Community› The Bump Month Clubs› February 2012 Moms
February 2012 Moms
New Discussion

daycare dilema- WWYD

irish4jan1irish4jan1 member
in February 2012 Moms

Hello all,

Id like your opinion on this. I got a few texted pictures of my son (15 mo.) at day care having a blast in their blow up pool. He has a diaper on. One of the pictures I received showed a sliver of the day care owners nephew who is 4 not wearing a diaper or swim shorts. You can only see his hip and leg. At first it didnt bother me, but when I sent the picture to my mother in law (just to show her a pic of her grandson), she responded that it made her feel like it was inappropriate. Then I got to thinking I was missing something... 

We trust the daycare and feel like he is getting the best care. Our son loves it there and is clearly having a blast and she sends us text picture of our son all the time which we love and have never had any reason to worry.

 Thoughts,opinions? How would your handle this and approach the subject with the daycare?

Thanks,

Report Reply to Post

Re: daycare dilema- WWYD

  • jmccall79jmccall79 member
    I could see how it "could" be inappropriate, especially if there's a mix of boys and girls. I have a 4yr old nephew. I think it would be inappropriate for him to walk around without clothes on! Kids are curious, especially around the age of 4, and body parts is probably not a subject most parents would really want to havewith their kida at that age. Certain body parts are private and kids at that age need to be taught that. If they're letting him walk around without clothes on that's kind of hard to teach. I think you need to say something...along the lines of it appears as if X didn't have on any clothes in that picture. Is that something that you normally let happen? I'm just concerned that we plan on teaching our son that our bodies aren't meant for everybody to see and we're just afraid that this couldbe confusing to him.

    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker

    Report Reply
  • Loading the player...
  • Mar5195Mar5195 member

    I think nakedness at this part of their lives is ok IMO.  If the other little boy was 10 then maybe that might be inappropriate.

    If you trust them and feel like he's receiving the best care then don't worry about it. 

    It might have been inappropriate to to send a picture with a half naked child but I don't think it was done intentionally.  She snapped a cute pic of your kiddo and this other child happen to end up in it. 

    Your MIL is overthinking this.   

     

    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
    Report Reply
  • sapphirebride06sapphirebride06
    Having a 4 year old myself - he will be 5 in a few weeks - I wouldn't let him be naked outside.  When he was a baby or even up to about 2 max I was fine with it but even then, only in our privacy fence backyard.  You just never know what kind of freaks are out there driving by ya know?  And around other people my son would freak if he was naked - he is not very shy but we have taught him about his body and what is appropriate, etc. and that isn't appropriate for us so he doesn't do it either.  Just another spin.
    Warning No formatter is installed for the format bbhtml
    Report Reply
  • CotterpinDoozerCotterpinDoozer member

    Personally... I feel like 4 is too old for the "naked outside" game.  I would gently address it with the daycare and say that you are uncomfortable with it.  Maybe the older boy was in the middle of changing or something??? IDK... Gl.

    Warning No formatter is installed for the format bbhtml
    Report Reply
  • irish4jan1irish4jan1 member

    Thank you for all of your responses! It makes me feel better. I was goi ping to speak with the daycare owner tonight, but another parent s there and I did t want to make a scene. I will talk with her tomorrow. I really feel it was unintentional and pretty harmless, but needs to be addressed for boundaries sake.

    i appreciate having this board to share things. Thanks again! 

    Report Reply
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards
"
"