WWYD Christmas Plans
ehnasto
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I know it is early to start thinking about this but I am so I thought I would as your opinion. DH will be deploying this fall and will be gone through the holiday season. For both DH and my family our DS will be the first grandkid. It is DH's family's turn for Christmas this year and my family's turn for Thanksgiving. It is physically impossible to see both families on the same holiday. My family lives about 9 hours driving from his family.
I am thinking about going to my own family's Christmas this year instead and asking DH's family if they would mind switching this year since I imagine they would want DH and the baby there. I feel kind of rude doing this since in fairness it is not their fault we chose to have a baby and we chose for DH to deploy. But at the same time I am not 100% comfortable with his family by myself. I know if I ask they would understand, although may be a little dissapointed they don't get "baby's first Christmas".
What would you do?
Re: WWYD Christmas Plans
If it were me I would travel to my parents for Christmas and then make plans to visit the ILs after DH returns. I haven't experienced a deployment but I have had DH take long school and training trips and those are stressful with kids, deployments have to be worse. There is just no way I would want to be sitting alone at my ILs during that time, especially Christmas. They are nice people, they just stress me out on good days.
I wish I could do this but with the way Christmas is run at both households it just wouldn't be possible.
This! If that doesn't pan out then I would do Thanksgiving with his and Christmas with mine.
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I agree with this. What does your husband think? I know we "skipped" a year when he was gone for training. We were close enough to see his family after Christmas, and they were very understanding. I think it would be nice to make a special trip (or invite them up) when he's back, so they feel included in everything. But holidays are stressful enough without having to stress over this too much. I'm sure they'll understand.
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I agree with this. DH is also deploying at the end of the year and I will be flying from FL to TX to spend xmas with my brother and his family and my mom will be flying there too from CA.
For this year if I were you, I would probably go to my family. But, in the future, I would not be traveling to either family for every single holiday. Traveling with a baby or toddler is an ordeal, and we made it clear that with soon to be three kids we aren't doing cross country flights. Our families have to come to us. Plus, plane tickets for holidays are crazy expensive for my routes.