My H and I are recently married. We have decided to TTC right away. I wanted to introduce myself here. My H is in the Air Force. I am not new to the military lifestyle. My dad was in the Marine Corps for 27 years; however, it is quite different being the spouse now and not the daughter.
My H is deploying in the Spring of 2014, so we are "trying" for a couple of cycles. If nothing happens we will try at the beginning of 2014.
We are doing this because if we are successful now he will be here for the whole pregnancy and birth before he deploys. Waiting until 2014 has him gone for most of the pregnancy, but here for the birth. Our main objective is for him to be here for the birth.
I would love to hear from any of y'all who were working around a deployment while ttc.
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I would have preferred having my dh gone for the pregnancy but home for the birth and first year. The pregnancy is the easy part. The first year is where it gets tough. And, put yourself in his shoes. Would you want to have this baby and then leave for a few months. Babies change so much, and I know my dh would have been devastated to miss that part. It would have been a lot more stressful on me having him gone during the infancy as well.
If it was me, I'd enjoy being married for a bit, and start trying next year.
Beachy730- "There was a point before the 2nd deployment that we thought NBD if we got pregnant now since it's only a 5 month deployment and you'll be home. Yeah, so glad we didn't because the 5 month deployment got extended twice and he was gone for 8 months."
This is exactly what happened to us! 5 month turned into 8. My hubby was deployed last year and we waited to try until he was home. He is set to deploy again spring of 2014 and we are expecting in July. His last deployment was extended twice and I have friends who delivered without their husbands. There really is no good way to plan in this life. You have to just go with what feels right for you! Just when you think you have it all figured out, the military is bound to throw you for a loop.
Good luck! I hope your hubby will be there for as much as he can!
Thank you for your advice! It is hard to plan with H being in the military. Hopefully things will work out well. I just can't imagine waiting until Fall 2014 to TRY. I know that how we have thought through this that he will miss out on something whether it be me pregnant or 6 months of infancy. I guess we will see what happens this go round.
Again, I appreciate all the info and thoughts. It has given me a lot to consider!
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*Currently on Clomid (monitored) and waiting on tissue results.
Thank you for that! That's kind of how I feel. I know that we will have to give up something with this impending deployment whether it be him gone for part of the pregnancy or gone for 6 months of the baby's infancy, but I don't want to completely put off ttc until he gets back from deployment in the Fall of 2014. Maybe I am being naive, but our families live 7 hours away. Neither of our moms work and I know if I EVER needed anything they would come stay with me. We also have grandparents who love to travel. That combined with a great support system we have here, I think I could manage. Of course life would be easier if he were here for all of it, but as we all know as military spouses, that just isn't reality.
I really appreciate your advice and telling me about your experience. It is very helpful!
M/C 1/15 @ 6 weeks
RE 8/16
Monitored Clomid 11/15
M/C 12/16 @ 6 weeks
Clomid & Ovidrel Shot
M/C 2/16 @ 8 weeks
*Currently on Clomid (monitored) and waiting on tissue results.