Sometimes it's hard

Bubba1126 · April 2013

Hi ladies, this is long but everyone should read..
As a first time pregnant women, sometimes I feel like I know too much. I have anxiety and depression with obsessive thoughts and I am currently coming off medicine bc I'm pregnant. Having OCD has made me research every little thing... As some of my friends are trying to get pregnant I notice I know way more than them.. Therefore I worry more. I really wish I could be naive and oblivious!! But that's not my personality. I must know what my body may go through.

My point is I have had a hard time reading about cp's , early miscarriages, blighted ovums, progesterone levels and low hcg levels. I would not know about these things if I didn't read them. I mean no disrespect about ppl who post bc I get why we are a part of these communities. But it's very hard for a first timer to read. My friends don't even know what I'm talking about when I tell them what I'm scared of... a blighted ovum? That's just a cruel joke! We shouldn't have to deal with the stuff our bodies put us through. I am so sorry these things happen.

Anyway I guess I wanted u to know that sometimes I dunno if I can read all these things.. I understand when someone is scared they reach out.. That's one thing.. But I feel so heartbroken when I see a bad update and think what if that happens to me?

To stay or not to stay? How do u guys think positively when u see loses posted.?

Please understand I'm not saying they shouldn't post I'm saying I dunno if I should read
Thanks for listening and I'm just looking out for my mental health. Hope I didn't offend anyone.

Unknown · April 2013

As a fellow first timer I have to say I completely agree with you. These blogs have been a blessing and a curse. It's definitely hard some times and usually I find that most of the time after spending time reading through them I am just saddened. I do thi

Bubba1126 · April 2013

Ps I tried to be very sensitive while explaining this bc I've seen ppl get attacked for the things they say. Trust me I pray every time I read someone's loss. I don't wanna be sheltered or closed off and not enjoy these communities. I dunno how to sit bac

Bubba1126 · April 2013

I'm sure if I had to go through something like that I would appreciate those boards too. I know it's not always going to be rainbows. I just think there's so much that the typical person who doesn't join these forums knows nothing about. But ur right, I'm

anbwoodring · April 2013

I can understand your fears in how learning all the information can be scary and create anxiety. I know I've read a few posts as thought to myself how sad it is and how I feel for the person writing it..but I also love the happy posts that we can share in

Bubba1126 · April 2013

That's a good idea to take a break and come back and after I posted I thought well if god forbid something happens or sares me I kno u ladies will help. I guess more than saying I wish I didn't have to read these this, I wish these things wouldn't HAPPEN

Bubba1126 · April 2013

Before I got pregnant I didn't know some of these thing existed

missesru · April 2013

I don't get your first sentence... "This is long but everyone should read".

Why should everyone read this? I'm confused.

Bubba1126 · April 2013

Not working with a counselor at the time. Just my primary doc to decrease the meds. I know I'm a worry wort to begin with... It's just the extra info makes me have new worries. Things I never thought we're even common

Bubba1126 · April 2013

I wanted ppl to understand me and hear me out and it was a long post. Plus I figured it would show the thoughts of first timers vs the thoughts of ppl who have loses

missesru · April 2013

Bubba1126:
I wanted ppl to understand me and hear me out and it was a long post. Plus I figured it would show the thoughts of

melissa721 · April 2013

Someone else losing a baby doesn't up your chances of you losing yours. Accept the statistics and make peace with the fact that you're either going to stay pregnant or you're not. Miscarriages happen. If knowing about them gives you anxiety, step away fro

Bubba1126 · April 2013

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NReamer · April 2013

Take a break. Come back... God willing... After the first trimester if you need support. There will be considerably less loss posts as more November mommies progress in their pregnancy. I'm probably just as OCD as you... I've read 5 books on pregnancy/fe

melissa721 · April 2013

Bubba1126:
I wanted ppl to understand me and hear me out and it was a long post. Plus I figured it would show the thoughts of

Bubba1126 · April 2013

melissa721:
Someone else losing a baby doesn't up your chances of you losing yours. Accept the statistics and make peace with the f

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Bubba1126 · April 2013

NReamer:
Take a break. Come back... God willing... After the first trimester if you need support. There will be considerably less l

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Magriet · April 2013

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Bubba1126 · April 2013

estreyas:
Yesterday was the EDD for the baby I lost. It was my first pregnancy. Yesterday sucked. I have a little Pandora charm "fo

Dragonlily252 · April 2013

I just wanted to let you know I am a first timer too and even though I know how common miscarriages are it's hard for me to read about real suffering too. I am also uncomfortable because I don't know what to say except how sorry i am.

Sometimes i feel

Bubba1126 · April 2013

Dragonlily252:
I just wanted to let you know I am a first timer too and even though I know how common miscarriages are it's hard fo

melissa721 · April 2013

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purpleflower · April 2013

As someone who has been through this I say if you don't want to read about it then just skip that post. I found that the post I made in the past about my m/c and CP made me feel like I had support from ladies during that very rough time. It is hard to rea

tcoolumd · April 2013

Bubba1126:
Not working with a counselor at the time. Just my primary doc to decrease the meds. I know I'm a worry wort to begi

NohNah · April 2013

For me, it actually helps to be aware of everything that can go wrong....as in, the fear of the unknown is worse than knowing what can happen. There will be a lot of posts about M/C this early on in pregnancy. But the odds are greatly in your favo

artistlife · April 2013

I want to add another perspective for you Bubba.

Do you not think it is hard for the PgAL ladies to read all the innocently ingnorant posts of first timers? I had a chemical pregnancy back in 06, that I was never really allowed to grieve. I

porterlove525 · April 2013

I agree with the other ladies, being a part of a board and choosing what you read and don't read is up to you. It's a completely personal decision and you have to do what you feel is right. I understand your fears, I had never known anyone in my close cir

Bubba1126 · April 2013

gardennymph:
I want to add another perspective for you Bubba.Do you not think it is hard for the PgAL ladies to read all the innoce

Bubba1126 · April 2013

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Bubba1126 · April 2013

NohNah:
For me, it actually helps to be aware of everything that can go wrong....as in, thenbsp;fear of the unknown is worse than k

SharonB222 · April 2013

I am no stranger to pg loss, and have requested and offered lots of support over the years, but even I take a break sometimes. I pick and choose posts in any case, asides from m/c posts I can only read so many morning sickness post

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