Late loss moms, please come in (sensitive subject)

MickeyM04 · April 2013

I have a friend who lost her baby at about 5 months within the last year. She doesn't talk about it much, other than that she had a loss. I believe she declined to hold/see the baby, keep the footprints, etc. I think it was just too hard for her, and I get that. Mother's Day is coming up and I think it will be really hard on her, especially since she has not yet been able to conceive again. Do you think it would be nice to get her a Mother's Day card acknowledging her and her angel baby, or do you think it would be hurtful in light of the fact that she doesn't talk about it much? I keep going back and forth. I know that Mother's Day will be hard on her, but I also want to do something that will make her feel better, not worse. What do you think?

carrotsoup70 · April 2013

I wouldn't suggest sending a Mother's Day card. I think it would be too painful. I received a lot of Thinking of You cards on my angel's birthday. They made me feel good because I knew others didn't forget him. Maybe something like that would show that yo

MickeyM04 · April 2013

Thank you carrot, I appreciate your input. And I'm very sorry for your loss as well.

Petunia844 · April 2013

I agree a Mother's Day card would be too painful because of the messages in them, but I think a thinking of you this Mother's Day card would be really nice. I got a few last year and it was just nice to be acknowledged as a mother. I'm so sorr

mork · April 2013

I agree with the other ladies: a card, but not a Mother's day card. Someone on TTCAL just mentioned a special line of cards the other day. I think it was something like lossforwordscards.com. That's probably not the right address, but you should be able t

MrsRiceARoni · April 2013

I think the fact that she doesn't talk about the child makes it harder to judge what would be appropriate. I might go as far as thinking of sending her a thinking of you card around Mother's day without specifically mentioning Mother's day on it. I have a

jertie · April 2013

I was super raw for Mother's Day - and it was almost a year after my loss and I had just found out I was pregnant. Personally, I didn't even want to acknowledge the day - it just hurt too much. (It still makes me sad.) I think I'd skip s

MickeyM04 · April 2013

Thanks so much ladies for all your input. It sounds like the consensus is the same. Not a Mother's Day card but just a thinking of you type card or note around Mother's Day. I know it will be a really hard day for her and I jus

emeraudecephiro · April 2013

I'd maybe send some flowers and a thinking of you card.

butterflynola · April 2013

Ugh the first mother's day was soo, sooo hard

I'm not sure how I'd handle it since she didn't want to see the baby if she wants to be reminded, not that she forgot, but just judging by the way she went about it? I think a thinking of you card wou

Heatherhah · April 2013

I agree a thinking of you card would be much better than a mothers day card maybe send it like a week or more before mothers day that way it doesn't come directly on mothers day because the day itself will I'm sure be tough on her whether she saw her b

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