Why do you want a boy/what is so good about having a boy?

kimberlygo · May 2013

I just found out that I'm having a boy. I'm so happy, but always pictured myself with a girl. Its strange, but I cannot imagine raising a boy. I know there are a bunch of ladies on this board that love being a mommy to a little boy and there are a bunch of ladies who really want a baby boy. So, please tell me the wonderful things about having a boy, so I can start picturing all of those great things.

JaysonandKristin · May 2013

I never imagined having boys either, but they're so awesome. I'm not far enough into this parenting gig to actually have experienced them really commit to gender roles. Just watching my MIL with DH and her 3 sons, looking at family albums from their childhoods... it puts it all into perspective.

We are having a fantastic time raising our boys... Hell, I'd love another. We'll see next weekend whether we're raising only boys or we're throwing a little girl into the mix.

sarenu1 · May 2013

For me, it's more about wanting one of each. My husband would like his name passed on (he's the only boy in his family to have kids). And I think my dad would love to have another grandson (he has 4 granddaughters and 1 grandson).

As for the difference, I couldn't tell you right now. I'm going to encourage my daughter to play with the toys she wants to have. Whether it's barbies, lincoln logs, legos, or action figures. I'm also going to encourage her to play any sport she wants to.

I love dressing her in pretty jumpers and dresses, but I also like buying her little boy pj's (monsters, dinasaurs, and pirates are so much fun). And I'm very tempted to buy a couple little boy polo shirts for her. I mean seriously, why don't they have cute little girl polo shirts?

Personally, I don't see a difference between how my nephew acted and how my daughter is at her current age.

BeachCouple · May 2013

sarenu1:
For me, it's more about wanting one of each. My husband would like his name passed on (he's the only boy in his family to have kids). And I think my dad would love to have another grandson (he has 4 granddaughters and 1 grandson).

As for the difference, I couldn't tell you right now. I'm going to encourage my daughter to play with the toys she wants to have. Whether it's barbies, lincoln logs, legos, or action figures. I'm also going to encourage her to play any sport she wants to.

I love dressing her in pretty jumpers and dresses, but I also like buying her little boy pj's (monsters, dinasaurs, and pirates are so much fun). And I'm very tempted to buy a couple little boy polo shirts for her. I mean seriously, why don't they have cute little girl polo shirts?

Personally, I don't see a difference between how my nephew acted and how my daughter is at her current age.

If you have a Tommy Hilfiger outlet near you, I always find super cute girl's polo shirts there in a rainbow of different colors.

Chargersgrl33 · May 2013

I have to say I felt the same way about having a boy at first. I was in shock, not a bad way, just wasn't sure what to do. I didn't grow up around little boys so it was new to me. Now that I have an 18 month old son I can't see myself raising a girl. It's kind of weird. He is tough, gentle, sweet, and a mamas boy. He loves his trucks and balls but would rather cuddle with mama sometimes. I love the bond between him and DH. He loves his Daddy more than anything and is constantly asking where he is at during the day. It breaks my heart when Daddy is away for long periods of time. But I have to say congrats to you on having a boy!!! You are in for the ride of your life:)

lafsalot · May 2013

For me, I have done the girl things I helped raise my sister because she was 10 years younger, and I had a step daughter with my first marriage. I have wanted a son since I was in high school though, I have just always imagined myself as the soccer mom, playing ball and having a house full of hungry boys to feed with all the friends. I babysat a lot in high school and while in college to make spending and the little boys were always fun to play with and watch. The girls were just different, they were more thirsty for one on one time and less interested in cooperative play than boys. Not that all girls are that way or all boys play well with others. Any child is a blessing and we will be happy with either but would love to be a soccer mom running from game to game. And yes girls play soccer too!

JSB814 · May 2013

I honestly don't know what it is but I have always seen myself with a little boy.

However, after our NT Scan and hearing we will have a boy (will be getting a 2nd opinion from my OB since the scan was at 14 weeks and we want to be sure before we go tell anyone and buy things) I realize I have no idea how to raise one! LOL! I kind of freaked out internally!

I only have a sister so I can't really ask my mom about raising boys specifically but my MIL raised 2 boys (Hubby and his brother) and 1 girl so I'll be going to her for advice! I also have lots of cousins who have boys as well...

One day, I'd love to have a little girl but I'm really excited to have our son

mommas6 · May 2013

I've got two boys ... ages 5 6. I absolutely love having boys!! They are loud, jump around on everything, love dirt, and are constantly making messes ... but I think some girls maybe get into all of that too. The best thing I've found about boys though is how they LOVE their momma!!! They can be so sweet!! And nothing compares to that feeling of knowing my husband and I are doing our best to raise our boys to be gentlemen! I was nervous about having boys, but theybhave completely stolen my heart and I can't imagine life without all the superheroes, sports equipment, stinky shoes, and sweaty hugs and kisses!! ::mobile smiley::

I'm pregnant with our 3rd and would love to have a girl, but will be completely happy if its another boy! Hope you have a happy healthy pregnancy!

SharonB222 · May 2013

Just wanted to say thanks for posting the question. I am one of two girls, have a DD and am a touch nervous about raising a DS... good to read the responses.

blessedylimama · May 2013

I am sure this doesn't apply to all but from what I have seen from my sister's 3 girls to my one boy-Boys are WAY LESS DRAMA! He has his moments, but not everything is the end of the world. I love that DS looks identical to DH and I love to dress them in coordinating outfits (cheesy I know!). I also love how protective of Mommy he is.

