TTC in Movies and TV

jjgrl55 · May 2013

What are your favorite and least favorite depictions of TTC in movies and TV?

I have yet to find a show that seemed like the writers had any clue about TTC. I was watching The L Word last night and one of the women said her egg had "implanted" so they had two or three days to find a sperm donor. Whaa....?

Though my absolute least favorite is Sex and the City. The scene where Charlotte is doing a "fertility exercise" (she is lifting her hips up and down while laying in bed), she checks her magic BBT watch (?!?!?!) and tells her husband that according to her BBT, she won't ovulate for 5 days so he needs to conserve his sperm until then. You know, so his dead sperm can impregnate the egg that she can't possibly know will actually be there for sure.

SO.MUCH.WRONG. No wonder most women have no flucking clue how their bodies work.

Also, I have no personal experience with infertility, but I would imagine the depiction of Charlotte's infertility is way off as well. I do know that she goes in for testing after only 4 months of trying.

PreDempsey · May 2013

Mike and Molly addressed TTC concerns on their episode last night! I might be biased because I love that show but I feel they did a good job. They've been TTC for a while and Molly gets really discouraged and Mike realizes how badly he wants it too. It's tough because Molly is a teacher and takes care of everyone's children but her own and so many people can relate to it.

I feel like handstands = conception are popularized in TV/movies.

RingOfFire11 · May 2013

Marley & Me. They had trouble TTC and had a m/c as well. It was very relatable for me although they were baby making machines after the issues in the beginning - I hope that's the case this time around.

plutoisaplanet · May 2013

In HIMYM, doesn't Lily go in for testing after something like a month or two? No wonder everyone runs to their OB when they're 5 days "late".

Lily9911 · May 2013

I went to a fertility doctor after 4 months of trying just to make sure DHs SA was good and to see f I had any issues. I have PCOS so unwanted dot make sure that my eggs were ok and monitor if I actually ovulate I became worried since other women have told me that you can feel ovulation and I have never felt ovulation

Also I had an HSG to make sure the tubes were open since there was a chance they could have been blocked.

But the RE said there was no reason to go through IVF or IUI at this point since everything looks good except for DHs low morphology

He said if we aren't pregnant in another 4 months then we could possibly go back to him and see what we can do from there.

quidditchcapn1120 · May 2013

In Rules of Engagement, they had been trying for years before they decided to get help. They never really went deep into the details though, and ended up going with a surrogate. The way they chose a surrogate seemed really unrealistic though.

Firefly9 · May 2013

Annoys me to no end when they have sex one night and the next day take a pregnancy test that winds up being positive. PFFFFFFFFFT.

angelsnight · May 2013

My mind is a bit fuzzy, but on 90210 (the original) Kelly's infertility was pretty horrible. I think she was late so she pretty much told Brandon that she was pregnant (without even taking a test) and they were worried and weren't sure what to do.

She went to the doctor, she wasn't pregnant. But then the doctor asked her a couple of ridiculous questons and then informed her that she has endo...NO, answering some questions can give the doctor a clue, but the few she asked was not enough to confirm suspician and you cannot officially diagnose without a lap.

I'm pretty sure she also told her children aren't possible with endo, which is also so far from the truth.

PreDempsey · May 2013

krptcmschfmkr128:
Baby Mama.

Baby Mama

ETA: one of my most favorite movies!

mmb248 · May 2013

PreDempsey:

Mike and Molly addressed TTC concerns on their episode last night! I might be biased because I love that show but I feel they did a good job. They've been TTC for a while and Molly gets really discouraged and Mike realizes how badly he wants it too. It's tough because Molly is a teacher and takes care of everyone's children but her own and so many people can relate to it.

I feel like handstands = conception are popularized in TV/movies.

Exactly this. DH and I watch that show occasionally and just happened to watch it last night. It seemed to make the light go off for him. We've been having issues because he still doesn't understand the importance of timing. The scene where Mike talks about TTC because Molly wanted to, but now realizes that he's really invested in wanting a baby hit home for DH. He asked if how Molly felt in the store surrounded by pregnant women was how I felt and I said yeah. How could I not feel that way? My office is in the middle of a block of 8 offices; 5 women and 3 men. The other 4 women are pregnant. I am LITERALLY the only nonpregnant woman.

At the end of the show, DH just said he was sorry he hadn't been taking the TTC thing as seriously as he could have. As far as I'm concerned, best show ever.

EmeJay · May 2013

There has been multiple Tv shows and movies where the girl go to her ObGyn and without a lot of testing, learns that she will never have kids. HIMYM comes to mind.

I wonder what is that magical test that tell you that?

jjgrl55 · May 2013

Lily9911:
I went to a fertility doctor after 4 months of trying just to make sure DHs SA was good and to see f I had any issues. I have PCOS so unwanted dot make sure that my eggs were ok and monitor if I actually ovulate I became worried since other women have told me that you can feel ovulation and I have never felt ovulation Also I had an HSG to make sure the tubes were open since there was a chance they could have been blocked. But the RE said there was no reason to go through IVF or IUI at this point since everything looks good except for DHs low morphology He said if we aren't pregnant in another 4 months then we could possibly go back to him and see what we can do from there.

Not sure what the rule of thumb is for seeing a specialist with pre-diagnosed PCOS (any other ladies want to weigh in?), but Charlotte definitely didn't have PCOS, so the 4 month mark was completely inappropriate for her.

