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sunlavender · May 2013

Although they're rarely flame free, it is Friday, so let's hear 'em.

Tamma254 · May 2013

Between my recurrent insomnia and DH's sleep apnea, we rarely sleep in the same room. It's the only way either of us can get any sleep until he gets used to his CPAP machine. He has a habit of taking his mask off in the middle of the night.

mrspharmd · May 2013

DH and I got back from a trip on Sunday and I still haven't unpacked our bags. Theyre just sitting on the table.

Marcilene1 · May 2013

aneubecker:
DH and I got back from a trip on Sunday and I still haven't unpacked our bags. Theyre just sitting on the table.

Haha! Along those lines: we moved into our own home in August of last year. We're still not done unpacking. The closet in our daughter's room is stacked with garbage bags full of clothes still! When we moved she was 14 months old and my son was 3 months old so we've been busy

quidditchcapn1120 · May 2013

DS and I laid on the couch and cuddled, watched TV, and ate pizza for dinner last night. Nothing educational and nothing nutritious. I also let him stay up till 10. Completely irresponsible but it was fun!

slaughter182 · May 2013

I primarily read smut fiction. It gets me in the mood.

dancer7889 · May 2013

I hate poas! I don't understand everyone's love for peeing on sticks.

Tamma254 · May 2013

NariaDreaming:
Tamma254:
Between my recurrent insomnia and DH's sleep apnea, we rarely sleep in the same room. It's the only way either of us can get any sleep until he gets used to his CPAP machine. He has a habit of taking his mask off in the middle of the night.

I feel your pain on the sleep apnea. DH wasn't a good candidate for CPAP (deviated septum plus he's a thrasher) so he's getting his tonsils out next week. 

I hope that you are able to get back in the same room soon- I'm also sick of sleeping in the guest room when his snoring wakes me up!

DH is always tossing and turning when he doesn't use his machine. Nine times out of ten when I wake up in the middle of the night, he's sitting on the edge of the foot of the bed, or has even slipped off, and is sitting on the floor. Luckily, our bed is low to the floor.

ETA: Add a letter.

slaughter182 · May 2013

I think it's ridiculous to say "Hope your stay is short and sweet!" in intro posts and then give people a hard time when they get pregnant on one of the first few cycles.

You might as well say, "I hope your stay is as long as difficult as mine, or else I'm going to give you shiit when you post about your BFP!"

Normally, I'm a big fan of the snark around here, but that just rubs me the wrong way.

(P.S. This did not personally happen to me, it's an observation from recent posts.)

I guess this is more of an UO than a confession, but meh. I'm going with it.

SunflowersBride · May 2013

dancer7889:
I hate poas! I don't understand everyone's love for peeing on sticks.

Same here!! I figure if I'm pregnant, I will still be pregnant after my expected period date, so I would rather just wait it out and not waste money on tests (and avoid seeing BFNs).

EmeJay · May 2013

As much as I like coming to the Bump (entertainement yo!), seeing so many people come and go is starting to really piss me off.

Nothing makes me feel better than seeing a reg getting a BFP and I creepily stalk people in their 2ww.

mrspharmd · May 2013

slaughter182:
I think it's ridiculous to say "Hope your stay is short and sweet!" in intro posts and then give people a hard time when they get pregnant on one of the first few cycles. You might as well say, "I hope your stay is as long as difficult as mine, or else I'm going to give you shiit when you post about your BFP!" Normally, I'm a big fan of the snark around here, but that just rubs me the wrong way. P.S. This did not personally happen to me, it's an observation from recent posts.

It's only an issue if we don't know who they are and they post a drive by BFP. If they are active and I recognize their name, I never give them a hard time. The lala girl yesterday said something about it being a crazy journey, but then she got knocked up the first month. That rubbed me the wrong way.

EmeJay · May 2013

slaughter182:
I think it's ridiculous to say "Hope your stay is short and sweet!" in intro posts and then give people a hard time when they get pregnant on one of the first few cycles.
You might as well say, "I hope your stay is as long as difficult as mine, or else I'm going to give you shiit when you post about your BFP!"
Normally, I'm a big fan of the snark around here, but that just rubs me the wrong way.
(P.S. This did not personally happen to me, it's an observation from recent posts.)