Congrats on the boy! I couldn't imagine having a boy either-I have an older half brother I didn't meet til 8yo so I spent most of my childhood with just my sister and then she only had girls so I knew nothing about boys! But when he arrived I was so excited! I think parenting (no matter the gender) is a learning process of trial & error. Sometimes you get it right, sometimes you get it wrong, but as long as everything you do is to better your child's life, you won't mess them up too bad!

DebateThis · May 2013

Teenage girls terrify me. Stick out tongue

artistlife · May 2013

Boys are easy, yet clingy. They love their Mommies. DS is so sweet and cuddly. My neices were both independent, prickly, little divas.

He is completely boy. He loves cars and transformers. He is so daring it scares me sometimes.

I wanted a boy from the get go. I was a tomboy growing up. I had 3 older brothers and no sisters. Girls scare the bejeezus out of me.

I will not know what to do with a little girl, especially if she is a diva like my neices. I still want to have a daughter though.

Lawmom516 · May 2013

Little boys are the greatest thing ever. Mine us turning 4 tomorrow. He's my sweet boy, I couldn't think of anything greater then to be his mommy! He's loves cuddling, but he also loves working on the car with daddy and playing sports. I don't know what we're having yet with this LO, but I almost can't imagine what to do with a girl. guess we'll see. You'll do great.

JKB1986 · May 2013

I have two boys and am hoping for a girl this time because I'm sure being a mom to a girl has it's own wonderful things that I want to experience. I really can't put into words how wonderful it is to have little boys though. My two are night and day different and it's fun with both. DS1 is my sweet cuddler. He is so sweet to his little brother and I love watching that protective nature he has for his brother. DS2 is my little sassy pants. He loves to get into things he knows he isn't supposed to and then runs like a thief laughing hysterically when you catch him. During the middle of the night last night DS1 came running into our room yelling Mom! Mom! Mom!! I asked him what was wrong and his reply was "Pider!!" (spider). He had a nightmare about spiders and needed to climb into bed with me to be safe. I'm sure little girls do the same thing but I picture a girl running to daddy for safety. I love that my son runs to his mommy when he is hurt or scared. There is just nothing better!

fluttergirlmoonchild79 · May 2013

DebateThis:
Teenage girls terrify me.

This! I remember how well my mom and I didn't get a long for years. I also don't want to have to argue with my daughter to stop dressing like she should be on a street corner.

72roadrunner · May 2013

I have a lot of different reasons for wanting a boy first. DH's family name will die off with him if we do not carry a boy at some point. I have been a tomboy most of my life and I cannot picture myself with a little girl the first time around. DH and I are very much into cars and it would be neat to have a car nursery and boy themed things the first time around, it seems so much easier for us to do things for a boy the first time around then stressing on what girl things to do that will not come to us quite as easy. My 2 closest gf's from hs have little boys, and they can be playmates and I can feed off of them for a lot of advice, etc on little boys, they can also share clothes etc.

I do however wish for 1 of each. Part of me wants to have 1 and 1, but then part of me wants 2 and 1. I of course want to get through 1 first before saying how many more..

In all honesty, I would like a boy first, but if not DH and I will be extremely happy with a little girl and I'm sure we will be perfectly fine!

LuClo · May 2013

DebateThis:
Teenage girls terrify me.

Yup. Whatever your feelings are now, from age 13-22 you will be grateful for your boy. He may be awkward and smelly during those years, but he won't hate his mother the way only a hormonal teenage girl can.

NL105 · May 2013

For us, it's that we would just love to have one of each, so we can experience both worlds. I mean, who wouldn't want that? (Not trying to say that in a condescending way). I would prefer a girl first if I had the choice, just because I think I would be able to relate immediately and down the line more to her, but in reality we're just thrilled to be pregnant and starting a family of our own.

ColinTheRobot · May 2013

I'm totally coming out of lurkdom to post this, so sorry in advance!

But I never could get "into" the idea of having boys until I read the blog Baby Making by Becky. She has twin boys, and seeing all her photos, hearing her stories...makes me think maybe, just maybe, I would rather this baby was a boy. But we won't find out until next month

https://babymakingbybecky.blogspot.com/

bosoxy · May 2013

With my first, I always wanted a boy. They always seemed easier and more fun. Now that my son is 13, I realize it has nothing to do with gender, but personality. You can have an easy going girl that does boy things or a difficult boy that is boring. And just like girls, boys get harder to parent as they get older. This time, I will be happy no matter what, but want the experience of raising a girl (I have a stepdaughter, but don't feel like I have "raised" her).

kimberlygo · May 2013

I just wanted to thank everyone for responding. Once I got over my shock and was able to think about how great its going to be to have a boy I got so excited. I cannot wait! Thank you again

isacdimi10 · May 2013

I have two little boys but they're very little.

My oldest boy is NOT the boy I expected. I grew up with a brother who used to lock me in closets, set his lizard loose in my room... stuff like that.

My boy is something different. He loves trucks and cars, driving them around the room and running into his sister. At the same time I trust him more with his baby brother than I do my DD. He's loving and seems to know when to give kisses and pat the baby and when to back off. DD on the other hand is ALWAYS hands on.

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