STMs - Forget all about infants?

Caitlin224 · May 2013

Big baby will be 2 end of August and wee baby will be here mid June.

I feel like I have completely forgotten anything and everything about caring for new babies. Also, I have seriously only bought two outfits and a dresser for wee baby (granted, both are boys, we have tons of crap so nothing is *needed*). No real preparation since "I have boobs and target has diapers..."

Anyone else feeling bad for not feeling MORE. Don't get it twisted, DH and I are frickin thrilled for another baby.

Maybe I am just tired.

kcox123 · May 2013

Nope. Same. Except I don't feel bad about it.

This is our fourth girl in 7 years. Besides newborn size diapers..if we don't have it - we don't need it.

I think about baby constantly though. Just not in a nesting/prepping sort of way like I did with my first.

skio · May 2013

Nope, I haven't forgotten. I'm super excited to have another newborn.

But I will venture to say that I'm the weird one. I don't have any friends who dealt particularly well with the newborn stage other than myself and I don't think it's something most parents look forward to, TBH.

I do understand you on the not having much preparation to do part. We are having another girl, and she'll even be sharing a room with DD1, so there's very little for us to do. No nursery, no clothes, no shower, no furniture, no buying a ton of new gear. Just have to get it out of storage. But that's normal with second and third etc. kids, I think. You've BTDT, literally, so it's easier to sit back and do nothing for a while. Enjoy it! :]

valeivegas · May 2013

This is my 2nd pg, DS is also 2 & I'm much less 'prepared' this time around. I have about 7 weeks left, no name picked out, the room is not even started & I've only bought about 4 outfits. Oh well. I'm more stressed about DH getting the room ready - but it will get done by the end of May for sure.. The 2nd time is like this - you're so busy/preoccupied w/ your other child. I told my mom the same thing you said - she'll have my boobs & the pack n play in our room - what more will she need?

Caitlin224 · May 2013

I also think that I can look back and see how vigilantly I researched, prepared, over-thought and worried with that pregnancy and how it all was basically thrown out the window once the baby got here. So maybe I am just conserving brain power.

shelbell1028 · May 2013

kcox123:

Nope. Same. Except I don't feel bad about it.

This is our fourth girl in 7 years. Besides newborn size diapers..if we don't have it - we don't need it.

I think about baby constantly though. Just not in a nesting/prepping sort of way like I did with my first.

This. I did all the typical FTM stuff when I was preganant with DD. I am WAY more laid back this time. I have bought a few packs of diapers and some clothes as this LO is a boy but other than that I won't be doing anything else to prepare until after baby is here. We have all the big items that we need so like OP said - I have boobs and Target has diapers so I think we'll be good to go!

llbta85 · May 2013

Yup, got a car seat, a few outfits, a Target nearby and boobs. For a while I was stressed about everything that needs to be done, but now I am pretty, enh about it all. I was actually talking with my BFF about this, this morning and she is more worried about it than I am.

jlpev · May 2013

Oh dont worry!! Dh and I are the same way. I'm not worried!! But this time were having a girl. Our first was a boy. Soo a lot of people think I should get all new pink stuff since we are done after DD. But I dont see the point.

MrsWilson2013 · May 2013

First LO was 6.5 years ago, i TOTALLY forgot what its like to take care of a NB. But that's half the fun, the adventure :-)

What we have got for this LO so far is the travel system (from my parents), playpen (from MIL), BIG baby gate system (mailed to us as a early shower gift) changing table/dresser my DH built, hand me down swing, hand me down bouncer, hand me down tub and quite a bit of hand me down clothes.

I have also made quite a few burp cloths.

My shower is in two days, so i am sure i will end up with a bunch more outfits and who knows what else.

melissabshelton · May 2013

After 2 girls, this is the first boy. We had to buy a new crib due to recalls, I've bought some clothes, I grabbed a bunch of wipes when I was at Target and saw they had them on sale, I got some diapers at BRU when they had them for $5 a pack. If I'm out and something catches my eye, I'll get it. Eventually I should probably drag the Pack n Play back over here from my mom's. But we don't really need a bunch of stuff, we have all the big stuff, I don't want a bunch of stuff. DH was all confused because I haven't gone overboard. But it is what it is. We've done this before. If we need anything, Target and Walmart are close by and Walmart is 24 hours.

virginiagirl11 · May 2013

Yep, this is our second child, second boy, so our prep has been pretty minimal. I've bought no new clothes (but received a few onesies that friends decorated, which is fun), no new blankets, etc. Just replaced the pacis, replaced our first nursery fan, got another humidifier and a couple of crib sheets, got a double stroller, and pulled everything else out of storage. I've got most of it washed. Just need to organize the dresser in the nursery, boil the pacis/bottles/pump parts, get the carseats inspected, and clean the infant toys.