Seriously? I do wish people would all get their BFP in the first couple of months.

And if it does happen, then please don't come here and talk to me about "a crazy journey". either don't rub your BFP if you're not part of the community or don't tell me how hard it was to go through all of these 3 months.

I don't think a single person on this board would wish someone to have a hard time conceiving.

Common sense, yo.

slaughter182 · May 2013

aneubecker:
slaughter182:
I think it's ridiculous to say "Hope your stay is short and sweet!" in intro posts and then give people a hard time when they get pregnant on one of the first few cycles. You might as well say, "I hope your stay is as long as difficult as mine, or else I'm going to give you shiit when you post about your BFP!" Normally, I'm a big fan of the snark around here, but that just rubs me the wrong way. P.S. This did not personally happen to me, it's an observation from recent posts.
It's only an issue if we don't know who they are and they post a drive by BFP. If they are active and I recognize their name, I never give them a hard time. The lala girl yesterday said something about it being a crazy journey, but then she got knocked up the first month. That rubbed me the wrong way.

I didn't really pay attention to the name. She could have been talking about the journey to have a regular cycle. I spent almost 2 years trying to have a cycle where I ovulate, so I wasn't technically TCC because, well, I couldn't. If I got pregnant on the first cycle I ovulated and was actively trying, wouldn't that still count as a difficult journey?

beckynsean11 · May 2013

aneubecker:
DH and I got back from a trip on Sunday and I still haven't unpacked our bags. Theyre just sitting on the table.

Haha! I still have half a suitcase packed from my sister's wedding 3 weeks ago. whoops!

slaughter182 · May 2013

NariaDreaming:
slaughter182:
I think it's ridiculous to say "Hope your stay is short and sweet!" in intro posts and then give people a hard time when they get pregnant on one of the first few cycles.
You might as well say, "I hope your stay is as long as difficult as mine, or else I'm going to give you shiit when you post about your BFP!"
Normally, I'm a big fan of the snark around here, but that just rubs me the wrong way.

I think there's a huge difference between someone who posts an intro, maybe asks a question, and then posts a BFP on their 1st or 2nd cycle (drive-by) and those who may only be here for 5 or 6 weeks but who post questions, are supportive of others, and who are genuinely a part of the community, even if their stay is short.

I'm not saying you have to live on the boards, but even if it was just a post or two a day, that would still be 50-150 posts between their intro and their BFP.

I totally get that. Personally in my first 5-6 weeks, I didn't have anything to add other than generic well wishes because I was still learning. I completely understand that if it's not someone you know, you have a WTF moment. But it doesn't mean that we know what they went through to even get to that point, you know?

mrspharmd · May 2013

slaughter182:
aneubecker:
slaughter182:
I think it's ridiculous to say "Hope your stay is short and sweet!" in intro posts and then give people a hard time when they get pregnant on one of the first few cycles. You might as well say, "I hope your stay is as long as difficult as mine, or else I'm going to give you shiit when you post about your BFP!" Normally, I'm a big fan of the snark around here, but that just rubs me the wrong way. P.S. This did not personally happen to me, it's an observation from recent posts.

It's only an issue if we don't know who they are and they post a drive by BFP. If they are active and I recognize their name, I never give them a hard time. The lala girl yesterday said something about it being a crazy journey, but then she got knocked up the first month. That rubbed me the wrong way.
 
I didn't really pay attention to the name. She could have been talking about the journey to have a regular cycle. I spent almost 2 years trying to have a cycle where I ovulate, so I wasn't technically TCC because, well, I couldn't. If I got pregnant on the first cycle I ovulated and was actively trying, wouldn't that still count as a difficult journey?

1. IMO you are technically TTC for those 2 years.

2. We are talking about drive bys here. I could care less about someone I don't recognize. Why else would they post a BFP if not to rub it in our faces? Or they truly care what a group of Internet strangers have to say when they didn't put in much effort to get to know us before the BFP? I'm sorry but an intro post doesn't count.

