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Cold feet

leamideleamide member
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I have always thought about having kids, but I'm starting to get cold feet! I am just scared to death about getting pregnant and having a baby. I'm not sure why either, I have had a lot of friends that have had babies and have seen what happens. I'm just not sure of all the changes that come with having a baby, from your body, to life in general. (not that we have a very exciting life as it is..lol).

I have talked to my DH about having a baby and I know he would be excited and a great Dad, but I just fear being up in the middle of the night, not being able to just get up an go, having to take the baby to and from daycare, etc. DH has said that I'd be the one "doing everything" for the first couple months and that just doesn't appeal to me.

How can I calm my nerves and get rid of my cold feet?

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  • bglovesbabykbglovesbabyk member
    You will NEVER look back and regret having a child. You WILL regret not having one. What else are you doing with your time that could be as rewarding as seeing and raising a life you created?
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  • Leothelion2013Leothelion2013 member
    I love your response.... I know in my heart you are right! I am 40 years old and was scared to death when I found out that I was pregnant. I have come to determine that having this child will keep me young at heart and the the rewards of raising my baby a
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  • danieleandwaynedanieleandwayne member
    Just one question-- why does your DH say that you will be doing pretty much everything the first couple of months?!? MH is very impatient to meet the LO, since he doesn't get to interact much with it yet and he can't wait to hold it and love it and help r
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  • msualum96msualum96 member

    I NEVER thought I'd have kids, didn't really have a maternal instinct and once I turned 36 thought my "ship had sailed" anyway.  Then I met a great guy, we talked about it, and about 2 minutes later, I was pg!  It is A HUUUUUUGE change, and i

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  • surpriseadditionsurpriseaddition member

    Even if you breastfeed, DH can still (and should be) involved from day one!  My DH would get up during the night, get the baby, bring him/her to me and change the diaper. Yes, he was stuck more on diaper duty...but he didn't mind.  If yo


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  • kristenndkristennd member

    Well actually some (it's a small number, but still) people do regret having children. That's a situation in my own family. And it's sad too. Especially for the kids. So do be sure.

    But the big red flag here for me, as with the others, is your DH.

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  • technigirltechnigirl

    I think everyone has cold feet when it comes to a change as big as having kids!  It took me several years to get up the guts to do it after I got married lol.  That said, as PPs have noted, your DH's comment is concerning.  He needs to b

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  • kje120kje120 member

    Having a child is a HUGE life change.  It is also the most rewarding thing I have ever done and I don't regret that it has changed our lifestyle one bit.

    That being said, there are people who regret having children and cannot adjust t

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    imageleamide:

    I have always thought about having kids, but I'm starting to get cold feet! I am just scared to death about gettin

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