Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
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My dad's on his way over to eat dinner with us soon because my mom has been out of town all week. Anyone else drinking anything good tonight?? 
Re: It's Friday Night...
Beer. Of the root variety.
Stupid work tomorrow.
Have to go to bed soon.
TTC #1 since 10/12
7/13 : DX Possible PCOS
---ultrasound shows clear left ovary, "polycystic appearance" on right
---TSH and prolactin levels : Good
10/9/13 : RE appointment scheduled
You just inspired me to open my own bottle of Moscato. Thanks for that!
Boo! Stupid work is right! It always messes everything up, doesn't it?!
BTW, what happened to my picture of my dog in my siggy?! Do pics uploaded through tinypic eventually just disappear??
Yummy. I'm drinking a beer right now. Today is the first day it actually feels like spring. Wore my flip flops, went for a run outside, and now DH just put a big steak on the grill. We will of course open a bottle of red to go with that
Ugh. That sucks. Hope you're head feels better soon!
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Sounds like here! It has been beautiful the last three days, after weeks of cold and snow storms once a week. I'm so happy to have on short sleeves and flip flops today! DH is grilling chicken and pineapple for us tonight! Yum!
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Trying to get knocked up since June 2012 ~ Dx: PCOS
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...floor.
Today is my brother's 19th birthday! I'm currently at my parents' house doing laundry (as I don't have my own appliances to do so nor any hookups for my own either), while watching Ghost Adventures waiting for my family to come home. DH is trying to get into the show with me.
I don't know if I'll drink tonight. DH is convinced I'm pregnant because I was being a b!tch to him earlier, but I'm pretty sure I'm not. If only it were so easy.
So nice to wear flip flops!! I seriously may loose it if it snows again!
I'm with you! I don't want to see snow again until at least October! I'm a teacher, and my assistant principal kept coming over the intercom today talking about the sno-cone sale after school. I kept thinking she was going to say something about snow...ugh!
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Iced Coffee here. We are living on the edge tonight!
BFP #1 11/28/09 ~ EDD 8/6/10 ~ DS Born 8/9/10
BFP #2 8/27/13 ~ EDD 5/8/14 ~ Natural MC 9/18/13 at 6 weeks, 6 days
BFP#3 3/28/14 ~ EDD 12/7/14 ~ DD Born 11/21/14
BFP#4 6/15/17 ~ EDD 2/20/18
Watching anything good? We got hooked on Scandal and can't wait for this season to end so it shows up on Netflix!
BFP #1 11/28/09 ~ EDD 8/6/10 ~ DS Born 8/9/10
BFP #2 8/27/13 ~ EDD 5/8/14 ~ Natural MC 9/18/13 at 6 weeks, 6 days
BFP#3 3/28/14 ~ EDD 12/7/14 ~ DD Born 11/21/14
BFP#4 6/15/17 ~ EDD 2/20/18
Trying to get knocked up since June 2012 ~ Dx: PCOS
BFP 7.24.13 ~ EDD 4.2.14 ~ m/c 9.16.13 @ 11w4d
BFP 5.4.14 ~ EDD 1.12.15 ~ stick little bean!
TTGP 2013 Best Blog ~ Fruit ~ My BFP Chart
Well we just finished The Walking Dead yesterday. It only took us like 3 days haha. We've heard Breaking Bad is good so we are going to start that in a minute. Anyone with opinions on that show?
I agree Scandal looks good too!
Edit: an FYI my DH NEVER watches a tv series with me. Walking Dead was the first time he got into a show and made him willing to try another series. This is an exciting time for me haha!
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Water here. I'm boring!
Hugs and kisses.
Trying to get knocked up since June 2012 ~ Dx: PCOS
BFP 7.24.13 ~ EDD 4.2.14 ~ m/c 9.16.13 @ 11w4d
BFP 5.4.14 ~ EDD 1.12.15 ~ stick little bean!
TTGP 2013 Best Blog ~ Fruit ~ My BFP Chart
When we get hooked on a series we knock them out pretty quick! I think we watched season 1 of Scandal in two nights. It was a long winter! We weren't getting out much!
I don't know a ton about Breaking Bad, but have heard its good. Enjoy!
BFP #1 11/28/09 ~ EDD 8/6/10 ~ DS Born 8/9/10
BFP #2 8/27/13 ~ EDD 5/8/14 ~ Natural MC 9/18/13 at 6 weeks, 6 days
BFP#3 3/28/14 ~ EDD 12/7/14 ~ DD Born 11/21/14
BFP#4 6/15/17 ~ EDD 2/20/18
I just drank a Vanilla Cappachino.
Wild Women I tell ya. Pretty soon we'll be dancing on tables singing "Pour some Shuga on meeeee...Oooooo in the name of LOVE....."
No? Just me? Ok.
WOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!
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BFP #1 11/28/09 ~ EDD 8/6/10 ~ DS Born 8/9/10
BFP #2 8/27/13 ~ EDD 5/8/14 ~ Natural MC 9/18/13 at 6 weeks, 6 days
BFP#3 3/28/14 ~ EDD 12/7/14 ~ DD Born 11/21/14
BFP#4 6/15/17 ~ EDD 2/20/18
It's a slow start I'm finding...can't help but mobile bump while it's on.
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I can't make Bewbs because I'm mobile.
Sads.
Holy fark. That blows.
Where the eff do you live?!
Pour a strong one gurlfran.
Wow. I've been caught in hail during hurricane season and it's horrible. Glad you're ok though!!
Ugh! Hailstorms are the worst! Glad you're Ok though.
i wondered if that existed. I tried to find it to mix with my cake vodka, but no luck. I settled for the regular kind.
I am on mobile, so, thumbs up!