3. I think it's phony and fake when people say how happy they are for the women in those drive by BFP posts. You really care that much about a complete stranger? Honestly, I think that's how some people try to boost up their post count.

Stacylarae · May 2013

I'm having a birthday party at my house tomorrow, and I will most likely be throwing any clutter in my bedroom and closing the door about 5 minutes before guests arrive...

Marcilene1 · May 2013

aneubecker:
slaughter182:
aneubecker:
slaughter182:
I think it's ridiculous to say "Hope your stay is short and sweet!" in intro posts and then give people a hard time when they get pregnant on one of the first few cycles. You might as well say, "I hope your stay is as long as difficult as mine, or else I'm going to give you shiit when you post about your BFP!" Normally, I'm a big fan of the snark around here, but that just rubs me the wrong way. P.S. This did not personally happen to me, it's an observation from recent posts.
It's only an issue if we don't know who they are and they post a drive by BFP. If they are active and I recognize their name, I never give them a hard time. The lala girl yesterday said something about it being a crazy journey, but then she got knocked up the first month. That rubbed me the wrong way.

I didn't really pay attention to the name. She could have been talking about the journey to have a regular cycle. I spent almost 2 years trying to have a cycle where I ovulate, so I wasn't technically TCC because, well, I couldn't. If I got pregnant on the first cycle I ovulated and was actively trying, wouldn't that still count as a difficult journey?
1. IMO you are technically TTC for those 2 years. 2. We are talking about drive bys here. I could care less about someone I don't recognize. Why else would they post a BFP if not to rub it in our faces? Or they truly care what a group of Internet strangers have to say when they didn't put in much effort to get to know us before the BFP? I'm sorry but an intro post doesn't count. 3. I think it's phony and fake when people say how happy they are for the women in those drive by BFP posts. You really care that much about a complete stranger? Honestly, I think that's how some people try to boost up their post count.

I just want to add that I think that many of those BFP posts are fake. I also think that many of the genuine ones are posted by people who just don't know that they are stepping on toes here. They are the equivalent of socially awkward people IRL. I think there are very, very few BFP posts that are put up with the intention of "rubbing it in". Also, who cares about post count???? Really?

bornmommy · May 2013

I feel like the board is slipping from snark to down right meanness. Well placed snark is entertainment. Straight up telling someone to go *** themselves or eat sh!t is mean. Remember that chick that wanted the other girl to get hit by a bus? I feel like that's where we are heading.

Also, I don't get all these new AEs recently. There is just too many right now.

Honey127 · May 2013

My confession is that I have needed new work clothes since January, but I have put off buying them because I was hopeful I would be pregnant and need bigger clothes soon anyways....
But since this will be cycle 6 with no luck so far, I have every intention of buying new clothes today.

SunflowersBride · May 2013

chrismo1013:
aneubecker:
slaughter182:
aneubecker:
slaughter182:
I think it's ridiculous to say "Hope your stay is short and sweet!" in intro posts and then give people a hard time when they get pregnant on one of the first few cycles. You might as well say, "I hope your stay is as long as difficult as mine, or else I'm going to give you shiit when you post about your BFP!" Normally, I'm a big fan of the snark around here, but that just rubs me the wrong way. P.S. This did not personally happen to me, it's an observation from recent posts.
It's only an issue if we don't know who they are and they post a drive by BFP. If they are active and I recognize their name, I never give them a hard time. The lala girl yesterday said something about it being a crazy journey, but then she got knocked up the first month. That rubbed me the wrong way.
This. I assume most of the drive-by BFPs are just trolls looking to rile people up.

