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DH relocating for work while TTC, need sounding board

Maya+MoreMaya+More
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DH just shared some exciting news with me... he got a job offer that's a big step up for him.  Problem is, the city this job is located in is a 4 hour drive away. 

We're both really struggling with the thought of being apart from each other and what it means for our family and our decision to TTC. (We both have one child from previous relationships; my 2yo daughter lives with us but his 4yo son doesn't, and we would prefer the kids to be closer in age if we can help it.) 

The job is in a smallish town that neither of us want to live in long-term, and I'm happily employed here in the area's metropolitan center (where I out-earn him), so it's not an option for me to relocate too.  But if he works this job for a year or two he could then easily compete for similar opportunities here, where he's currently overshadowed by more qualified candidates.  His parents live there, so the idea was that he could live for free with them during the week while we stockpile the salary difference toward saving for a down payment on a house.  This plan seemed totally logical  -- until it became an attainable reality instead of just a distant possibility!  Haha, such is life.

Sorry this post is all over the place; I can't really share this news on FB or with our family/friends yet,but I need some help processing the situation...

I'd love to hear anyone's experience about how they managed to keep their sanity while TTC in the midst of a temporary long-distance relationship.  I feel like trying to time visits and work schedules around a possible fertile window in an already long & irregular cycle will just completely exhaust the both of us... 

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  • themrsJRDthemrsJRD member

    Eek. Well congrats to your DH on the job offer. Tough situation... personally, I am not sure how well I would handle the long-distance thing while TTC. On the one hand, you want to have your children be closer in age so it makes sense to TTC now, but o

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  • amberlockeamberlocke member
    Congrats to YH!

    We've never lived apart while TTC, but the first two years of marriage DH worked out of town.

    It was very difficult for both of us. I missed him, and had to take care of everything back home alone. He had to deal
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  • DeLovely2009DeLovely2009 member

    My DH is gone quite frequently as a part of his work. We weighed a lot of options in regards to starting a family,  but decided to wait untill we were a little more stable. He's supposedly non-deployable for a year, so we decided to start trying.

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  • beckynsean11beckynsean11 member

    1st congrats to your hubby! My DH doesn't live out of town, but he does work out of town 4-5 days a week & it's not a driveable distance. So I can sympathize for sure. I don't have any wonderful pearls of wisdom. It's really hard to be apart when y


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  • Maya+MoreMaya+More
    Thanks everyone for your thoughtful responses. I think part of what makes this so difficult is the fact that I was a single parent before. So I know exactly what it feels like to not have childcare options, never get caught up on housework, be stressed
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