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December 2010 Moms
theuntaggablek
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Good mom/bad mom
theuntaggablek
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So we all have our ups and downs as parents.
What are the moments within the last week where you've felt like a good mom? Bad mom?
I'll start.
Good mom: The other morning, S & I were playing with trucks. He said they were going to the farmer's market. I said my truck's getting carrots. He said, green truck is getting swiss chard! (Wow! I thought to myself. He's not just identifying vegetables, but I've made swiss chard cool enough to be incorporated in everyday play.)
Bad mom: Every time I chuck some of his art from daycare into the recycling. It's cute and interesting, and all, but I just can't keep all of it.
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Re: Good mom/bad mom
Good mom: Walking through the store yesterday he was smiling and talking in full sentences!!! I thought about how much his speech is improving outside of daycare and how nice it was to have little conversations in the store. We were buying ingredients for the nice healthy meal we were going to make. I felt on top of it all for awhile!
Bad mom: When I yell after my patience has just been worn thin all.day.long. It happens more often than I would like.
Good Mom: Alexander had two triangular blocks and he was putting them together into a big triangle and saying "Triangle". Then he would make them a square and say "Square." Then when he put it back the first way, he said "Wow! It's a triangle again!" I guess I can't really take any credit for that, but hey, it made me feel proud!
Bad Mom: My house is just a total hole. I feel bad that my kids live there haha!
Bad mom: I've beat myself up about this all week. Sunday was pastor appreciation. After church everyone stayed to eat lunch. J ate with us and after we finished eating I sat in the sanctuary to talk to friends that were visiting. DH wasn't in their so I just assumed he had j. Nope. People left the back door open and he ran outside to play with the big kids. They were too busy playing to not notice he ran off. A lady leaving brought him in the front to the sanctuary and informed me he was out there playing by himself. I felt and still feel like the worse mom in the entire world. He could have been snatched or ran over. I cried the whole way home and I'm so embarrassed to show my face tonight.
Good mom: This morning my friend and I had an impromptu play date. We both decided to brave the community pool with each of us having 2 kids a piece. (hers are 4 and 2). We survived! had a blast and lasted longer than 5 minutes. We broke for lunch and nap and impromptu play date is continuing this afternoon with a trip to the firestation to see some fire trucks. A is going to be so excited, he's never seen one up close before.
Bad mom: So we took the gates off the top of the stairs to move a bunch of furniture around on Friday last week. We removed the bottom one a couple weeks ago for the same reason, but put the top one back. Well for the last few weeks A has done well going up and down the steps (he's been doing stairs solo since he was about 18 months old) and we've enjoyed not hopping gates or dealing with the levers (they can be finiky at times). We've been watching to see when J started getting more interested in exploring away from us then the gates we were planning to put back up..... Well the gates are going back up tonight when DH gets home. This morning J woke up from his early nap and I went upstairs to get him. A followed me up there (not unusual) but at a slower pace since he was whining/throwing a little fit since I told him no we weren't watching TV at 8 in the morning we were going to go play outside. Well I went to pull J out of the crib who is now also crying because he leaked out the diaper and wasn't quite ready to be awake. next thing I hear was A thudding down the stairs. I don't know if he slipped, pushed himself backwards since his new tantrums have had him flinging and flailing around, or what. it was so bizarre and kind of a slow motion roll/slide down the steps. luckily he wasn't injured, just scared, but I texted DH and the gates are going back up.
Good mom - Yesterday C and I were waiting the very slow elevator from DC down the the parking deck and this mom had two kids that go to C's DC who were going nuts! They were jumping, hitting, screaming, just going crazy. C stood there super quiet and patient, munching on his granola bar and watching the show! When we got to the car, I thanked him for his patience and he announced to me "Mama, that big boy wasn't listening!". We work a lot on indoor voices and manners so glad it's paying off.
Bad mom - That same morning he went nuts with an epic temper tantrum b/c he didn't like the shirt he'd chosen the night before, and I couldn't calm him fast enough. We had to go to DC with puffy eyes and a tear-stained face.
These are great. It's so cool how much our little guys are learning.
And oh, JBM, my heart aches for you but don't beat yourself up - could've happened to even the greatest moms - it's hard to keep track of los in a busy building.
Jillybean - my house is a wreck, too, if that makes you feel any better. Maybe once the term is over I can tackle it, and all the extra pre-kiddo#2 stuff!
enjoylife- how scary! I'm glad LO is ok!
I'm having a total brain fart. I'll have to come back later with my own good/bad mom stories.
Good mom-G has gained so much physical confidence in the last couple months. Climbing and jumping and running-all of which he's been doing for well over a year but he has so much more control now. He's become fearless. I'm proud of his skillz!
Bad mom-I don't even want to confess this but maybe it will make one of you feel better. Two weeks ago G was sitting in his high chair. I turned around to put something away and as I turned back I saw the whole chair falling forward with G in it. I couldn't do anything. Poor G was terrified and cried for just a moment but I think I cried for a long time, I was so shaken. It didn't seem like he was hurt. Just his chin was a little red. But, about 4 days later he started screaming and crying every time he was in his car seat that his back hurt. I didn't connect it at first and was ridiculously scared that maybe he had cancer (I've never heard a two year old complaining about their back hurting). He was very specific about it and could even point to where it hurt. I took him into the peds and she diagnosed him with muscle strains in his lower back from the fall. Yeah, I let my son fall and hurt his back. I felt about as low as could be.
Cheekers and enjoylife-How scary for both of you! I am so glad LO's are OK!
JBM-Don't beat yourself up too much. I am sure it was scary for you, but if anyone who has ever had a toddler judges you harshly for that then their kid must have been a saint...or they blocked that part of their kid's childhood from their memory.
Good Mom: O never really spoke much until the last month. Our pedi never seemed concerned because he could follow super complex instructions, but was just quiet. In the last month he has had a total language explosion. When we got to daycare yesterday morning he told his teacher "There was a deer in the yard and it eat momma's flowers". This was a true statement, but it just made me so proud that as little as 5 weeks ago all he was saying was simple single words!
Bad Mom: The last couple of nights O has been really whiny after his bath and non-compliant with going to bed right away. I am not sure if it is the sudden change in how light it is at 7:30 now, or what, but to deal with this, I have been allowing him to come downstairs, have 3 oreos and a glass of milk and watch 20 minutes of Shrek. Then he goes to bed with no complaints; I feel guilty about the cookies and the TV, but after a long day at work, I just want to enjoy him, not fight with him.
Good.mom: I was on the phone 2 nights ago right around bedtime, and DD came in asking something which she could not have. I asked her to go to her room and read a book. I was putting away laundry still on the phone and found her in her room looking at books. She had done exactly as I asked.
Bad mom: it has been really nice outside this week but we got call they want to show our house. It has been on the market for a year but has not been shown since the first of January. Although it is not a mess it defiantly need cleaning and straightening so we have not been able to spend any time outside. Tonight my parents are going to watch her so DH and I can clean. They have a great yard, and I know they will take her outside.
Good mom: We planted our yearly vegetable garden and she told me she's going to eat all the green beans and tomatoes. Go for it kiddo, I'm delighted you like those things!
Bad mom: I taught her an old song I remembered from camp about greasy grimey gopher guts....she keeps repeating the lines, one of which is 'mutilated monkey meat.' I didn't really think about that one before I started to sing it for her. She loves it and asks for it multiple times a day.
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