I didn't really pay attention to the name. She could have been talking about the journey to have a regular cycle. I spent almost 2 years trying to have a cycle where I ovulate, so I wasn't technically TCC because, well, I couldn't. If I got pregnant on the first cycle I ovulated and was actively trying, wouldn't that still count as a difficult journey?
1. IMO you are technically TTC for those 2 years. 2. We are talking about drive bys here. I could care less about someone I don't recognize. Why else would they post a BFP if not to rub it in our faces? Or they truly care what a group of Internet strangers have to say when they didn't put in much effort to get to know us before the BFP? I'm sorry but an intro post doesn't count. 3. I think it's phony and fake when people say how happy they are for the women in those drive by BFP posts. You really care that much about a complete stranger? Honestly, I think that's how some people try to boost up their post count.
I just want to add that I think that many of those BFP posts are fake. I also think that many of the genuine ones are posted by people who just don't know that they are stepping on toes here. They are the equivalent of socially awkward people IRL. I think there are very, very few BFP posts that are put up with the intention of "rubbing it in". Also, who cares about post count???? Really?

This. I just assume most of the drive-by BFPs are trolls looking to rile people up.

mrspharmd · May 2013

WhoCanItBeNow:
aneubecker:
2. We are talking about drive bys here. I could care less about someone I don't recognize. Why else would they post a BFP if not to rub it in our faces? Or they truly care what a group of Internet strangers have to say when they didn't put in much effort to get to know us before the BFP? I'm sorry but an intro post doesn't count.
3. I think it's phony and fake when people say how happy they are for the women in those drive by BFP posts. You really care that much about a complete stranger? Honestly, I think that's how some people try to boost up their post count.

2. Just because you don't recognize them doesn't mean someone else does not. I've seen some get lit up that were fairly regular, but because they joined during their TWW and only had like 30 posts, they were pegged as a drive by (this also happens when someone that normally posts at night posts a BFP in the morning). There is a difference between someone new posting and someone being a d!ck. If you can't recognize that difference, you are the issue, not them.

3. Some people are. I'm not one of them, but some people are that way. You are really telling someone they can't be happy because you wouldn't be?

 

2. Then maybe that person should have recognized that they would be seen as a drive by, and just move on to first tri. I don't understand why women feel like they HAVE to post their BFP on here.

3. Did I say that? I said its phony and fake to me. I think it's great they got KU. I'm not bitter or jealous, I just straight up don't feel the need to be all fake and tell them how happy I am for then, since I don't know them. Ii i say anything, its usually just congrats, then I move on.

LokiTTGP · May 2013

bornmommy:
I feel like the board is slipping from snark to down right meanness. Well placed snark is entertainment. Straight up telling someone to go *** themselves or eat sh!t is mean. Remember that chick that wanted the other girl to get hit by a bus? I feel like that's where we are heading.
Also, I don't get all these new AEs recently. There is just too many right now.

I doth not see any more alternate egos than normal.

Some alternate egos are Ban-Dodgers.

I am not.

I am here to have a spot of fun.

YellowBag · May 2013

Tamma254:
Between my recurrent insomnia and DH's sleep apnea, we rarely sleep in the same room. It's the only way either of us can get any sleep until he gets used to his CPAP machine. He has a habit of taking his mask off in the middle of the night.

We sleep in different rooms most of the time due to DH's insomnia. Sleep, sex, and intimacy are all seperate needs, and as long as you get all three, who cares where and when.

Tamma254 · May 2013

bornmommy:
I feel like the board is slipping from snark to down right meanness. Well placed snark is entertainment. Straight up telling someone to go *** themselves or eat sh!t is mean. Remember that chick that wanted the other girl to get hit by a bus? I feel like that's where we are heading.
Also, I don't get all these new AEs recently. There is just too many right now.

Part of me thinks that the bus girl has shown up with a new SN (if not more than one).

To add to the Drive-by BFP posts:

I never posted a BFP post when I had my CP. I'd been around for 4 cycles and I didn't want to be considered a drive-by. I wasn't sure if I would or not, I didn't know that so many people back then had been mesmerized by the moppies I had in my siggy back then. I posted when I had the CP, though.

And for the newbies (and the oldies that miss them), my moppies:

ETA: Mesmerized by the moppies, not memorized. WTF, Tamma?

mrspharmd · May 2013

WhoCanItBeNow:
aneubecker:
WhoCanItBeNow:

aneubecker:
2. We are talking about drive bys here. I could care less about someone I don't recognize. Why else would they post a BFP if not to rub it in our faces? Or they truly care what a group of Internet strangers have to say when they didn't put in much effort to get to know us before the BFP? I'm sorry but an intro post doesn't count.
3. I think it's phony and fake when people say how happy they are for the women in those drive by BFP posts. You really care that much about a complete stranger? Honestly, I think that's how some people try to boost up their post count.

