We had our one month check up this morning and the doctor said that it's time to put the baby in his crib tonight. I'm already anxious about tonight. I'm goin to take a nap so that I won't be exhausted but watching him cry is super stressful.
The Dr reassured that doing it now is going to be a lot easier than waiting til he is older.
Have you made the change to the crib yet? Any tips?
Re: dr says its time for the crib
This. My plan is to keep DS in our room for six months. Then we will transition.
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This - times 100... way too young. at 1 month old a newborn NEEDS you.
Hhhmm...maybe I find it odd your pedi is telling you where to put your 1 month old to sleep at night.
We made the crib be the daytime napping place and the bassinet in our room the nighttime place. The crib is working great, he will nap in it. At night he won't hardly go down anywhere. He wants to sleep in our arms/on us. So IMO, if you are getting your LO down to sleep anywhere at night, you're doing amazing. At only one month I'm not overly concerned with it yet.
My first daughter slept in her crib from day 1 and it worked best for us and her. What I did was swaddle her, feed and rock her and put her in the crib. She did like to have a fan on for noise.
With that being said, it seems weird to me too for your pedi to say that the baby NEEDS to be in the crib now. Did they say why? Also, like other pps have said, even if you baby is in the crib, they can't CIO. They don't know how to soothe themselves.
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The reason we were told to make the change is because sleeping in our room he is only sleeping about 30 min. at a time. I can't even get him to stay in his bassinet in our room because he starts crying when either of even turns over.
I asked what to do to get him in his bassinet because I've woke up twice with the covers or my husband's arm on him in our bed. I have tried the swing and he does not like it or the bouncer.
Dr said that it's not safe in our bed if he is getting covered or smashed and instead of fighting trying to get him in the bassinet that it might be better to try the crib because he may sleep better in his own space and we will eventually have to make that change too. He never suggested letting him cry it out just to try to let him sooth himself If he is just a little fussy and keep soothing him.
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I asked for help. I posted this so I could get suggestions from other mothers who have made the transition....not because I was questioning the doctor.
I know that the baby is not safe on our bed but I have no experience makinh the change.
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Put the baby in the crib and go to him/her when they cry. Rinse and repeat. One month olds are unable to self soothe so they need you. There is no secret to transitioning to the crib.
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You realize you don't have to put him in the crib just because your pedi said so, right? When it comes to where baby sleeps (as long as it's a safe place) you need to do what works for you.
Also, if you do make the move to the crib, that doesn't mean you should let your baby cry it out. The vast majority of babies are not ready to sleep through the night at one month old. If your pediatrician actually said your one month old should be left to cry it out, I'd find a new pediatrician.
Sorry your thread went off topic...
My LO is still in our room in the RNP, but we are working on transitions to crib, or anywhere on his back really, during the day. I too am uncomfortable with cosleeping so I feel ya.
Anyway I have had decent luck with a white noise app on my phone, swaddle and patting his chest. I try to put him down either reeeally drowsy or already asleep. Also, my pedi said I could put him to sleep on his belly... Watching him the entire time obviously... And then flip him over gently once he falls asleep. My DS is colicky so he likes pressure on his tummy.
Good luck tonight! Hang in there... I take comfort in the fact that they'll sleep in their bed eventually!
I second all of this!! That was very poor advice.
We moved #1 to her room at 4-5 weeks, because we wanted her sleeping in her room by the time I went back to work. At 4-5 weeks, we moved her bassinet into her room up against her crib and did this for a week or so before transitioning her into the actual crib (the crib was quite huge). Then we would have her take naps in the crib for a couple of days before starting nights. We didn't do CIO. But we did have a video monitor that allowed us comfort of knowing she was okay in there at any time. This arrangement worked out very well for us and gave us some privacy and normalcy (if such thing actually exists as a parent!) by the time I went back to work.
We plan to attempt the same with our son. He turns 4 weeks this Friday. I'll probably start his transition at 6 weeks old, as I return to work at 8 weeks.
Sounds like when you bedshare, you're putting baby between you and YH? That's generally not safe for infants, as you've learned from experience.
https://safebedsharing.org/safetyguidelines.html
Check out the guidelines for safe bedsharing. You should do whatever you think is best, and whatever works best for your family. I just don't want you to limit your options unnecessarily
Thank you. The baby sleeps to my right. I'm not worried about rolling on him. I'm a very light sleeper. My husband on the other hand is not. The baby was under his arm crying when they were in the bed and I was not. That is when I decided I needed to get him to the bassinet before I return to work. So today I asked the Dr his suggestions. He was ok with cobedding but suggested its time to try the crib if cosleeping isn't safe.
Yikes! That is too dangerous and scary! After reading that I'm inclined to agree with your doc about moving to the crib. Or at least a separate bassinet
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The only reason we haven't done the same yet with dd2 is that our temporary house doesn't have an extra room to put her in. When we can move back to our house, hopefully in next few weeks, she'll go right to her crib in nursery.
Good luck!
Sorry. I hadn't read your update when I posted. The OP made it sound like your pedi told you that you had to put LO in a crib, not that you asked for advice.
I didn't transition to the crib until 3 months with my older girls. At that age they were old enough that I could follow a loose bedtime routine: bath, pajamas, nurse to sleep, place in crib. Rock back to sleep if baby woke up fussing. DD3 is 5 weeks, and we're no where close to being able to do that. We bed share, which I also did with my other two. I'm a very light sleeper now, so I wake up the moment anyone in the bed moves.
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Emmeline Grace 03.27.13
Baby definitely cannot be in the bed without mom. No one else is as in tune to them as we are. My LO does sleep between us sometimes. I alternate breasts and nurse in the side lying position, and its easier for me just to move her from side to side. But I sleep with an arm around her at all times so if DH moves, he touches me first. If I get out of bed, LO gets moved to the bassinet, bouncer, crib, swing, etc.
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