I've forgotten everything about newborns, too. I've been reading little blurbs here and there online to refresh myself and maybe I'll look for a Newborns 101-type video tonight to watch after DS goes to bed. I'm also going to do that with child & infant CPR, which is also a bit hazy in my mind.

MrsHughesNC · May 2013

I do feel like I've forgotten a lot--it was over 4 years ago for me. But I'm definitely a lot different this time around. We haven't even started on the nursery (are reusing most of DD's stuff) and haven't picked a name, and honestly I'm just not stressed about it. I feel way more laid back this time. I think that's normal.

DD was an easy baby and I can't wait to have another baby in the house and I'm mostly just excited if anything. Here's hoping little sister will be easy too

keg · May 2013

mainerocks:
I have purchased 2 things so far for this LO. A splurge on some A & A blankets (LO#1 still likes to sleep with his so I don't want to make him share), and a box of size 1 diapers since I had a coupon expiring this week.

Too funny--One of my first baby purchases was another set of A&A blankets for the same reason! Yeah, the prep this time around was much less intense. I did splurge and get a RnP and a changing table since the places I changed the twins no longer exist.

queenbone · May 2013

We found out we were having another boy with #2, so all I had to buy was a new changing pad cover (one was totally shredded somehow) and a pack of baby washcloths. That was it!

We don't know what we are having this time, but the only thing I have to buy is a dresser. Most all my baby clothes are neutral. I think the more babies we have the less stuff we need. Or rather the more we realize the less stuff we have the better!

brauchtm · May 2013

This is my third - and I'm probably going to go any day now. Yesterday I made dh get the stuff out of the attic and I'm just sitting here looking at it, thinking I really ought to do SOMETHING for this one, right? I did buy one package of diapers and nipple cream so I should be good to go! : )

WhitWed · May 2013

shelbell1028:
kcox123:

Nope. Same. Except I don't feel bad about it.

This is our fourth girl in 7 years. Besides newborn size diapers..if we don't have it - we don't need it.

I think about baby constantly though. Just not in a nesting/prepping sort of way like I did with my first.

This. I did all the typical FTM stuff when I was preganant with DD. I am WAY more laid back this time. I have bought a few packs of diapers and some clothes as this LO is a boy but other than that I won't be doing anything else to prepare until after baby is here. We have all the big items that we need so like OP said - I have boobs and Target has diapers so I think we'll be good to go!

This is us, too. We haven't needed a thing other than some new onsies since this one is a boy. We've actually bought more for DD to transition her into her toddler bed, etc. We're definitely thrilled about our second LO, just not worrying or over preparing like we did the first time so it may come off as less enthusiastic.

BelhurstBride · May 2013

I, unfortunately, haven't forgotten. I just keep praying that this kiddo is even just a little bit more easy going than DD. She was a very intense infant.

At this point my energy is more focused on preparing DD than anything else. I'm so worried about how this giant life change is going to effect her. I was pretty laid back preparing for her arrival, too, though.

Caitlin224 · May 2013

BelhurstBride:
...At this point my energy is more focused on preparing DD than anything else. I'm so worried about how this giant life change is going to effect her.......

This. Such guilt for me.

jasminej613 · May 2013

I know exactly how you feel. I have an almost 4 year old son, this one is a boy too. We only "needed" a few things- some stuff wore out or fell apart waiting in our basement- but people keep asking me if I'm all set. Yeah pretty much we are.

We did need to create a nursery for this one, and get a new pack and play (cats destroyed the old one.. furry bastards.) The painting is done so all that needs to happen is the crib assembly and switching dressers...we're re-using everything older DS isn't using anymore.

I think maybe laundry (re-washing all the stuff that was in storage) is the only other thing that really NEEDS to be done at this point.

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