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October 2013 Moms
lindseywyattrn
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does this "irritate" anyone else?
lindseywyattrn
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I don't quite think irritate is the right word, but does it make anyone else laugh/be concerned/confused when you see people announce on fb before their pee stick is dry? We just announce ours and we are due the end of October (and I felt like I still announced early) and not even 2 seconds later a girl announces she is due early January. SO FAST TO ANNOUNCE!
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Re: does this "irritate" anyone else?
Yep, this, except for us it was with IF. I haven't been carefree about this pregnancy really until the last week so we waited a WHILE before we announced publicly.
I did, too. Which was so weird to experience.
I also had insensitive idiot friends ask me questions.
We have gone through a loss before and are well aware of risks.
I feel like at anytime during pregnancy and birth there can be complications or loss, even though the risk is usually lower later on in pregnancy. So I personally felt there was no reason to keep it to myself, when I wanted to share.
Same here
Another colleague also commented how he didn't understand why people make such a big deal out of "trying" because his wife got pregnant with their daughter the first month. I wanted to absolutely strangle him.
Agreed. I, personally, would not want to retract anything so publicly when anything can happen in the first few weeks.
My SIL had to retract just from family members and that was painful enough. I just announced today on FB, but have been taking flack from my in-laws for a few weeks; you think they would have learned a valuable lesson.
I also think people just do not realize how tentative the first few weeks are...hopefully, she will be ok and will have that baby in January!
I announced with DS 3 days after BFP. I didn't know the risks. I was naive and carefree and never thought twice about it. Then I joined the bump and realized how common MC really is and last summer told DH I wanted to wait to tell people. I'm glad I waited because we did lose that baby.
So they may be posting out if ignorant bliss
Me too! I didn't do a specific fb announcement, but told parents nd siblings at seven weeks after first u/s, but had to untell when we lost a twin. Extended family was told after our ten week appt and friends were told after nt scan. A coworker of mine claims "infertility" but only had to clean up some endometriosis and then got pregnant naturally the next month. She made a big fb announcement after her first u/s and I couldn't help but feel jealous. I'm 16.5 weeks now and still anxious that something bad will be found at our next appt. I feel very envious that people are so confident about it and take that for granted.
Still haven't announced and just started telling local friends because I'm starting to show. My very best friends and my dad know. My mom and sister do not but we are not close at all and both struggle with mental health issues and will make this all about them. It makes me sad, but I'm just not ready to deal with them. We did take some SERIOUSLY CUTE pics of the kids holding big brother/sister chalkboards and after my next appointment I think I'll put it on FB.
I started bleeding with my son at 18 weeks and was on bed rest until 26 so I'm just not feeling confident until I get to 24. Shoot, I just may wait until then to announce.
This is me too. With DS we announced to family and friends with in days of my BFP. Thankfully last fall we hadn't told so we didn't have to untell. We told family about this one at 10 weeks, after 3 u/s and are just starting to tell friends. I still haven't said anything on FB.
I'm not 'irritated' I just worry for them when the announce that early.
TTC#2 October 2011. June 2012 diagnosed with mild PCOS and both tubes blocked.
10/1/12 miracle BFP 11/12/12 missed m/c (9w2d), baby stopped growing at 7 weeks
1/16/13 BFP, EDD 9/27/13, m/c 1/19/13
2/12/13 BFP, EDD 10/25/13 Please stick little one
A stowaway on board!
Every person should be able to make that decision for themselves without someone else being critical of it. We announced after we'd been to the doctor the first time, had the u/s and confirmed the pregnancy. I was around 8 weeks. I was so happy and so was DH, so there was no keeping it from our families who we knew would be sending us all their prayers and well wishes. I know miscarriage is so common, but its not something we have to go through alone. Just my thoughts.
BFP #2 11/4/12 EDD 7/20/12 missed M/C 12/13/12 @8w5d D&C 12/21/12
DX 2/7/13 with an alloimmunity + for anti-paternal antibodies started Lovenox daily & BA
BFP 2/16/13 EDD 10/28/13
Now THIS irritates me. We all knew what we were signing up for. STFU.
That was one of my biggest fears. I am so sorry for your loss.
I even hesitated to tell my mom and sisters until we were further along. At 6 weeks, only 2 weeks after the positive pee test and MD confirmation, I had horrible cramping and spotting. I hadn't told anyone yet and felt so alone. I ended up blurting it out to the secretary at work because I needed someone else to know! Thank God and praises be that everything is ok and baby just wanted me to get an early U/S and sonogram to show off. At that moment, I knew that I wanted my mom and sisters to be there no matter what. I would need them if I had another scare, or worse. However, I didn't post on FB until we reached the 13 week mark...and even then I was super nervous, like we were tempting fate. Also, my husband is very old school Italian and his family won't really talk about the baby or buy anything etc until the baby is born.
We still haven't "announced" it (close friends and family do know). I had a miscarriage at 11 weeks after DS, so we're in no rush to tell people this time. I'm waiting until we know if it's a girl or a boy.
Me too. I get that the day to day of pregnancy is not always glamorous, but the end goal makes it all worthwhile.
I feel bad because I actually hid posts from one of my friends because it just made me so depressed. She was constantly posting about how horrible she felt and all these issues with her pregnancy. Granted, she did have a rough pregnancy and I would talk with her about it and listen with a sympathetic ear...but to be honest, I go to FB for silly shared videos and updates on my cousin who lives cross-country. I am more than happy to be a shoulder to cry on, but need to portion it out for my own sanity. (Since people seem to be on fire today, I fully expect to be ripped a new one for this honest post...I do need to get a thicker skin I guess in order to be here)
I also don't like people doing weekly facebook belly pictures. Especially when they start them at 5 weeks haha. It drives me crazy.
Yea I can't stand that. On facebook, I post when we find out news about the baby, and that's about it. It's so sad when people complain that much, because you never know who on your facebook is going through infertility or losses...shiz, if I say I'm tired at work I get "Well, try to enjoy your pregnancy, some of us weren't able to experience that." *facepalm*
I had a friend show us the sticks as they got darker. No she was not "trying", dealing with IF or anything else I think would warrant that type of behavior. She was out on FB at 6w when they confirmed that there was a lo in there, but I'm not even sure if she heard the hb yet.
I don't think it irritates me, but I do get jealous. I wish I could be so carefree from the get go, and not be so worried. Pregnancy is supposed to be a joyous, beautiful time, but for so many of us, it is a time filled with trepidation. And I think that it is SO unfair!
Not really. That being said..
With my first PG, I announced to a few immediate family members.. balloons and all... then had a chemical pregnancy at less than 6 weeks. Luckily it was really only my parents and siblings I had to un-tell, so they were very supportive.
With my second PG (my DD) I announced to the world by 7 weeks, after we saw baby and the heartbeat. Still early now that I look back on it, but I guess I was comfortable seeing the HB.
With this one, we announced to the world I think right after 12 weeks. I think I have seen enough people have losses, and of course my own, that I have become a little more cautious. Also, just didn't want the attention so early this time. It was nice to keep it to ourselves a bit longer.