Lily9911 · May 2013

SATC was the reason why I got freaked out about ever being able to have children.....

I was a teenager and didn't know any better when those episodes were on. .

mmb248 · May 2013

EmeJay:

There has been multiple Tv shows and movies where the girl go to her ObGyn and without a lot of testing, learns that she will never have kids. HIMYM comes to mind.

I wonder what is that magical test that tell you that?

I'm not sure, but Kim K would probably know...

Lily9911 · May 2013

I think HIMYM did that story line because infertility and all the drugs you can take for it and all those baby movies were "in" at the moment.

Maybe they wanted to relate to others who might be having trouble with infertility. But perhaps they should have made it just a tad bit more realistic.

I think Robin was told she can't have kids, but they never give the reason why.

DLpanda08 · May 2013

I think my biggest issue with TTC in TV and movies is that they very rarely show TTC as a process. It's either an accidental thing from a one night stand, pregnant on the first try, or the woman is completely infertile and will never have kids, ever. No wonder a lot of women, and well meaning family members, start freaking out after one or two months without getting KU.

i also think I need to check out that Mike and Molly episode on demand. Sounds like it was a good one.

greengirl0909 · May 2013

Years ago when Phoebe carried her brother's baby on Friends, she goes to have the embryos put in. (sorry I don't know the "right" word) Then goes back to Monica's apartment. They bring a pregnancy test over and lo and behold, it's positive.

PreDempsey · May 2013

mmb248:
PreDempsey:

Mike and Molly addressed TTC concerns on their episode last night! I might be biased because I love that show but I feel they did a good job.

Exactly this. DH and I watch that show occasionally and just happened to watch it last night. It seemed to make the light go off for him. We've been having issues because he still doesn't understand the importance of timing. The scene where Mike talks about TTC because Molly wanted to, but now realizes that he's really invested in wanting a baby hit home for DH. He asked if how Molly felt in the store surrounded by pregnant women was how I felt and I said yeah. How could I not feel that way? My office is in the middle of a block of 8 offices; 5 women and 3 men. The other 4 women are pregnant. I am LITERALLY the only nonpregnant woman.

At the end of the show, DH just said he was sorry he hadn't been taking the TTC thing as seriously as he could have. As far as I'm concerned, best show ever.

That's awesome. I'm glad it gave him some perspective and allowed him to see how you felt sort of from the outside looking in.

Lily9911 · May 2013

greengirl0909:
Years ago when Phoebe carried her brother's baby on Friends, she goes to have the embryos put in. sorry I don't know the "right" word Then goes back to Monica's apartment. They bring a pregnancy test over and lo and behold, it's positive.nbsp;

Hence why I thought as a young child that pregnancy can happen that fast!

I had an ex who came to me once stressing about the possibility of getting a girl pregnant. I asked "when were you with her and when did she test?" He said they had sex that week and she took a test and it was positive..... I told him "well bad news is, she's pregnant, good news, she was pregnant while you guys had sex so congrats! It's not yours."

Twinkie0612 · May 2013

One of my recent least favorites right now is the IUI storyline on Chicago Fire. The character is a lesbian and decides that she going to have a baby on her own and use her friend as a donor.

She finds out that the IUI is going to cost $10,000 (I have never heard of an IUI costing that much, even with aggressive stims I would think it would cost 1/3 to 1/2 of that). Then her process is that she goes in to the doctor for hormone injections every day for 10 days (this seems like a lot of stimming for an IUI and she is a paramedic why isn't she giving herself the injections), no ultrasound monitoring, then she will take ovulation tests and when it is positive they will go to the clinic for the IUI (I would hope for 10 grand you would at least get a trigger shot, but apparently not). Her friend the donor misses her call and when he tells her let's go now she tells him that the clinic is closed. When he suggests going in the morning, she tells him that it's too late they missed their window (Silly because the day after a postive OPK is about perfect timing for IUI).

It kind of makes me sad that the writers couldn't be bothered to do enough research to get this right. Most people no next to nothing about IF and I hate that shows that have a chance to spread some awareness, instead spread misinformation.

jjgrl55 · May 2013

Twinkie0612:
It kind of makes me sad that the writers couldn't be bothered to do enough research to get this right. Most people no next to nothing about IF and I hate that shows that have a chance to spread some awareness, instead spread misinformation.

You would think that if they are going to make TTC and TTTC so integral to the plot they would do an ounce of research. I can somewhat understand some timing errors for a run-of-the-mill pregnancy story, but these are plots that last for episodes with less research than a high school book report.

Ladiebug710 · May 2013

EmeJay:

There has been multiple Tv shows and movies where the girl go to her ObGyn and without a lot of testing, learns that she will never have kids. HIMYM comes to mind.

I wonder what is that magical test that tell you that?

This is the first thing that came to my mind as well.

divinemsbee · May 2013

I actually thought of this last night while watching Newlyweds on Bravo. Not the Nick and Jess one, it's got a similar name but it's new and a total train wreck. So, it's following 4 couples, and two of them are TTC immediately after marriage. So last night both of the wives in those couples are taking pregnancy tests. Of course the results are the cliffhanger, but one of the women is opening the pregnancy test box and her husband is with her. Her words " So, how do I take this, do I stick it in my vag?" Him " I think you just pee on it." Really?! I mean, it's possible to make it to the age of 30 ish without needing to take one, but this is one of tge few things that movies and TV show you how to do. Or, you don't even have to read the directions, they show you with pictures.

jaytee16 · May 2013

plutoisaplanet:
In HIMYM, doesn't Lily go in for testing after something like a month or two? No wonder everyone runs to their OB when they're 5 days "late".

