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Re: S/O Child Support

  • fellesferiefellesferie member

    I'm a SAHM. DH & I take vacations every year. I get my nails done. I do only get my hair done 2x a year because it's long and straight and just low maintenance. 

    Oh, I also have nicer clothes than DS. I would never spend $200 on jeans fo

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    AE, even then its a miserable way of living. I cannot imagine that at my age I would have to live under my parents roof, sort of live within their rules, etc. Imagine knowing that anytime you have disagreements, they can tell you to shut it and that its t
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  • michelleonthecoastmichelleonthecoast member

    I've been on both sides of the issue.  I'm on the receiving end of child support and also the paying end for SK's.

    I've always worked and paid most of my own expenses, although CS has been instrumental in contributing to the household to hel

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  • cole2144cole2144 member

     mom2one:

    "Do DH and BM make exactly the same amount of money"

    No they don`t and that should not be my problem. She chose to drop out of college while my husband chose to work his off to graduate magna *** laude. He should not be

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    "Do DH and BM make exactly the same amount of money"

    No they don`t and that should n

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  • fellesferiefellesferie member

    Equality (ie, 50/50) and fairness are not the same thing. They can be the same but are not by definition the same.

    In CS situations, the court determines what's fair. If an NCP makes, let's say, 75% of the combined (BF+BM) income, there is nothin

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    Equality (ie, 50/50) and fairness are not the same thing. They can be the same but are not by definition the same

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    Equality (ie, 50/50) and fairness are not the same thing. They can be the same but are not by definition the same

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    Question, (and this is not intended to be snarky at all, but I am curious and don't know about the process) if

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    I don`t agree that in a 50-50 custody situation one parent should pay more than the other. If BM in our situatio

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    IMO the system is flawed for sure but I think it is ridiculous for people to say that if they have 50-50, the parent

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  • IfMamaAintHappyIfMamaAintHappy member
    I would like to clarify my earlier comments in this thread and the other one are indeed specifically directed at my BM and were intended to commiserate with OP who apparently has an equally selfish BM. If my BM was able to care for her own children in the

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    If Mama Aint....your BM sounds like the one here.  DH volunteered to pay spousal as well, because BM quit her job when they seperated and he was worried about the kids.  Until the decree was final (a couple years) he gave her 80% of his paych

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    I think that what some miss in this calculation is that BOTH parents are responsible for supporting the

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    My point is I know what it costs to raise SD in our home (we have her 50 percent of the time) so BM can`t BS me

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  • nattyncbridenattyncbride member
    I usually agree with Cole, but I don't here.  We are 50/50.  I pay 67% b/c I make more money.  We both have post-graduate degrees (me: Masters, him: Ph.D), but in his field, he could never make as much as I do.  I personally
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