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Mothers Day - Opinions wanted

JBDamonMJBDamonM member
in April 2013 Moms

So....

Every year on Mothers Day we do something with my family. Two years ago I graciously hosted everyone for dinner since I was the only one who wasn't a mom... last year we went to dinner etc.

This year, obviously everything is different. And I mean that moreso because we have a 6 week old then because the whole "I am a mom now card."

My sister just sent an email looking to make a plan and my mom responded how she'd love to go to lunch or breakfast. Honestly I have no interest. I'm totally exhausted this week, we have two parties on Saturday (a first comunion and a first birthday party) and then DH has a stag party that night, so I'm flying solo. All I wanted to do Sunday was pump a bottle so DH could do the morning feed, and sleep in. Quite frankly I want to sleep all day (per my post earlier this week.)

Furtermore - DH and I are yet to take LO out in public..... I really don't think a restaurant on Mothers Day is the right venue to break her in.....

Thoughts and opinions on whether or not I am a total b-ch if I don't go?? and WWYD? I'm debating just telling my mom we'll stop over or something, but again I honestly don't want any commitments.... I really just want some downtime,as the past two weekends have been jam packed with stuff (and visitors) for DH and I.


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Re: Mothers Day - Opinions wanted

  • JSS1002JSS1002 member
    We had a similar conversation on this end -- my mom inquired (to my brother and I) what our thoughts were about mothers day.  My brother and I first thought ""let's just all go out for brunch" and thne I quickly said "wait no, I don't want to deal with James in a restaurant."  So my brother and his wife are instead having us over and it is just super casual - fruit, rolls, quiche, coffee... everybody is bringing something...

    I would just state how you feel, nobody can blame you for that.
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  • JBDamonMJBDamonM member

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    We had a similar conversation on this end -- my mom inquired (to my brother and I) what our thoughts were about mothers day.  My brother and I first thought ""let's just all go out for brunch" and thne I quickly said "wait no, I don't want to deal with James in a restaurant."  So my brother and his wife are instead having us over and it is just super casual - fruit, rolls, quiche, coffee... everybody is bringing something...

    I would just state how you feel, nobody can blame you for that.

    I'm a smidge annoyed because every.single.year. since my sister has had children my mom has made a comment on how she didnt know what my sister would want to do since it's her day too...... but magically that doesn't apply when it's me!!!!!  But I digress...


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    ET - 7/17 - 1 blast transferred. Beta - 7/26 273, Beta 2 7/30 - 1143. Beta 3 8/6 - 11,597
    12/25 - Santa tells us "IT'S A GIRL!" EDD - April 4th

    Our Little Easter Bunny has arrived!

    Molly Mildred born 03/31/13


    TTC A Sibling....... FET #1 11/14/14, Transferred one beautiful blast

    Remaining four frosties arrested due to "embryologist error"

    Plllllleasssee stick little icicle.....Beta 11/23...BFN

    Starting ALL over with a fresh IVF cycle

    Stims start 11/28/14, ER December 10th, 13 eggs retrieved, 11 mature, only 4 fertilized 

    1 Blast Transferred on December 15th..... Beta Christmas Eve... Please Santa, bring me a baby!

    Beta #1 345.....Beta #2....750/ First U/S 1/13/15/HB 131....EDD 9/2/2015

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  • Kate_CKate_C member
    When I complained about DH suggesting he and DS go out to dinner with his grandma and extended family on Mother's Day and leave me home alone with the baby, a friend said something that resonated with me: Mother's Day is about celebrating your mother/MIL until you become a mother. Then it should be about celebrating you and your new family. With that in mind, do what feels right for your immediate family. If that means chilling at home, go for it. You can return to the big family gathering next year when you are up for it. 
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  • jkkg317jkkg317 member

    I am home most of the time so I am excited about going out and I am looking forward to dragging everyone out of the house. 

    But if you don't want to I would just say you are still not comfortable going out and just want to relax at home, it's supposed to be about you  and what you want to do/ 

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  • manda82585manda82585 member
    It is your day too! Just make it known that you aren't feeling up to it and that you don't want LO out in public yet. No one can fault you for that. I put together brunch plans for my mom, my sis and my 2 grandmothers and am looking forward to getting out of the house for a little while, but LO is staying home with DH because I don't want her out in public yet.. DH is having brunch with my inlaws on Saturday and me and baby are going to my sis's house which will help me avoid a confrontation if dh's chain smoking brother and sister in-law tried to come over afterward. (They have only started coming around since LO was born, before they had no relationship with my dh and bil's wife particularly creeps me  lol... But anyways, hope you get your day at home! :-) 
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  • lifesadancelifesadance member
    I just backed out of Mother's Day festivities in favor of being lazy at home. My mom was supportive and ill call my grandmas on Sunday gotta get the cards in the mail since I won't be seeing them.
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