How do you feel about this?

Andrewsgal · April 2013

Someone made this comment below about her husband and her duty as a SAHM.

"He deserves a clean house and good meal when he gets home"

What does the SAHM board think?

lexusolsen · April 2013

Sounds like he should have gotten a housekeeper instead of a wife...

Arnegard · April 2013

I deserve a clean house and good meal too!

kcisthebombdotcom · April 2013

i think one of two things--

1. she has an easy infant on her hands and no idea what she's in store for when the toddler years come.

2. she doesn't realize the worth of her 'job'

Mrs.Greg · April 2013

I keep a clean house because I like a clean house. I make nice dinners [most nights!] because I love to cook and I like good food. There are things I do specifically for DH but cooking and cleaning are not on this list.

penguingrrl · April 2013

My husband would far prefer that the kids were taken care of and had educational experiences with me than a clean house and hot meal.

When I can I do try to keep up with the housework and cooking (cooking and baking are my hobbies) but the kids a

jeggomyeggo · April 2013

Excuse me? You're going to call me out like that? Bored with your soaps and needing some drama? Super cool.

I am just trying to figure life out and that's truly how I feel. He doesnt ask or demand anything from me except to love him and our

kcisthebombdotcom · April 2013

i called it...just sayin. lol.

ToBeMrsT · April 2013

Arnegard:
I deserve a clean house and good meal too!

This is exactly what I was th

lindslalala · April 2013

Mrs.Greg:
I keep a clean house because I like a clean house. I make nice dinners [most nights!] because I love to cook

Andrewsgal · April 2013

jeggomyeggo:
Excuse me? You're going to call me out like that? Bored with your soaps and needing some drama? Super cool.
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sophie206 · April 2013

I have a hard time with this, because ultimately I agree with you ladies who say that our job is primarily to provide quality care, education, & experiences for our children.

But I was raised in a family with pretty traditional roles. My mom

kcisthebombdotcom · April 2013

jeggomyeggo:
Excuse me? You're going to call me out like that? Bored with your soaps and needing some drama? Super cool. I

WinsyWade · April 2013

My very first thought when reading that statement in the other post- "What is this the 1950's?"

And clean house... Pfft. LOL (You should see the playroom right now. <img src="https://community.thebump.com/cs/emoticons/emotion-3.gif"

Andrewsgal · April 2013

KC_13:
if you're that sensitive maybe this isnt the board for you.

Yep

kcisthebombdotcom · April 2013

sophie206:
I have a hard time with this, because ultimately I agree with you ladies who say that our job is primarily to provi

fancefpp · April 2013

If I have the time and energy to cook and clean, I will do it because it's part of being responsible. DH does a lot around the house on the weekends, and basically, cleans up after dinner, so I do feel like it's more my responsibly to clean up during t

JaysonandKristin · April 2013

Under normal circumstances, the only thing DH deserves is love and respect when he walks through the door.

The clean house and cooking is so that I keep some shred of sanity. Those are about the only things I have control over anymore. &nbs

notkateanymore · April 2013

And I deserve somebody to make that happen for us.

2-Step · April 2013

Maybe deserves is the wrong word, but I do try to pick up the main living area and have dinner going when my DH gets home. When we were both working FT we split everything equally in the evenings and part of our reasoning for me quitting was that eveni

notkateanymore · April 2013

jeggomyeggo:
Excuse me? You're going to call me out like that? Bored with your soaps and needing some drama? Super cool. I

MountaineerMomma · April 2013

DH could care less if the house is spotless. I cook for all of us, not just him. I will say though that a good dinner is part of how I let DH know that I appreciate how hard he works.

susanmosley · April 2013

It depends on what she thinks she deserves...and I guess what he thinks she deserves.

bumpuser8448316 · April 2013

Sure he does. And so do I.

MountaineerMomma · April 2013

jeggomyeggo:
Excuse me? You're going to call me out like that? Bored with your soaps and needing some drama? Super cool. I

LoriLee14 · April 2013

He works hard and gave up some extras for me to be a stay at home mom. I am here more often so i do the housework and that includes cooking. But my husband has never came home and was dissapointed because there are toys everywhere and clothes on the be

nosoup4u · April 2013

KC_13:
jeggomyeggo:

PunkyBooster · April 2013

We all deserve those things. I think it's important to make a team effort. How that works is different with each couple.

I know a few sahm who do exactly those things daily. Dhs do nothing once home. And then there are those of us who do our

dotty188 · April 2013

I've said that before. I was talking ot my family when I said it but they are VERY closed minded and negaitve. I know some SAHM's feel like that and make sure they do this a majority of the time. However, DH knows that if I can do it, it

id012 · April 2013

sophie206:
I have a hard time with this, because ultimately I agree with you ladies who say that our job is primarily to provide qu

LMCB12 · April 2013

I feel like it is part of my job to cook and clean being a SAHM. With that being said, there are days that it just doesn't get done. Sometimes I will ask DH to pick something up for dinner on the way home. He understands. He also helps around the house as

jldubb0626 · April 2013

What kills me is the word deserves. It makes her sound like she's beneath her DH and that just doesn't roll in my world. I do my best every day to make sure the house is picked up and dinner is somewhat prepared when he gets home. But it's never been dema

jjt616 · April 2013

DH and I both agreed that my responsibility as a sahm is to care for our DD. that's it. However, if I am able to during nap time do some cleaning and prep dinner great, if not, no biggie. It'll either be a pizza night or left overs. I choose to do the dis

shortstuff15 · April 2013

I don't have a problem with it really, as long as the "deserves" comes from a place of respect. My husband does deserve a clean house and good meal, but so do I and so do my kids. We all deserve that because it's healthy to have a clean house

peacelove&mama · April 2013

Arnegard:
I deserve a clean house and good meal too!nbsp;

Exactly this.

sbevmc09 · April 2013

I'm not as offended by it as I would think.

On one hand, the principle of it rubs me the wrong way.

On the other, if it's feasible, I try to straighten up a bit right before MH gets home so he doesn't have to walk into a h

Raeily · April 2013

I don't know about -deserve-, but I know my husband works very hard to provide for me and his daughter and I do -like- to have a clean home and dinner ready for him. But it doesn't always happen and we both know that's okay. I used to be the bread winn

Ms. Lisi · April 2013

LMCB12:
I feel like it is part of my job to cook and clean being a SAHM. With that being said, there are days that it just doe

ta78 · April 2013

Deserve is definitely the wrong word to use.

First and foremost I take care of our children. Some days the house is clean.. Less days dinner is made. What he deserves is to come home to a loving family. As long as DS hasn't completely destr

abs05 · April 2013

scatteredtrees:

Do I want those things for my H when he comes home? Yes. Do I always deliver? No.

That's like

Andrewsgal · April 2013

Hav=Fath:
AG - Did you ever give your opinion? I didn't see it, but I didn't read it super carefully either.

no

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