Yes! And they totally made it seem like you could get KU at any time during the month (they said something like they've tried 200X in the last two months and it hasn't worked so something must be wrong).

I'm drawing a blank on the details but on another show the woman said her temp spiked so it's time to get busy - I started tell the tv how that would be after you've ovulated, H looked at me like I was nuts.

ETA: Ah, I think it was the new 90210 when Silver is trying to get pregnant initially, before going the surrogacy route, which I can't even get into right now...

dollymeh · May 2013

PreDempsey:

krptcmschfmkr128:
Baby Mama.

ETA: one of my most favorite movies!

LOVE this movie.

dollymeh · May 2013

greengirl0909:
Years ago when Phoebe carried her brother's baby on Friends, she goes to have the embryos put in. (sorry I don't know the "right" word) Then goes back to Monica's apartment. They bring a pregnancy test over and lo and behold, it's positive.

Yes! I love that show, but I totally agree. That part always struck me as strange.

Rocknroll64 · May 2013

Lily9911:
I went to a fertility doctor after 4 months of trying just to make sure DHs SA was good and to see f I had any issues. I have PCOS so unwanted dot make sure that my eggs were ok and monitor if I actually ovulate I became worried since other women have told me that you can feel ovulation and I have never felt ovulation Also I had an HSG to make sure the tubes were open since there was a chance they could have been blocked. But the RE said there was no reason to go through IVF or IUI at this point since everything looks good except for DHs low morphology He said if we aren't pregnant in another 4 months then we could possibly go back to him and see what we can do from there.

Didn't you say that you're taking clomid though? And I'm pretty sure you're not being monitored properly.

Having PCOS is not a reason to get tested after only 4 months of trying, especially since you didn't even try to chart/temp/use OPK's. I can't believe the reason you went to a fertility specialist was because you couldn't feel ovulation and because you have irregular periods.

mrs_tacos · May 2013

The only ones I can think of off the top of my head are in HIMYM where Lilly and Marshall go in for testing after only a few months, although they are told that everything is fine and end up conceiving on their own. Also, in Rules of Engagement, Audrey and Jeff try for like, three seconds before deciding it just won't happen for them and they need a surrogate. It was odd, the jump from "It just hasn't happened yet!" to "We can't get pregnant ever and need a surrogate."

jjgrl55 · May 2013

Rocknroll64:
Lily9911:
I went to a fertility doctor after 4 months of trying just to make sure DHs SA was good and to see f I had any issues. I have PCOS so unwanted dot make sure that my eggs were ok and monitor if I actually ovulate I became worried since other women have told me that you can feel ovulation and I have never felt ovulation Also I had an HSG to make sure the tubes were open since there was a chance they could have been blocked. But the RE said there was no reason to go through IVF or IUI at this point since everything looks good except for DHs low morphology He said if we aren't pregnant in another 4 months then we could possibly go back to him and see what we can do from there.
Didn't you say that you're taking clomid though? And I'm pretty sure you're not being monitored properly.
Having PCOS is not a reason to get tested after only 4 months of trying, especially since you didn't even try to chart/temp/use OPK's. I can't believe the reason you went to a fertility specialist was because you couldn't feel ovulation and because you have irregular periods.

I thought this sounded super fishy, but didn't want to call her out without knowing for sure about PCOS. But knowing you have PCOS before you start trying should mean you chart and temp religiously, not run to a doctor for a SA or to check if your tubes are blocked, which has nothing to do with PCOS.

Thanks for the info, Rocknroll!

HenHen25 · May 2013

HIMYM. I just watched those episodes for the first time a couple months ago, and they were the only thing I didn't love about the show.

Rocknroll64 · May 2013

jjgrl55:
Rocknroll64:
Lily9911:
I went to a fertility doctor after 4 months of trying just to make sure DHs SA was good and to see f I had any issues. I have PCOS so unwanted dot make sure that my eggs were ok and monitor if I actually ovulate I became worried since other women have told me that you can feel ovulation and I have never felt ovulation Also I had an HSG to make sure the tubes were open since there was a chance they could have been blocked. But the RE said there was no reason to go through IVF or IUI at this point since everything looks good except for DHs low morphology He said if we aren't pregnant in another 4 months then we could possibly go back to him and see what we can do from there.
Didn't you say that you're taking clomid though? And I'm pretty sure you're not being monitored properly.
Having PCOS is not a reason to get tested after only 4 months of trying, especially since you didn't even try to chart/temp/use OPK's. I can't believe the reason you went to a fertility specialist was because you couldn't feel ovulation and because you have irregular periods.

I thought this sounded super fishy, but didn't want to call her out without knowing for sure about PCOS. But knowing you have PCOS before you start trying should mean you chart and temp religiously, not run to a doctor for a SA or to check if your tubes are blocked, which has nothing to do with PCOS.
Thanks for the info, Rocknroll!

I'm just surprised that her "fertility specialist" didn't recommend charting and OPK's before running those tests and especially before prescribing her clomid with zero monitoring. Seems odd.

