to party, or not to party???

vhaag11 · May 2013

I've felt that having a gender reveal party would be a good, fun excuse to go 3 1/2 hours to the in-laws (whom are not the most friendly to me). I feel like nobody cares... SIL even went as far as saying "Well that's stupid. Just text me." HOW FREAKING IMPERSONAL!!! I should have known btr seeing as EVERYTHING I have every planned to do with them, they have canceled. DH is DEFENDING them, saying I'm being paranoid and causing my own issues. I'm about to cancel the stupid u/s and make EVERYBODY wait. Who knows... maybe I can plan a secret, solo mission and be the only one who knows. Kinda feeling like I'm the only one who deserves it right now.

Drea2892 · May 2013

vhaag11:
I've felt that having a gender reveal party would be a good, fun excuse to go 3 1/2 hours to the inlaws whom are not the most friendly to me. nbsp;I feel like nobody cares... SIL even went as far as saying "Well that's stupid. Just text me." HOW FREAKING IMPERSONAL!!! I should have known btr seeing as EVERYTHING I have every planned to do with them, they have canceled. nbsp;DH is DEFENDING them, saying I'm being paranoid and causing my own issues. nbsp;I'm about to cancel the stupid u/s and make EVERYBODY wait. nbsp;Who knows... maybe I can plan a secret, solo mission and be the only one who knows. nbsp;Kinda feeling like I'm the only one who deserves it right now.

If they didn't wanna do it they could've said it in a better way. I would make them wait but don't let tht stop u from finding out what your having. Good luck with them

HFrizzle · May 2013

I wouldn't travel to go see them if this is the vibe you are already getting. Enjoy your moment and invite the people who care, but do it at your place or a friends house. Don't let them ruin this exciting time for you. Extend the invite to them and if they don't show up, that's their own fault. Have fun with your friends and family who care and enjoy the love and excitement that they are giving you. And don't leave the hubby out. This has to be hard on him too, trying to make everyone happy and keep the peace can be no fun. Good luck to you and celebrate the life you are bringing into the world, with or without them.

sleepy33 · May 2013

I'm sort of thinking along the same lines as RedheadBaker. I don't think there's anything wrong with gender reveal parties per se, but I kind of think whether to have one or not depends on if your friends/family seem into it or not. Some people like any excuse for a party, some people think it's silly to have a party just to find out the sex. Sounds like your ILs are in the second camp.

Amjoy25 · May 2013

What? Why are the IL's being so weird? I would do it. Go to your US and not tell anyone else. Sorry, that's such a bummer when the people who should care the most, disappoint you.

chrisandmonique4ever · May 2013

I feel ya. I was the only one excited about GENDER REVEAL this time (including DH-must have told him 10 times what "we" were doing and he still acted surprised when it was time to do the reveal) around but I went ahead and did something special anyway. Screw em. Do what you want, they can pretend to be excited for you. Don't let anyone ruin your special time.

germanpickle · May 2013

So I agree with the others and your inlaws that gender reveals are a bit strange. And from what you wrote, it doesn't sound like any of you really enjoy spending time with each other. Therefore, I'm supporting the idea of saving the drive, the costs, and the expectations and celebrating with people around you that are on your same wave length.

slh6363 · May 2013

RedheadBaker:
chrisandmonique4ever:
I feel ya. I was the only one excited about GENDER REVEAL this time (including DH-must have told him 10 times what "we" were doing and he still acted surprised when it was time to do the reveal) around but I went ahead and did something special anyway. Screw em. Do what you want, they can pretend to be excited for you. Don't let anyone ruin your special time.
A pregnancy is only important to the couple expecting the baby. Expecting everyone else to be as excited about the pregnancy, the baby's sex, etc. is ridiculous. We're not the first ones to ever conceive and carry a child.

I think it depends on your family and friends. My family is very excited about our gender reveal. Its not about "celebrating what genitalia the baby has", its more about me wanting to find out and share the moment with people who are close to me. My family is very close to begin with and get together often so having a get together for this is really no big deal...just something fun to do!

vhaag11 · May 2013

My direct family doesn't even seem to care what it is and only three of them would possibly show up. I've been trying to find fun things to help bond with my in-laws. I can't stand going there cuz all they ever do is sleep and expect enough food for two to split between six. I figured this way, I could help ease those minor issues. It has nothing to do with ANYONE being placed on a pedestal, it's mostly a trip for DH to see his family and an attempt to make the trip less painful for everyone. I don't want anyone to say I've never tried to be close. They are the ones being bumps. >:(

And as far as the importance of this child, this will be the first grandchild for both sides, and all I ever hear from DH's side is "What is it gonna be???" "When will you know???".... Well guess what, you wanna know? Then come to the party and be happy.

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