My neighbor announced she is pregnant. Turns out she is just about as far along as I would've been with my 1st pregnancy, I just lost my second not even a week ago. I pretty much crashed. I just don't know how I'm gonna handle watching her belly grow.
I'm so tired of people telling me it just wasn't the right time and to not worry because I will have my babies some day. The truth is nobody knows and yes I want to stay positive but there's a part of me that's a realist too. After the 1st I was devastated but had hope it was just a fluke, but now it's hard not to worry and think the worst.
I know it's childish but . . . It's just not fair.
Re: Other pregnant women
I'm sorry about your loss and also agree that other people's advice can only go so far. Although they mean well, hearing advice doesn't always help since everyone's pregnancy is so unique. It's natural to feel upset around pregnant women and its ironic that they are everywhere. I just went to a friend's 50th bday party yesterday and was stuck sitting next to literally the only person with a baby there. Deep down I wanted to scream, but nobody knows that. It's definitely difficult dealing with emotions many people don't even notice, but I think it makes us stronger women in the long run. I hope this is helpful :-)
BFP#1: 2/2/13 ~ exact m/c date unknown but around 3/20 at 10 weeks ~ diagnosed with PMP ~ D&C on 4/5 ~ TTA for at least 1 year due to PMP ~ cleared to TTC 1/14
BFP#2: 2/7/14 ~ m/c 2/20/14 ~ possibly due to chemical pregnancy ~ TG no D&C is needed
Surprise BFP#3: 4/4/14 ~ super duper extra happy (and nervous) about this one - EDD 12/9/14!!!
John Joseph was born on 12/12/14 at 7 lbs. 11 oz. He is the most beautiful rainbow baby we could have wished for!
::HUGS::
Its very hard to stay positive after multiple m/c. And it is unfair.
More ::HUGS::
I feel your pain, I wanted to scream tonight during my workout when my CrossFit coach made me scale way back since I'm still recovering from my second mc and the girl beside me is 7 months pregnant, due a month after me, who whines about her pg everyday. He then reminded me its all about ACCEPTANCE. I wanted to punch him and quickly reminded him that accepting this entire situation, 2 losses in 4 months, a 14lb weight gain and working out next to a woman who is gloating and pg SUCKS!
But my life could be worse and it's all about taking it one day at a time and I'm trying to be optimistic that the third time will hopefully be the charm. TP are with you. Know that you are not alone and shouldn't feel guilty for being annoyed now.
BFP #1 11/19/12 EDD: 7/25/13 Natural MC on 12/31/12 at 10w4d
BFP#2 3/1/13 EDD: 11/5/13 Missed MC 4/9/13 at 10w D&C 4/11/13
Baby #2 diagnosed with Trisomy 16. Diagnosed Hetero MTHFR.
BFP#3 8/5/13 EDD: 4/13/14 Team Green Turned Team Blue! Our rainbow baby, Griffin R arrived via c-section (breech since 20w) on 4/11/14.
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~~Everyone Always Welcome~~
I'm so sorry you're going through this...it's not easy, but you have every right to feel sad or mad. It isn't childish...it's part of your grieving process. Take the time you need to heal and you'll see that things will slowly but surely become easier for you.
Keeping you and your family in my t&p! ((hugs))
BFP 1/23/13; US 1/28/13 Perfect Peanut @ 7w! So in love!; 2/23/13 Peanut Says Goodbye; 2/24/13 Natural MC at 11w
BFP #2: 10/5/2013; EDD 6/11/2014
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