MIL demanding money to watch her grandson!!!

MRSVELA07 · April 2013

So as my one on one time with my baby draws to an end, May 28 is the big day, I'm finding out that my MIL is demanding that we pay her to watch her own grandson!!! I know going with her is most cost efficient day care but the fact that she's demanding payment takes the kind gesture away for us. There's no way she would watch our son without getting something but sheesh! She says "When I watch Chris I'm gonna try to make what I made at a school between him and the 2 other grand kids." WTH!!! I'm taken back by this.

MRSVELA07 · April 2013

FYI Hubby is on board because its his mom.

Allison546 · April 2013

I think we would need more info to give an opinion on this.. How much? If she needs the money and would be working a paying job otherwise, I can kind of understand she would want to be compensated.. It's pretty hard work to watch a baby all the time.

LaurelBee · April 2013

I think this can only be a good thing. When she does something you don't agree on, you can have a professional talk with her. Now you can expect her to do things your way bc she is an employee of you, not just a doting grandma, Kwim?

ta78 · April 2013

I wouldn't expect her to watch him for free. It's not just spending some time w her grandson if she is w him all day. It is a job.

I have a feeling you may be making it more dramatic than it may be also, did she really 'demand' money or did she ask?

Allycat11 · April 2013

ta78:
I wouldn't expect her to watch him for free. It's not just spending some time w her grandson if she is w him all day. It is a job.
I have a feeling you may be making it more dramatic than it may be also, did she really 'demand' money or did she ask?

All of this. I think it is ridiculous to expect her to watch him for free while you are at work.

MelissaRae1525 · April 2013

So... She doesn't deserve to be paid for child care because its her grandson? It's still a baby and its still hard work. I don't think she's in the wrong here.

sbevmc09 · April 2013

Allycat11:
ta78:
I wouldn't expect her to watch him for free. It's not just spending some time w her grandson if she is w him all day. It is a job.
I have a feeling you may be making it more dramatic than it may be also, did she really 'demand' money or did she ask?

All of this. I think it is ridiculous to expect her to watch him for free while you are at work.

Yep.

It's wrong to expect free childcare and then be offended when she asks to be paid.

graciesmurf · May 2013

How is this coming up now and not before lo was born? What was the original plan?

I understand that sometimes original plans go out the window once lo is actually here, but did you and MIL talk about this at all or was it just assumed on your part?

caseylynw · May 2013

I think OP's issue is more about the way it came up. Even she stated she would never expect her to it for free.

drpayne · May 2013

Allycat11:
ta78:
I wouldn't expect her to watch him for free. It's not just spending some time w her grandson if she is w him all day. It is a job. 
I have a feeling you may be making it more dramatic than it may be also, did she really 'demand' money or did she ask? 
 
All of this.  I think it is ridiculous to expect her to watch him for free while you are at work.   

I agree. My parents raised their kids. I don't expect them to raise mine. I know parents often offer but it shouldn't be expected, especially not for free.

MIL demanding money to watch her grandson!!!

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