Baby 2 and baby shower question

Misskristal31 · May 2013

Just wondering if you know if your family or friends are throwing you a shower with this one or do u normally get a 2nd shower only if it's a different sex? Just wondering what's the norm. If there is one lol.

mrambo3 · May 2013

everything PP said about sprinkles. I will not have a shower for this baby with family or friends. However, I have started a new job since the last time I was pregnant so co-workers are already talking about throwing a baby shower. And to be honest, we don't need anything expect a double stroller and clothes. I don't mind using boy towels and all of our big ticket items were gender neutral last time.

blondolphn · May 2013

Baby shower board answer is, you only get showers with your first child. Bottom line.

That being said, in some social groups it is acceptable to have a 2nd baby shower if it's been years between the kids. Most I think find it more acceptable to do the meet the baby after the kid is born instead of a baby shower.

sfshorter · May 2013

Things are totally different where I'm from. Women love the opportunity to plan parties, especially baby showers, and most women have one or more with each baby. Our event planner at my office has already called me snooping around and is planning to do a "Sprinkle" reveal party next week at the office and a big shower towards the end of the summer. My MIL has also already told me they are throwing a shower for us at the end of the summer. These women love our family and would be offended if we tried to stop them! Plus I love being around friends and family and having their support.

tandb2010 · May 2013

My cousin got all pissybwhen I told her I didn't want or need a second shower. I suggested having a meet the baby party afterward. With a "bring frozen food" as the theme. But I guess not wanting to look like a gifty grab hoar is a bad thing where we are living now.
I hava a GF who just had a shower for her third but there is a 6 year gap between her little guy and the new baby. I am cool with that. I still don't want a shower but if everyone is going to be pissed at me for not wanting one I will show up with a smile.

kimbo1216 · May 2013

Depends on your circle. There was a time when second showers no matter the sex was a big no no. They seem to be getting more common these days. I think it depends on the situation and how it's done.

I personally don't want a shower. I've surprisingly had 2 different groups of friends offer to throw me one. If it's another girl, I'll feel really stupid. If it's a boy, all we need is clothes. This was a very planned second pregnancy and we got all gender neutral large items with our first. And since we CD, we won't even need diapers since DD should be PT'd by this one's arrival.

I don't side-eye all second showers, but some make me eye-roll more than others.

burduewedding · May 2013

I'm planning on having a little baby shower with this baby but just with a few friends and family. Maybe just go out for brunch or something but that is just how we are here. We have party's for everything lol. My sister is planning a baby reveal party for me too. We just love to party!

jarebearsmom · May 2013

I fully believe it depends on where you live. Where I am from, no one bats an eye to a second shower. I didn't until I came to TB and realized it wasn't common practice.

With that being said, my mom really wants to throw me one. I am letting her because it is easier than hurting her feelings. However, she wants to throw it October 6 and I'm due the 16. I am really uncomfortable with that date since DS came 3 weeks early

Philter14 · May 2013

My feeling on it is "WHO CARES???"

If people are insulted by it, they won't come. My friend has two kids 15 months apart and I spent major cash on the first one. When I got (two) invites for the second baby, I sent an outfit and a crib sheet. She wasn't getting another giant gift from me.

It's also different depending on where you are. Normally no second shower up here in NNJ - but my mom, I recall, had one because my brother and I were almost 11 years apart and she didn't have anything left for him. Plus her friends had changed, family had changed (all my uncles got married), and life was different.

I have friends who register for the second baby because people are going to buy you stuff anyway and they might as well buy something you want. They don't send out the info, but if someone asks, they can point them somewhere.

camdenfaithful · May 2013

I think it just depends on the area and your family and friends. Here they happen but they aren't super common. Typically a shower for baby 2/3/4 is much smaller, no registry, and a lot more low key.

I can't imagine anyone would ask to throw on for me because my kids will only be 2 years apart. If anyone did offer I would likely decline. Those kind of things make me uncomfortable as it is.

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