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How to handle getting in trouble at school?

LSU628LSU628 member
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I'm not sure what is going on with my DD. Twice this week she has gotten in trouble and had notes sent home from her teacher. The first time she was removed from circle time for kicking another student in the mouth (she claims he was telling her a secret and she didn't like it). We talked about being nice to our friends, yelling stop or telling a teacher if someone is bothering you. Yesterday she was sent to the office. She elbowed another child in the arm. The child had gotten a shot there the day before and when Grace elbowed her the child started crying and was really hurt. I"m not sure if Grace knew the little girl had received a shot, but either way she shouldn't be hurting other children. It really surprises and confuses my DH and I. Grace has never been physical with any other children in our family or friends circle, even when they are rough with her.  DH thinks we should punish her at home for getting in trouble at school. Both days she wasn't allowed to watch any tv, play with our phones or her Leap pad when we got home, but a part of me wonders if she should be punished again since she already received a consequence at school. I also feel like my DH and I should go to have a conference with her teachers. I wonder if it's a classwide problem (not that it excuses DD from her behaviors) but I'm just trying to figure out where this more aggressive behavior is coming from and why it is peaking now when she hasn't been in trouble all year (with the rare exception of a time out for running inside)? If you've made it this long, how would you handle things in your home? Do you punish again at home for bad behaviors at school?
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  • LoveEeyoreLoveEeyore member
    If it breaks one of our family rules (Kind hands.  Kind feet. Kind words.)  Then absolutely.  I am very laid back about everything.  But if someone puts a hand on my kids I go all Mama-lion.  My kid has the right to be safe at sch
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  • LoveEeyoreLoveEeyore member

    their.  not there.  their.  ugh.

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  • shopgirl78shopgirl78 member

    Last year my son had a rough, rough year.  He was in PreK3 but his birthday is just after the 9/1cutoff and he was 4 throughout the year, also he has 3 close friends from daycare in the class with him.  They were very comfortable with each ot


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  • bakerlmbakerlm member
    Butting in... From a teacher's side, you have to back school up now or you will have problems when they are older.  It is great you are showing how home and school are connected and have the same ground rules.
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  • NerdyMama2NerdyMama2 member

    imagebakerlm:
    Butting in... From a teacher's side, you have to back school up now or you will have problems when they are older. &n
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  • jk43008jk43008
    I just want to second the previous poster who said that you must reinforce at home why happens at school. They should be directly related so your child knows that his behavior elsewhere matters to you. A teachers job is not to manage your child's behavior
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  • amberrrjadeamberrrjade member

    imagebakerlm:
    Butting in... From a teacher's side, you have to back school up now or you will have problems when they are older. &n
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  • Emilia0101Emilia0101
    At this age a serious offense like hitting, etc would be addressed at home. If my child was on the receiving end at school I would hope the parents were taking it seriously at home. 
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  • zoieglowzoieglow member

    My son absolutely gets punished at home when he misbehaves at school. No TV, early bedtime and no desert. But I think what is most effective about us punishing him is how ashamed he feels with our disappointment and disapproval. We don't yell but

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  • LSU628LSU628 member
    Thanks for all of the feedback. I did go in and speak to DD's teachers with her present. I told them that if she gets in trouble at school, she also gets in trouble at home. Her behavior was much better yesterday and she was really proud that there were n
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  • macchiattomacchiatto member

    I have wrestled with this. My boys started preschool last January and had a great semester. Rave reviews about their behavior; one got two TOs all semester while the other got none. This year, from week 1 I was getting negative reports. I honestly thin

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  • macchiattomacchiatto member
    And LSU, I think that's a good plan. Positive reinforcement is usually more effective anyway.
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  • kreeper611kreeper611 member

    If DS does something like this at school, we punish him at home. Both DH and I talk to him about why it was wrong and then there are consequences.

    DS is not an aggressive kid, however about a month ago he s

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