
My MIL issues are unique, because she's not mean, exactly, and she doesn't do things spitefully. She's actually well-intentioned, but annoying and overbearing and sometimes childish. She tends to get really excited about things, and then she kind-of makes them all about her. Her feelings get hurt super easily, and I get tired of having to coddle her. She and her new husband live two hours away, so we Skype sometimes, but we can't get a word in edgewise because she's always competing with L for attention. Like, L will say, "arm" and point to hers. Next thing you know, MIL is dancing around, practically knocking her H over going, "I have an arm too, L! I have an arm too!" She claims to be shy and uncomfortable being the center of attention, but when we're all together it turns into the MIL show.

this sounds like my own mom lol

My MIL is pretty great. The only thing she really does that drives me batty is that she always jokes that there's "no rules at Grandma's house" but there needs to be a limit, I think, and she doesn't have one. If we do try to set any sort of ground rules, she will roll her eyes and say, "we'll see" with a laugh. She thinks naps, even for babies, are optional. Bedtime is just a idea. Cupcakes and ice cream for breakfast are ok. I'm ok with her spoiling the kids within reason, but she's sending the wrong message, and our neice and nephew, who are 5 and 3, have already caught on.

bets2011 · May 2013

vnstacie:
My mil is passive aggressive.
She complains we don't send her pictures, but then never comments when we do. The il's are over bearing and think the world revolves around them, I had to be in town for court for a few days, not only could I not stay where I wanted to stay, but mil and sil would show up to the grandmothers house and wait for us. Uhhh no.

The bolded describes my ILs exactly. And they live about 20 minutes from me, so I have to deal with them a lot.

alli&dan · May 2013

babybmom:

CMheart1011:
My MIL issues are unique, because she's not mean, exactly, and she doesn't do things spitefully. She's actually well-intentioned, but annoying and overbearing and sometimes childish. She tends to get really excited about things, and then she kind-of makes them all about her. Her feelings get hurt super easily, and I get tired of having to coddle her. She and her new husband live two hours away, so we Skype sometimes, but we can't get a word in edgewise because she's always competing with L for attention. Like, L will say, "arm" and point to hers. Next thing you know, MIL is dancing around, practically knocking her H over going, "I have an arm too, L! I have an arm too!" She claims to be shy and uncomfortable being the center of attention, but when we're all together it turns into the MIL show.

this sounds like my own mom lol

My MIL is pretty great. The only thing she really does that drives me batty is that she always jokes that there's "no rules at Grandma's house" but there needs to be a limit, I think, and she doesn't have one. If we do try to set any sort of ground rules, she will roll her eyes and say, "we'll see" with a laugh. She thinks naps, even for babies, are optional. Bedtime is just a idea. Cupcakes and ice cream for breakfast are ok. I'm ok with her spoiling the kids within reason, but she's sending the wrong message, and our neice and nephew, who are 5 and 3, have already caught on.

This is my MIL. She's really pretty great and always makes herself available for B. In fact, she gets kind of sad if she doesn't see her every day. But she lets her get away with murder. She lets B play with her iPhone, Kindle, etc. She won't put her down for a nap until B's practically passing out standing up, then she'll sleep until 4 or 5 and not want to go to bed that night. She gives her Lucky Charms for snack and laughs that B only likes the marshmallows.

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