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Painful sex........

HanaLouiseHanaLouise member
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So, pregnancy emotional craziness aside, I am feeling really sexually incompetent at the moment. All of my friends, mom, siblings, anyone I happen to talk to always talks about how sex got so much better for them during pregnancy.

My husband and I were both virgins when we got married, and it took us a while to get the hang of sex (well... it took ME a while, haha). Just when it got better, WHAMO. Pregnant. And now I feel like all of these different hormones are provoking negative responses from my body... Like bringing the Sahara to my Down Under. And it's just so painful. And I feel so miserable. Not because of the pain, but because the hubs knows it hurts and he is being so sweet and not asking anything sexually of me through all of this and I feel like I can't give him anything in return.

Anyway, enough of the pity party. Anyone else experiencing painful sex during pregnancy? Please tell me I'm not the only one... and is there anything I can do to alleviate the pain? I have sensitive skin and most lubes make sex even more uncomfortable.

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  • MommyKristin88MommyKristin88 member

    Try using KY sensitive. That's what I have to use.

    FYI, there are other ways you can take care of him and your needs if vaginal intercourse isn't working Wink

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  • CNYBride05CNYBride05 member

    Definitely don't force it.  If it hurts, stop.

    That being said, I'd try a variety of lubes and see what works.  KY Sensitive as PP said, or Pre Seed?

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    imageMommyKristin88:

    Try using KY sensitive. That's what I have to use.

    FYI, there are other ways you can take care of him&

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  • PrimRoseMamaPrimRoseMama member

    Everyone's sex life is different during pregnancy. It is unreasonable to expect your experience will be the same. I don't think that makes you sexually incompetent. If it hurts then it hurts. There isn't a whole lot you can do about it except try more


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  • akrysl22akrysl22 member
    My diabetic educator told me yesterday that glucose can actually cause painful sex (blood thickness, getting to vital organs, etc).  I would have never have put the two together, but I would talk to your OB next time you see her about your pain.
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  • azzy1206azzy1206 member
    I feel ya I haven't had sex for about 5 months now. I feel bad for my husband. He's sometimes in the mood but I always turn him down...
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