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Am I being unreasonable??

So...my babysitter's van was sideswiped by a semi. My son wasn't in the van at the time, but his car seat was. She was sideswiped on the driver's side. The car seat is on that side. I won't let her take my son until I have proof that the car seat and van are safe. She keeps arguing with me. "It's just body damage" and "The car seat wasn't touched" and "It's not a big deal." I am refusing to let her drive anywhere with my son. If she wants to endanger herself, that's fine, but I'm overly protective of my son.

Thoughts??

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Re: Am I being unreasonable??

  • Are you offering to replace the car seat?

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  • I'm pretty certain that if a carseat is in an accident it needs to be replaced.  The insurance company should pay for that.
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  • I guess it would depend on how bad the damage was. Like, what were the relative speeds?

    Also, what does she need to do to prove the car and seat are safe?


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  • I have a spare, but she insisted on buying her own. She can use the spare if she gets the van checked out and it's ok. She doesn't want to use the spare. She insists that the car seat is fine. Ugh...
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  • imageRondackHiker:
    I guess it would depend on how bad the damage was. Like, what were the relative speeds? Also, what does she need
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  • If the carseat was in the car then it needs to be replaced! As long as you're not asking her to cover that cost then I don't know why she'd be resistant....
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  • imagestartingover10423:
    I have a spare, but she insisted on buying her own. She can use the spare if she gets the van checked out and it


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  • Can you call the car seat manufacturer to find out for yourself?

    Do you trust her not to drive without permission?


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  • I have told her not to drive anywhere until the van is fixed and the car seat is replaced. I told her when the van is fixed, she can use the spare. She claims she didn't see the semi because of construction. Still...? She better not go anywhere without pe
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    The insurance company will replace any carseats in her vehicle at the time of the accident and will include that
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  • The National Highway Traffic Safety Administration (NHTSA) recommends:

    1. Replacing child safety seats following a moderate or severe crash to ensure a continued high level of crash protection for child passengers.
    2. Child s

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  • Could she have a concussion? The headache made me wonder.

    Talking later is fine, as long as you stick to your guns and she doesn't drive today.

    When did it happen? If she's not acting normal and it was this morning, I'd worry abo


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  • Is she watching your kid right now??? If you have to even be worried that she's still drive your child somewhere after you explicitly told her she couldn't then that is a big issue. You should be able to trust her to follow the rules that you've given for
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    • NHTSA recommends that child safety seats be replaced following a moderate or severe crash in order to ensure a continued high level of crash protection for child passengers.

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  • car seat should be replaced.

    you should offer to replace it.

    insurance company should reimburse if car seat is purchased.

    unsure why she doesn't want to replace it?

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    The National Highway Traffic Safety Administration (NHTSA) recommends:

    1. Replacing child safety seats f
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  • The accident was yesterday. She is a very emotional person. She said she was fine, she didn't get injured. She is frazzled. She likes control, that's the part that bothers me. I'm just really annoyed that she is arguing. I think I will look for another

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  • What kind of guilt trip can she pull? "It's so hard not to put the kid in danger, boo hoo hoo!"?


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    What kind of guilt trip can she pull? "It's so hard not to put the kid in danger, boo hoo hoo!"?
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  • If you're providing the car seat there's no reason she should use the old one.

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  • Am I thinking of someone else, or is this the same nanny that got caught smoking?

    I would just tell her how it is and if she doesn't like it then she is out of a job

    . I don't know why she wouldn't just take your spare?

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    I'm pretty certain that if a carseat is in an accident it needs to be replaced.  The insurance company should


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  • I'd get a new sitter at this point too.
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    Am I thinking of someone else, or is this the same nanny that got caught smoking?

    I would just tell her how it i

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  • I don't know about the smoking thing, but I did kick the teenager out because she wasn't taking care of my son the way I wanted.

    I talked to the babysitter on lunch. I told her that she needs to stand up to her insurance agent and tell them the

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    I'd get a new sitter at this point too.

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    I don't know about the smoking thing, but I did kick the teenager out because she wasn't taking care of my

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  • There have been other instances. She wouldn't help Bug get dressed. He had his arm stuck at a really awkward angle and she wouldn't help him. She kept telling him, "You know how to do it. Quit playing dumb." She was on probation after that one, which foll
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  • I've changed my mind.

    She should be running from you and your husband like the plague. 

     

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  • imageScout2005:

    Eh, if I'm paying you to watch my kid, and I tell you I don't want you using a car seat, there is zero argument. It

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  • Not at all, but the babysitter isn't he only jerk in this situation.  Not by a longshot.  Being employed by someone who will swear at you? No bueno. 

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  • imageScout2005:

    Eh, if I'm paying you to watch my kid, and I tell you I don't want you using a car seat, there is zero argument.

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