2. Just because you don't recognize them doesn't mean someone else does not. I've seen some get lit up that were fairly regular, but because they joined during their TWW and only had like 30 posts, they were pegged as a drive by (this also happens when someone that normally posts at night posts a BFP in the morning). There is a difference between someone new posting and someone being a d!ck. If you can't recognize that difference, you are the issue, not them.

3. Some people are. I'm not one of them, but some people are that way. You are really telling someone they can't be happy because you wouldn't be?

 

2. Then maybe that person should have recognized that they would be seen as a drive by, and just move on to first tri. I don't understand why women feel like they HAVE to post their BFP on here. 3. Did I say that? I said its phony and fake to me. I think it's great they got KU. I'm not bitter or jealous, I just straight up don't feel the need to be all fake and tell them how happy I am for then, since I don't know them. Ii i say anything, its usually just congrats, then I move on.

Why do you feel like you are the one who gets to determine who can post a BFP here? Let's make rules. That has always worked well in the past. <<<massive sarcasm

You don't feel the need to say more. Fine. They do. Fine.

 

Interesting, I thought I was just speaking my mind, didn't realize I was trying to make rules! I never said people shouldn't say congrats and stuff like that, I simply said I think it's fake. People can do whatever they want, I could care less.

bornmommy · May 2013

LokiTTGP:
bornmommy:
I feel like the board is slipping from snark to down right meanness. Well placed snark is entertainment. Straight up telling someone to go *** themselves or eat sh!t is mean. Remember that chick that wanted the other girl to get hit by a bus? I feel like that's where we are heading.
Also, I don't get all these new AEs recently. There is just too many right now.
I doth not see any more alternate egos than normal.
Some alternate egos are ban-Dodgers.
I am not.
I am here to have a spot of fun.

I get that. I think this ridiculous that this is happening but TB Gods have spoken. I do feel I like see a new one every day now. Whether its a reincarnated AE or someone ban dodging, I still feel like there are too many active right now. (I guess this is an UO.)

peanutmuse · May 2013

As a rule, I only ever say congrats for BFP posts of people that I recognize and have some sort of understanding of their journeys.

I rarely read intro posts that have "intro" in the title. Like maybe 1% of the time. It's not like I'm going to remember them anyway. I remember people by the interactions that I have with them in threads.

Those are my boring confessions for today.

bornmommy · May 2013

WhoCanItBeNow:
bornmommy:

I feel like the board is slipping from snark to down right meanness. Well placed snark is entertainment. Straight up telling someone to go *** themselves or eat sh!t is mean.

All parties involved have resolved their differences and moved on. It is suggested you do as well.

I was making an observation of a trend over the past couple weeks. If its resolved, great. I have nothing to move on from, though, since I wasn't involved.

slaughter182 · May 2013

thetruthhurtsyo:
I think it's down right obnoxious to get riled up by "drive by BFPs". Newsfuckingflash- this isn't an infertility board. It's the TTGP board. If someone is successful at getting pregnant faster than you, you need to put on your big girl panties and deal with it. Being nasty because someone else got a BFP, whether you "know" them or not, is asinine. And it makes you look like an immature, stupif fuuuckface.

New confession: I hate the term big girl panties.

Rach604 · May 2013

As a relative newbie, I will never post "am I pregnant?!" and probably won't post a BFP if it happens anytime soon. I do appreciate those posters who answer my questions though, even when they are dumb and I'm sure they've been asked 10,000 times before.