Lily9911 · May 2013

Rocknroll64:
Lily9911:
I went to a fertility doctor after 4 months of trying just to make sure DHs SA was good and to see f I had any issues. I have PCOS so unwanted dot make sure that my eggs were ok and monitor if I actually ovulate I became worried since other women have told me that you can feel ovulation and I have never felt ovulation

Also I had an HSG to make sure the tubes were open since there was a chance they could have been blocked.

But the RE said there was no reason to go through IVF or IUI at this point since everything looks good except for DHs low morphology

He said if we aren't pregnant in another 4 months then we could possibly go back to him and see what we can do from there.
Didn't you say that you're taking clomid though?  And I'm pretty sure you're not being monitored properly.
Having PCOS is not a reason to get tested after only 4 months of trying, especially since you didn't even try to chart/temp/use OPK's.   I can't believe the reason you went to a fertility specialist was because you couldn't feel ovulation and because you have irregular periods.  

I went on Clomid because charting my temp wasn't working for me and I couldn't feel my ovulation pains. Plus since my AF was so put of whack I had no idea when I actual ovulate now I do.

I have seen many women on this board be against Clomid but I personally like it.

I have also used OPKs the test line ones and the digital. After taking Clomid I started getting positive OPKs on the digital tests.

Again... I went to a fertility specialist, which wasn't a big deal since it cost me nothing, just to ask questions and get myself checked out. I'd rather know anything now than 6 months from now.

Lily9911 · May 2013

Rocknroll64:
jjgrl55:
Rocknroll64:
Lily9911:
I went to a fertility doctor after 4 months of trying just to make sure DHs SA was good and to see f I had any issues. I have PCOS so unwanted dot make sure that my eggs were ok and monitor if I actually ovulate I became worried since other women have told me that you can feel ovulation and I have never felt ovulation

Also I had an HSG to make sure the tubes were open since there was a chance they could have been blocked.

But the RE said there was no reason to go through IVF or IUI at this point since everything looks good except for DHs low morphology

He said if we aren't pregnant in another 4 months then we could possibly go back to him and see what we can do from there.
Didn't you say that you're taking clomid though?  And I'm pretty sure you're not being monitored properly.
Having PCOS is not a reason to get tested after only 4 months of trying, especially since you didn't even try to chart/temp/use OPK's.   I can't believe the reason you went to a fertility specialist was because you couldn't feel ovulation and because you have irregular periods.  
 
I thought this sounded super fishy, but didn't want to call her out without knowing for sure about PCOS. But knowing you have PCOS before you start trying should mean you chart and temp religiously, not run to a doctor for a SA or to check if your tubes are blocked, which has nothing to do with PCOS. 
Thanks for the info, Rocknroll! 
I'm just surprised that her "fertility specialist" didn't recommend charting and OPK's before running those tests and especially before prescribing her clomid with zero monitoring.  Seems odd.

Nobody asked me if I ever charted my temp or took OPKs.... Everyone of you just assumed I didn't do that. Of course I charted and did OPKs before seeing a specialist, the doctor even asked me if I did all of that prior to making an appt with him.

Again.... It cost me nothing to go see this doctor. I'd rather know in ok now rather than later. I'm glad I went now since we now know my DH has a SA issue but I'm perfectly ok.

gscoville · May 2013

greengirl0909:
Years ago when Phoebe carried her brother's baby on Friends, she goes to have the embryos put in. (sorry I don't know the "right" word) Then goes back to Monica's apartment. They bring a pregnancy test over and lo and behold, it's positive.

Haha I was going to add this one too, it's always bugged me. I love love LOVE Friends, but that's just so inaccurate - get a positive test the same day eggs are transferred my asss!!

Rocknroll64 · May 2013

Lily9911:
Rocknroll64:
Lily9911:
I went to a fertility doctor after 4 months of trying just to make sure DHs SA was good and to see f I had any issues. I have PCOS so unwanted dot make sure that my eggs were ok and monitor if I actually ovulate I became worried since other women have told me that you can feel ovulation and I have never felt ovulation Also I had an HSG to make sure the tubes were open since there was a chance they could have been blocked. But the RE said there was no reason to go through IVF or IUI at this point since everything looks good except for DHs low morphology He said if we aren't pregnant in another 4 months then we could possibly go back to him and see what we can do from there.
Didn't you say that you're taking clomid though? And I'm pretty sure you're not being monitored properly.
Having PCOS is not a reason to get tested after only 4 months of trying, especially since you didn't even try to chart/temp/use OPK's. I can't believe the reason you went to a fertility specialist was because you couldn't feel ovulation and because you have irregular periods.
I went on Clomid because charting my temp wasn't working for me and I couldn't feel my ovulation pains. Plus since my AF was so put of whack I had no idea when I actual ovulate now I do. I have seen many women on this board be against Clomid but I personally like it. I have also used OPKs the test line ones and the digital. After taking Clomid I started getting positive OPKs on the digital tests. Again... I went to a fertility specialist, which wasn't a big deal since it cost me nothing, just to ask questions and get myself checked out. I'd rather know anything now than 6 months from now.

This doesn't make any sense at all. What does ovulation pain have to do with anything? Many women don't have ovulation pain at all and it doesn't mean they aren't ovulating. What do you mean your AF was so out of whack? Were you not getting it at all or was it just irregular? Do you even understand what a period is?

