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beachgirl1977
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s/o delivery room
beachgirl1977
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If it is just dh in the room with you, where are the other people? Waiting room? Home?
I plan on everyone being home until we give the ok to come. With-- several hours after baby is born and I am back in the room and out or recovery.
WIth ds #1 I was iduced the night before (boring- just cervidal at night) so everyone was home. Had a C section the next day and people came WAY to soon in my opinion. The room was filled with people befroe I even got to hold ds for the first time. I think I saw my inlaws before realy seeing ds (other than a quick kiss before the took him out of the OR
WIth ds #2 we just called everyone but I made sure to tel dh to tell people not to come until they here fromus again.
I feel bad not having people there, but it is so different with a c/s because you wait 1-2 hours before you are with baby again.
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Re: s/o delivery room
Just don't call them until you deliver and have the bonding time you want and need.
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This will be the first new baby for both our families (first grandchild, great-grandchild, niece/nephew on either side) so I will understand if people are anxious & want to be in the waiting room for the duration, but I'll leave it up to them. Fortunately, our family is all in the same area, & most of them actually live closer to the hospital than we do, so it'd be just as convenient for them to wait for things to progress until it's almost go-time & then come on over.
It also depends on the timing - if my water breaks at 8 AM, I can't imagine our parents & siblings taking the whole day off from work just so they can pace around the hospital until the LO makes his/her appearance.
THis is what I am afraid of! DH and I have a family full of baby snatchers and as a FTM, I want my baby time in before. Some people gave us heat for saying we only want certain people in the delivery room. But I want my bonding time with my baby.
Me (32) DH (33)
Surprise BFP 2-7-2013
THis is what I am afraid of! DH and I have a family full of baby snatchers and as a FTM, I want my baby time in before. Some people gave us heat for saying we only want certain people in the delivery room. But I want my bonding time with my baby.
Me (32) DH (33)
Surprise BFP 2-7-2013
I really hadn't thought of this before in the context of the delivery room. I guess I trust our families not to be *too* invasive, but I'm already having flashes of myself clutching the LO to my hospital-gown-covered chest & growling at anyone who gets too close.
The idea that everyone wants to get up in a baby's grill right when he/she is born seems so silly considering how long "babyhood" is. But I guess ultimately it's a sign of love that everyone wants to gather around and share in the experience.
I couldn't care less what people thought, or if it 'looks bad' to have people wait. We live a great distance from our family, but if we lived closer we wouldnt even make the phone calls until we were ready for visitors.
My mom will be here with my before my EDD and staying after, so she will be there when I go into labor - however the delivery room is strictly me and DH and we are going to hold our daughter before anyone else does. My mom knows this and didnt even think anything different when I told her. She said it's all about me and DH and she's just there for the support if/when needed.
With DD, my DH and mom were in the delivery room with me and my dad was just outside the door. My two SILs were in the waiting room and came in as soon as my parents swapped their visitor passes with them. I would do it again exactly the same. My mom was great to have in the delivery room because she was focusing on me while DH could focus on baby. Plus, he was scared shiitless, lol.
110% THIS!
With my first it was just dad and I in the delivery room, but there was no keeping FIL away for long. I could hear him outside trying to get in while baby was being born, and they didn't hold him back for long. Needless to say, he was excited about his granddaughter. My mom was so mad that i didn't want her in the delivery room that she wasn't even there. We've never been close though, and I feel that would be different if we were. My doctor, who is a long-time family friend, called her after he delivered Riley Ann.
This time around it will just be us again, but I know all the family will be there waiting no matter what we tell them. They are all great and they all LOVE babies and I know that will be praying for me and the LO, so yes, it may seem overwelming, but am I going to tell mine and LO's support system for life not to be there for the prize after they've supported me through the whole pregnancy. I don't think so.
With Li, my parents were at the hospital the whole time. They were in my rooom for part of the time, but when I told them to leave, they did. My MIL was calling DH every 5 minutes, so he finally picked up and he said to her to either come to the hospital and sit in the waiting room or he would call her when the baby had arrived and they could come down. They came and sat in the waiting room.
This time, my parents will be taking care of Li while I'm in the hospital, so they will probably go back and forth between hospital and home (they live 5 minutes away).
If I were in the hospital, for any reason, and didn't tell my parents, they would be extremely upset.
Oh and I had my mom and DH for ld.
If I have a c/s... no one is allowed to see and hold baby until DH and I get to bond. My Mom will be there taking some pictures as they get cleaned up... and of us meeting the babies. but she knows that if anyone holds the twins before DH and I, it won't end well.
There is nothing wrong with you doing things your way, if you don't want people there... make it a point that everyone knows this.With DD1, our plan was not to call anyone until after she was born. However, I went into labor two weeks early and my parents were visiting. So they were at home with us while I labored at home, taking care of all the things we had not done yet. My parents called my MIL, they went out to dinner together near the hospital, hoping the baby would be born in the evening. We called them about an hour or so after she was born. They briefly popped in.
With this one, we'll need someone to watch DD1. My cousins live around the corner, so we will probably send DD1 to their house. Other than that, our plan again will be to call people after the baby is born. It's a personal experience and I personally think it's best for the mom-to-be to be most comfortable. I don't think anyone else has any business being anywhere close by at all.
With our first I wanted to wait until after the baby was born to tell anyone - I figured this was the only time we could get away with it since it the future we would need someone to watch older children. This upset our families a little, but I wanted this to be a special time about me & my husband becoming parents without anyone thinking, praying, or worrying about us. As the oldest of 5 I always thought waiting even at home was incredibly boring, plus I didn't want to have to go back and be like just kidding its false labor (especially incase my out of town inlaws wanted to drive out day of...). So naturally, I ended up being an induced, followed by a c-section, and everyone knew. Luckily, they waited for us to call them and invite them to the hospital.
This time I'll probably go with a schedule c-section. Assuming its in the morning, I hope they show up in the afternoon, but I'm excited for my son to meet his little brother. I think in general we'll be able to plan visit better, and the c-section is likely to schedule right before labor day weekend, which gives out of town family extra time.
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I had a c/s the first time and every one got to see the babies before me... something I liked and didn't like is the mother always gets to hold the baby first so they made everyone wait until I was out of recovery and had my time with the boys before they got to hold them.
I am planning on a VBAC this time so if everything goes well my DH and mom will be in the room and everyone else will wait in the waiting room until I give the okay to come in and see the baby... and anyone has a problem with waiting until we are ready to let them in then they can just wait until the baby is home.