FFFC: I am pissed at myself for stopping temping this month since it is CD41 with no sign of AF in sight. I had an OPK yesterday that was negative but was still the closest to positive I've ever had. We are HIO just in case and I OPK 2x a day just in case but still. Stupid, stupid, stupid! I will probably be addicted to peeing on a stick about 10 days from now if there's still no AF.

peanutmuse · May 2013

Slapalicious:
Personally, I don't usually post on BFP's for people I don't know. I don't know them or really care. I wouldn't expect them to post on my BFP if I were ever so lucky.
If someone is getting butt-hurt about the replies, I used to make an attempt to explain to them why people think it's offensive - but I haven't done that in ages.
I think it's just as bad to get riled up about people getting riled up. Is it worth your time and thoughts to argue about this? I think not. That's why I quit posting on those threads.
I always felt that if we ignore it, it'll go away. But then again, I'm "meh" about stuff like that most of the time and it's obviously still here.
Yeah, I guess there was no real point to this post. :P

I think these are excellent points, slaps.

huskymomma94 · May 2013

I judge the shiiit out of people who say that they trust their pets completely and leave their young children and dogs unattended. ANY dog can bite, and I think its foolish and irresponsible (as a parent AND a pet owner) to completely trust that your dog won't.

jaytee16 · May 2013

MeatandBandP:

I do hope everyone's stay is short and sweet, but if you have been positing for a short time, there's no reason to do a BFP post here. You are not a part of this community if you have been posting for a week.
My FFFC that driveby BFP are actually starting to bother me. Obviously no one else's fertility affects mine and I hope everyone gets pregnant easily, but 8 months into this, I do feel jealous when it happens easily for someone and it hasn't for me.

Co-signed. Sometimes when I open a BFP post and read it's there 1/2/3 month trying I stop reading and close it because although I'm happy for them, I'm jealous and annoyed that it's not happening that fast for me. Some days I won't even open them unless it's a name I recognize and want to definitely offer congrats. Conversely, I love reading the BFP posts from women who have had longer journeys, it gives me hope.

slaughter182 · May 2013

Slapalicious:
dancer7889:
I hate poas! I don't understand everyone's love for peeing on sticks.
Me too.
I try to work my FW so that I use as few OPKs as possible (I think I only used 4 one cycle) because I hate pissing in cups so much. I seriously don't get that obsession.

I've used the wondfo's twice now and don't know how people pee in a cup every day.

On a related note, I'm implementing a no asparagus rule for myself on FW from here on out. Rookie mistake.

DeLovely2009 · May 2013

I wish I could bake a cake filled with rainbows and smiles and everyone would eat and be happy.

bornmommy · May 2013

huskymomma94:
I judge the shiiit out of people who say that they trust their pets completely and leave their young children and dogs unattended. ANY dog can bite, and I think its foolish and irresponsible (as a parent AND a pet owner) to completely trust that your dog won't.

Yes. I trust my dogs as a dogs. I love my dogs but there is no way to trust that they won't snap at DS if DS pulls their hair or tries to play with their faces. Domestication does not negate their natural instincts.

DeLovely2009 · May 2013

thetruthhurtsyo:
DeLovely2009:
I wish I could bake a cake filled with rainbows and smiles and everyone would eat and be happy.
You don't even go to this school.

I just have a lot of emotions.

catahoulatte · May 2013

slaughter182:
I think it's ridiculous to say "Hope your stay is short and sweet!" in intro posts and then give people a hard time when they get pregnant on one of the first few cycles.
You might as well say, "I hope your stay is as long as difficult as mine, or else I'm going to give you shiit when you post about your BFP!"
Normally, I'm a big fan of the snark around here, but that just rubs me the wrong way.
(P.S. This did not personally happen to me, it's an observation from recent posts.)

I guess this is more of an UO than a confession, but meh. I'm going with it.

I can see what you're saying, but I think that-like the other girls said- that they'd still have 10-20 posts a day, and be posting in the Waiting to O and 2ww thread, they'd still be congratulated even if they were only here a short time.

And if you jumped on the board in your 2ww, found out you were pregnant after a week, you probably didn't have time to connect with anyone anyway so just move along to 1st tri. Not everyone needs to post a BFP announcement if no one knows them. If they HAVE to list what they did and their symptoms, they can add it to their 1st tri intro, where people would appreciate it anyway.

mabjcb19 · May 2013

I'm excited that DH is working tomorrow. Now I can go to the baseball game tonight alone and be alone in the morning tomorrow. I don't even want to talk to people at work right now.

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