Also if you are on clomid, you should not be judging when ovulation is by using OPK's, you should be having monitoring ultrasounds with your doctor. Taking clomid without the proper monitoring can cause thinning of your uterine lining which can destroy your fertility it can also cause multiple births. Have you ever seen Kate plus eight? ya.

You obviously have no idea how the medical system works if you think running unnecessary tests costs nothing. Seriously you are so ignorant.

Lily9911 · May 2013

Rocknroll64:
Lily9911:
Rocknroll64:
Lily9911:
I went to a fertility doctor after 4 months of trying just to make sure DHs SA was good and to see f I had any issues. I have PCOS so unwanted dot make sure that my eggs were ok and monitor if I actually ovulate I became worried since other women have told me that you can feel ovulation and I have never felt ovulation

Also I had an HSG to make sure the tubes were open since there was a chance they could have been blocked.

But the RE said there was no reason to go through IVF or IUI at this point since everything looks good except for DHs low morphology

He said if we aren't pregnant in another 4 months then we could possibly go back to him and see what we can do from there.
Didn't you say that you're taking clomid though?  And I'm pretty sure you're not being monitored properly.
Having PCOS is not a reason to get tested after only 4 months of trying, especially since you didn't even try to chart/temp/use OPK's.   I can't believe the reason you went to a fertility specialist was because you couldn't feel ovulation and because you have irregular periods.  

I went on Clomid because charting my temp wasn't working for me and I couldn't feel my ovulation pains. Plus since my AF was so put of whack I had no idea when I actual ovulate now I do.

I have seen many women on this board be against Clomid but I personally like it.

I have also used OPKs the test line ones and the digital. After taking Clomid I started getting positive OPKs on the digital tests.

Again... I went to a fertility specialist, which wasn't a big deal since it cost me nothing, just to ask questions and get myself checked out. I'd rather know anything now than 6 months from now.
This doesn't make any sense at all.  What does ovulation pain have to do with anything? Many women don't have ovulation pain at all and it doesn't mean they aren't ovulating.  What do you mean your AF was so out of whack? Were you not getting it at all or was it just irregular? Do you even understand what a period is?  
Also if you are on clomid, you should not be judging when ovulation is by using OPK's, you should be having monitoring ultrasounds with your doctor. Taking clomid without the proper monitoring can cause thinning of your uterine lining which can destroy your fertility it can also cause multiple births.  Have you ever seen Kate plus eight? ya.
You obviously have no idea how the medical system works if you think running unnecessary tests costs nothing.  Seriously you are so ignorant.

....ok

Because I also must have said that I wasn't being monitored either. Oh wait... Nope... That was just another assumption.

As for my AF being "out of whack" I have had a period since I was 9 years out which is abnormal and an early sign for PCOS. I was diagnosed with PCOS only at 26. From 9 years old to 26 years old I have had extremely long periods, short periods, periods that stopped then started up again you name it I most likely experienced it. I went on BC when I was a little older to control the periods and later on in life I went on metformin which actually controlled my AF finally.

I really don't know how I'm ignorant. I am of course aware what Clomid can do to someone that doesn't mean I'm not going to stop taking it since you aren't my doctor and you aren't monitoring me. My doctor is taking fine care of me thank you for your concern.

Also I never said I was judging my ovulation by just using my OPKs. People shouldn't just assume things then insult them perhaps try asking a question first?

ETA: the tests cost nothing for me since my DHs company pays for healthcare. We don't pay into healthcare and the only thing we pay for are prescriptions which are always 10 bucks.
Majority of specialists are free to us. I haven't paid for a specialist since being in his insurance. That's why it costs ME nothing.

Rocknroll64 · May 2013

Lily9911:
Rocknroll64:
Lily9911:
Rocknroll64:
Lily9911:
I went to a fertility doctor after 4 months of trying just to make sure DHs SA was good and to see f I had any issues. I have PCOS so unwanted dot make sure that my eggs were ok and monitor if I actually ovulate I became worried since other women have told me that you can feel ovulation and I have never felt ovulation Also I had an HSG to make sure the tubes were open since there was a chance they could have been blocked. But the RE said there was no reason to go through IVF or IUI at this point since everything looks good except for DHs low morphology He said if we aren't pregnant in another 4 months then we could possibly go back to him and see what we can do from there.
Didn't you say that you're taking clomid though? And I'm pretty sure you're not being monitored properly.
Having PCOS is not a reason to get tested after only 4 months of trying, especially since you didn't even try to chart/temp/use OPK's. I can't believe the reason you went to a fertility specialist was because you couldn't feel ovulation and because you have irregular periods.
I went on Clomid because charting my temp wasn't working for me and I couldn't feel my ovulation pains. Plus since my AF was so put of whack I had no idea when I actual ovulate now I do. I have seen many women on this board be against Clomid but I personally like it. I have also used OPKs the test line ones and the digital. After taking Clomid I started getting positive OPKs on the digital tests. Again... I went to a fertility specialist, which wasn't a big deal since it cost me nothing, just to ask questions and get myself checked out. I'd rather know anything now than 6 months from now.
This doesn't make any sense at all. What does ovulation pain have to do with anything? Many women don't have ovulation pain at all and it doesn't mean they aren't ovulating. What do you mean your AF was so out of whack? Were you not getting it at all or was it just irregular? Do you even understand what a period is?
Also if you are on clomid, you should not be judging when ovulation is by using OPK's, you should be having monitoring ultrasounds with your doctor. Taking clomid without the proper monitoring can cause thinning of your uterine lining which can destroy your fertility it can also cause multiple births. Have you ever seen Kate plus eight? ya.
You obviously have no idea how the medical system works if you think running unnecessary tests costs nothing. Seriously you are so ignorant.
....ok Because I also must have said that I wasn't being monitored either. Oh wait... Nope... That was just another assumption. As for my AF being "out of whack" I have had a period since I was 9 years out which is abnormal and an early sign for PCOS. I was diagnosed with PCOS only at 26. From 9 years old to 26 years old I have had extremely long periods, short periods, periods that stopped then started up again you name it I most likely experienced it. I went on BC when I was a little older to control the periods and later on in life I went on metformin which actually controlled my AF finally. I really don't know how I'm ignorant. I am of course aware what Clomid can do to someone that doesn't mean I'm not going to stop taking it since you aren't my doctor and you aren't monitoring me. My doctor is taking fine care of me thank you for your concern. Also I never said I was judging my ovulation by just using my OPKs. People shouldn't just assume things then insult them perhaps try asking a question first? ETA: the tests cost nothing for me since my DHs company pays for healthcare. We don't pay into healthcare and the only thing we pay for are prescriptions which are always 10 bucks. Majority of specialists are free to us. I haven't paid for a specialist since being in his insurance. That's why it costs ME nothing.

