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Dumb fear?

So, on my BMB, we have Flame Free Friday Confessions. Mine yesterday was "I am worried that I will love one twin more than the other"

I got one person saying "oh I was worried when my second came but it wasn't a problem."  

 

But I am still genuinely worried. I know that parents have favorites when kids get older... almost everyone I know can say "oh I was Mom's favorite" etc.  

Eat your food people. You are pregnant, not made of glass. ~PrimRoseMama
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Re: Dumb fear?

  • I dont think I actually love one over the other, but it took me longer to connect with Sidney.  Also, Spencers smile does something to my heart that the girls dont, but that could be a boy thing....  But I know that fear and in the beginning

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    And with the delivery trifecra of one twin vaginal, one c-section with general anesthesia for twin B, Spencer and Sidney joined us at 35 weeks exactly on June 18.

  • You will love each of your children for each of their special qualities but i dont believe you will love one more than the other. There are so many things I could list about Lex and Colt but this would get extremely lenghty but here are the sweet thing

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    I dont think I actually love one over the other, but it took me longer to connect with Sidney.  Also, Spencers sm

    Eat your food people. You are pregnant, not made of glass. ~PrimRoseMama
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  • Impossible! God your mothers instinct will kick on and there's no stopping the love you will feel! What was hardest was getting over the fact you give one more attention like my son had colic so he needed me more. I felt guilt but then it balances out and
  • Not a dumb fear at all! If your house is anything like mine was in the beginning, you'll spend a lot of time fixing one baby's problem and feel your neglecting the others. However, the other baby will have a problem soon enough that you'll tend too so it
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  • In the first few weeks you will bond more with one then the other. it may be the happier one or crankier one... But then it will switch. You may not feel the "love" that everyone talks abt the first day, or even the first week. But you will. You
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  • I have five and I can promise you, they're ALL my favorites. I never knew why my mom said that until I had so many. Each baby is is amazing, adorable little genius! Each of the girls is SO different and crazy - I love them all so differently. With the boy
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  • I love my boys equally, but we have different relationships and I have "favorites" based on stages they are in.  My youngest is super easy going so he's just really easy and fun to take care of.  My oldest is more independent and verbal because
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  • I love them differently. I love Will for his sweet, shy smile, his crazy hair, the way he loves to snuggle. I love Andrew for his huge, gummy grin, happy disposition, and how he loves to be bounced and tossed around. I go through phases of feeling "closer
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  • I don't think that's dumb.  But I don't think you need to worry either :-)  I nannied for twins (which is obvi different from having my own) and they were such different kiddos, I loved them both and was able to appreciate different strengths

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  • I think it's a legit concern that many parents have. I've heard plenty of people say platitudes like, "Oh, you'll have more than enough love to go around" or whatever ... that said, some parents really do struggle with this. Some kids have more challen

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  • Not dumb at all. Being a FTM, I wonder how it will be for me. I'm sure we will love them both to pieces! 
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    And with the delivery trifecra of one twin vaginal, one c-section with general anesthesia for twin B, Spencer and Sidney joined us at 35 weeks exactly on June 18.

  • I think it is a totally normal fear.  I keep worrying that the twins will need so much attention that I won't be able to give enough time to my one year old.  I have already planned that when family comes to help for a couple hours here and

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  • Thank you everyone. I don't know where all my "worst case scenarios" keep coming from. I was an optimist before pregnancy.
    Eat your food people. You are pregnant, not made of glass. ~PrimRoseMama
    The Benes Boys were born 9/3/13! woooo
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