Holy crap just because you have irregular periods doesn't mean your not ovulating. If you had been temping and charting you would know this, which makes me think that you weren't and you're lying. It was completely unnecessary for you to run to a fertility specialist after 4 months of trying. Also the fact that your DH may have a sperm issue is exactly why you shouldn't be taking the clomid in the first place. How is clomid going to help if your husband's sperm isn't working?

And you're ignorant because you don't know how medical insurance works. Sure your insurance company pays for you, but they are still technically paying for the tests. Can you imagine how expensive insurance would be if every woman had fertility testing after 4 months? Those tests are expensive.

Lily9911 · May 2013

Rocknroll64:
Lily9911:
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I went to a fertility doctor after 4 months of trying just to make sure DHs SA was good and to see f I had any issues. I have PCOS so unwanted dot make sure that my eggs were ok and monitor if I actually ovulate I became worried since other women have told me that you can feel ovulation and I have never felt ovulation

Also I had an HSG to make sure the tubes were open since there was a chance they could have been blocked.

But the RE said there was no reason to go through IVF or IUI at this point since everything looks good except for DHs low morphology

He said if we aren't pregnant in another 4 months then we could possibly go back to him and see what we can do from there.
Didn't you say that you're taking clomid though?  And I'm pretty sure you're not being monitored properly.
Having PCOS is not a reason to get tested after only 4 months of trying, especially since you didn't even try to chart/temp/use OPK's.   I can't believe the reason you went to a fertility specialist was because you couldn't feel ovulation and because you have irregular periods.  

I went on Clomid because charting my temp wasn't working for me and I couldn't feel my ovulation pains. Plus since my AF was so put of whack I had no idea when I actual ovulate now I do.

I have seen many women on this board be against Clomid but I personally like it.

I have also used OPKs the test line ones and the digital. After taking Clomid I started getting positive OPKs on the digital tests.

Again... I went to a fertility specialist, which wasn't a big deal since it cost me nothing, just to ask questions and get myself checked out. I'd rather know anything now than 6 months from now.
This doesn't make any sense at all.  What does ovulation pain have to do with anything? Many women don't have ovulation pain at all and it doesn't mean they aren't ovulating.  What do you mean your AF was so out of whack? Were you not getting it at all or was it just irregular? Do you even understand what a period is?  
Also if you are on clomid, you should not be judging when ovulation is by using OPK's, you should be having monitoring ultrasounds with your doctor. Taking clomid without the proper monitoring can cause thinning of your uterine lining which can destroy your fertility it can also cause multiple births.  Have you ever seen Kate plus eight? ya.
You obviously have no idea how the medical system works if you think running unnecessary tests costs nothing.  Seriously you are so ignorant.

....ok

Because I also must have said that I wasn't being monitored either. Oh wait... Nope... That was just another assumption.

As for my AF being "out of whack" I have had a period since I was 9 years out which is abnormal and an early sign for PCOS. I was diagnosed with PCOS only at 26. From 9 years old to 26 years old I have had extremely long periods, short periods, periods that stopped then started up again you name it I most likely experienced it. I went on BC when I was a little older to control the periods and later on in life I went on metformin which actually controlled my AF finally.

I really don't know how I'm ignorant. I am of course aware what Clomid can do to someone that doesn't mean I'm not going to stop taking it since you aren't my doctor and you aren't monitoring me. My doctor is taking fine care of me thank you for your concern.

Also I never said I was judging my ovulation by just using my OPKs. People shouldn't just assume things then insult them perhaps try asking a question first?

ETA: the tests cost nothing for me since my DHs company pays for healthcare. We don't pay into healthcare and the only thing we pay for are prescriptions which are always 10 bucks.
Majority of specialists are free to us. I haven't paid for a specialist since being in his insurance. That's why it costs ME nothing.
Holy crap just because you have irregular periods doesn't mean your not ovulating.  If you had been temping and charting you would know this, which makes me think that you weren't and you're lying. It was completely unnecessary for you to run to a fertility specialist after 4 months of trying.  Also the fact that your DH may have a sperm issue is exactly why you shouldn't be taking the clomid in the first place.  How is clomid going to help if your husband's sperm isn't working?
And you're ignorant because you don't know how medical insurance works.  Sure your insurance company pays for you, but they are still technically paying for the tests.  Can you imagine how expensive insurance would be if every woman had fertility testing after 4 months? Those tests are expensive.  

I love it that you are SO desperately trying to be right. I must have explained myself so many times by now but I suppose its not sticking with you.

Also... You tell ME how I'm paying for health insurance when my DH pays NOTHING towards health benefits? We get FREE health benefits from his company. They pay outright for everyone who works there. So tell me how in ignorant again when I am outright telling you that we get free Walsh benefits. Please.... I'm so curious what answer you'll make up this time.

Rocknroll64 · May 2013

Lily9911:
Rocknroll64:
Lily9911:
Rocknroll64:
Lily9911:
Rocknroll64:
Lily9911:
I went to a fertility doctor after 4 months of trying just to make sure DHs SA was good and to see f I had any issues. I have PCOS so unwanted dot make sure that my eggs were ok and monitor if I actually ovulate I became worried since other women have told me that you can feel ovulation and I have never felt ovulation Also I had an HSG to make sure the tubes were open since there was a chance they could have been blocked. But the RE said there was no reason to go through IVF or IUI at this point since everything looks good except for DHs low morphology He said if we aren't pregnant in another 4 months then we could possibly go back to him and see what we can do from there.
Didn't you say that you're taking clomid though? And I'm pretty sure you're not being monitored properly.
Having PCOS is not a reason to get tested after only 4 months of trying, especially since you didn't even try to chart/temp/use OPK's. I can't believe the reason you went to a fertility specialist was because you couldn't feel ovulation and because you have irregular periods.
I went on Clomid because charting my temp wasn't working for me and I couldn't feel my ovulation pains. Plus since my AF was so put of whack I had no idea when I actual ovulate now I do. I have seen many women on this board be against Clomid but I personally like it. I have also used OPKs the test line ones and the digital. After taking Clomid I started getting positive OPKs on the digital tests. Again... I went to a fertility specialist, which wasn't a big deal since it cost me nothing, just to ask questions and get myself checked out. I'd rather know anything now than 6 months from now.
This doesn't make any sense at all. What does ovulation pain have to do with anything? Many women don't have ovulation pain at all and it doesn't mean they aren't ovulating. What do you mean your AF was so out of whack? Were you not getting it at all or was it just irregular? Do you even understand what a period is?
Also if you are on clomid, you should not be judging when ovulation is by using OPK's, you should be having monitoring ultrasounds with your doctor. Taking clomid without the proper monitoring can cause thinning of your uterine lining which can destroy your fertility it can also cause multiple births. Have you ever seen Kate plus eight? ya.
You obviously have no idea how the medical system works if you think running unnecessary tests costs nothing. Seriously you are so ignorant.
....ok Because I also must have said that I wasn't being monitored either. Oh wait... Nope... That was just another assumption. As for my AF being "out of whack" I have had a period since I was 9 years out which is abnormal and an early sign for PCOS. I was diagnosed with PCOS only at 26. From 9 years old to 26 years old I have had extremely long periods, short periods, periods that stopped then started up again you name it I most likely experienced it. I went on BC when I was a little older to control the periods and later on in life I went on metformin which actually controlled my AF finally. I really don't know how I'm ignorant. I am of course aware what Clomid can do to someone that doesn't mean I'm not going to stop taking it since you aren't my doctor and you aren't monitoring me. My doctor is taking fine care of me thank you for your concern. Also I never said I was judging my ovulation by just using my OPKs. People shouldn't just assume things then insult them perhaps try asking a question first? ETA: the tests cost nothing for me since my DHs company pays for healthcare. We don't pay into healthcare and the only thing we pay for are prescriptions which are always 10 bucks. Majority of specialists are free to us. I haven't paid for a specialist since being in his insurance. That's why it costs ME nothing.
Holy crap just because you have irregular periods doesn't mean your not ovulating. If you had been temping and charting you would know this, which makes me think that you weren't and you're lying. It was completely unnecessary for you to run to a fertility specialist after 4 months of trying. Also the fact that your DH may have a sperm issue is exactly why you shouldn't be taking the clomid in the first place. How is clomid going to help if your husband's sperm isn't working?
And you're ignorant because you don't know how medical insurance works. Sure your insurance company pays for you, but they are still technically paying for the tests. Can you imagine how expensive insurance would be if every woman had fertility testing after 4 months? Those tests are expensive.
I love it that you are SO desperately trying to be right. I must have explained myself so many times by now but I suppose its not sticking with you. Also... You tell ME how I'm paying for health insurance when my DH pays NOTHING towards health benefits? We get FREE health benefits from his company. They pay outright for everyone who works there. So tell me how in ignorant again when I am outright telling you that we get free Walsh benefits. Please.... I'm so curious what answer you'll make up this time.

You are so ridiculous. You have absolutely no idea how insurance works. Where's ghostmonkey when you need her.

You obviously aren't listening to me, or you would've understood that when people get unnecessary testing done it drives up the cost of insurance. Yes your husband's company pays for your medical insurance, (which has been negotiated into his salary btw) but if medical insurance continues to get more expensive because of idiots like you, it will be harder for companies, such as your husbands, to afford good group insurance packages. Or the insurance company will stop having it as part of their coverage because it becomes too expensive. It's actually really selfish of you to go out and get all this testing done when it is absolutely completely unnecessary. Did you ever stop and think that maybe there's a reason behind the waiting until a year of trying before testing?

Lily9911 · May 2013

Rocknroll64:
Lily9911:
Rocknroll64:
Lily9911:
Rocknroll64:
Lily9911:
Rocknroll64:
Lily9911:
I went to a fertility doctor after 4 months of trying just to make sure DHs SA was good and to see f I had any issues. I have PCOS so unwanted dot make sure that my eggs were ok and monitor if I actually ovulate I became worried since other women have told me that you can feel ovulation and I have never felt ovulation

Also I had an HSG to make sure the tubes were open since there was a chance they could have been blocked.

But the RE said there was no reason to go through IVF or IUI at this point since everything looks good except for DHs low morphology

He said if we aren't pregnant in another 4 months then we could possibly go back to him and see what we can do from there.
Didn't you say that you're taking clomid though?  And I'm pretty sure you're not being monitored properly.
Having PCOS is not a reason to get tested after only 4 months of trying, especially since you didn't even try to chart/temp/use OPK's.   I can't believe the reason you went to a fertility specialist was because you couldn't feel ovulation and because you have irregular periods.  

I went on Clomid because charting my temp wasn't working for me and I couldn't feel my ovulation pains. Plus since my AF was so put of whack I had no idea when I actual ovulate now I do.

I have seen many women on this board be against Clomid but I personally like it.

I have also used OPKs the test line ones and the digital. After taking Clomid I started getting positive OPKs on the digital tests.

Again... I went to a fertility specialist, which wasn't a big deal since it cost me nothing, just to ask questions and get myself checked out. I'd rather know anything now than 6 months from now.
This doesn't make any sense at all.  What does ovulation pain have to do with anything? Many women don't have ovulation pain at all and it doesn't mean they aren't ovulating.  What do you mean your AF was so out of whack? Were you not getting it at all or was it just irregular? Do you even understand what a period is?  
Also if you are on clomid, you should not be judging when ovulation is by using OPK's, you should be having monitoring ultrasounds with your doctor. Taking clomid without the proper monitoring can cause thinning of your uterine lining which can destroy your fertility it can also cause multiple births.  Have you ever seen Kate plus eight? ya.
You obviously have no idea how the medical system works if you think running unnecessary tests costs nothing.  Seriously you are so ignorant.

....ok

Because I also must have said that I wasn't being monitored either. Oh wait... Nope... That was just another assumption.

As for my AF being "out of whack" I have had a period since I was 9 years out which is abnormal and an early sign for PCOS. I was diagnosed with PCOS only at 26. From 9 years old to 26 years old I have had extremely long periods, short periods, periods that stopped then started up again you name it I most likely experienced it. I went on BC when I was a little older to control the periods and later on in life I went on metformin which actually controlled my AF finally.

I really don't know how I'm ignorant. I am of course aware what Clomid can do to someone that doesn't mean I'm not going to stop taking it since you aren't my doctor and you aren't monitoring me. My doctor is taking fine care of me thank you for your concern.

Also I never said I was judging my ovulation by just using my OPKs. People shouldn't just assume things then insult them perhaps try asking a question first?

ETA: the tests cost nothing for me since my DHs company pays for healthcare. We don't pay into healthcare and the only thing we pay for are prescriptions which are always 10 bucks.
Majority of specialists are free to us. I haven't paid for a specialist since being in his insurance. That's why it costs ME nothing.
Holy crap just because you have irregular periods doesn't mean your not ovulating.  If you had been temping and charting you would know this, which makes me think that you weren't and you're lying. It was completely unnecessary for you to run to a fertility specialist after 4 months of trying.  Also the fact that your DH may have a sperm issue is exactly why you shouldn't be taking the clomid in the first place.  How is clomid going to help if your husband's sperm isn't working?
And you're ignorant because you don't know how medical insurance works.  Sure your insurance company pays for you, but they are still technically paying for the tests.  Can you imagine how expensive insurance would be if every woman had fertility testing after 4 months? Those tests are expensive.  

I love it that you are SO desperately trying to be right. I must have explained myself so many times by now but I suppose its not sticking with you.

Also... You tell ME how I'm paying for health insurance when my DH pays NOTHING towards health benefits? We get FREE health benefits from his company. They pay outright for everyone who works there. So tell me how in ignorant again when I am outright telling you that we get free Walsh benefits. Please.... I'm so curious what answer you'll make up this time.
You are so ridiculous.  You have absolutely no idea how insurance works. Where's ghostmonkey when you need her.
You obviously aren't listening to me, or you would've understood that when people get unnecessary testing done it drives up the cost of insurance.  Yes your husband's company pays for your medical insurance, (which has been negotiated into his salary btw) but if medical insurance continues to get more expensive because of idiots like you, it will be harder for companies, such as your husbands, to afford good group insurance packages.  Or the insurance company will stop having it as part of their coverage because it becomes too expensive.  It's actually really selfish of you to go out and get all this testing done when it is absolutely completely unnecessary. Did you ever stop and think that maybe there's a reason behind the waiting until a year of trying before testing? 
 

I'm just gonna stop cuz you obviously think you know everything. You're hilarious btw

Rocknroll64 · May 2013

I don't know everything but I do know that you are ignorant and impatient.

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